Strippers??

Future.Mrs.Shawty

So, a girl on my month board discovered that her FI is having a stripper at his bach party.  And she's pissed.So I wondered what you all thought?  (Just out of curiosity)I, personally, don't "care"  I care to the point where if I was given the option, I say no to them for his party....but it's not my party and boys will be boys right?  FI isn't the stripper type either...not that he doesn't enjoy a good set of boobs in his face...what man wouldn't??And - I think I am having a stripper at mine....only because it's soooo funny.  And I expect that if FI does find out, he shouldn't be worried about it....just as I shouldn't be worried if he has one.What about you girls?

pinkstripe

My FI also isn't the stripper type, but at the same time, I wouldn't be worried if he did have one, I TRUST him. I personally don't want one, but to each their own. I think the reason I am not too fond of them is because we had one for my cousins bachelorette party and he is disgusting and wouldn't leave and it just turned me away from the idea of it.

AshLynn2886

Me personally... I think it is the most ridiculus "right of passage" ever.  This is just my opinion but I don't want my FI to have one at his b-party and I feel it is disrespectful to who you are about to marry.  I guess after my brother in laws b-party earlier this summer it left a bad taste in my mouth.  The boys ended up with bruises on their butts from paddles and the groom had the strippers names written in permanent marker on his butt.  In a different aspect I think there is a double standard, I think girls that have strippers take it more as a joke/funny and for guys I feel like its more sexual.  I don't know this is just my opinion.  We are all entitled to one.

mandi1184

I could care less.  I know FI loves me and finds me attractive.  He's not into the strippers, but the boys had one at his bachelor party and it doesn't bother me at all.  Its a silly tradition, but that's all.  I find it soooooo ridiculous when girls get so upset about a stripper.  Its not like the guys really take her seriously anyway.  If your FI goes the strip club every other weekend and blows a ton of money on strippers......then you can be upset.

jeremy.teresa

I trust FI, but I still don't want him to have one.  All of the people involved know that he isn't into them, either, and he would be the kind of guy that gets up and leaves if someone did have one there.

mrsschroeder1

Apparently our bridal party is throwing us both parties. The best man and 1 groomsmen keep saying they are getting a party bus where the strippers go with them all night...At first I was a little upset but I started thinking, WHO CARES! It's not like DF is going home with them. We'll be coming home to each other after a long night!Plus, DF doesn't really like strippers, he thinks they are dirty! LOL

Debbydew

My FI isn't really into the strip club thing, but the boys attending his party are (wedding isn't for another year, and his best man has already begun the planning)! And I think it would be good for him to have some guy time with some half naked ladies. I'm encouraging him to go for it. They are gonna do a wild and crazy party one night, and a laid back pizza/beer/video game fest another night. Plus, I want strippers for the funny factor as well! What's funnier than a man thong? We trust each other, so it's a nonissue.

arrichard

So this has been a discussion that I have had with a few people lately. I personally dont "care" if my FI has a stripper. I believe that he and his friends should really enjoy that night. I have heard what some men do at these parties but I quess thats where the trust comes in at. As long as he knows to keep his thing in his pants we are cool. I will probably have a stripper at my party and not because I really enjoy them but like Mrs Shawty said because they are funny and that night should be really fun.  

Emily2me

I agree with most of you, that I trust my FI and to be honest it doesn't bother me at all. I know that my FI isn't into strippers at all. He had his bachelor party last weekend in Nashville and around 2am, the 20 guys that were with the bachelor party stumbled into a strip club there. When my FI told me about it, I personally thought it was hilarious. He had some funny stories, and with 20 guys how could there not be funny stories? I think the other guys enjoyed it more than him, but I didn't think twice about it when I found out. If your FI is honest about it and the situation, I don't think it's a terrible thing. Just my opinion.

sandmamm

I dont really care either. I think the guys think it is just as funny as the girls do. I would prefer him to go to a strip-club instead of having a private stripper though! I just feel like those nasty girls prob try crazy stuff in a private residence that isn't allowed in a club. But, whatever, I am not too concerned that he will fall in love with some nasty-looking stripper and leave me! I think if you have a trustworthy relationship there is nothing to worry about.

kelklump

I could care less about a stripper. My fiance went to Racers as part of his party. I think hearing the stories were hilarious. If you are comfortable with your relationship, you should be fine with it. I can understand if you dont, however, he is coming home with you not with them.

EABinkholder

Ah, let the men have one last good look before they're married away! : ) Now, if they are frequenting the strip clubs, that's another story....

kris10michelle

I guess I am of the minority, and I am extremely uncomfortable with the idea of FI having a stripper at his bachelor party. I dont want one. I dont even really want a bachelorette party. I'd rather just have friends get together and hang out. I guess because growing up it wasn't something that was done or thought appropriate by my parents. So, just from my point of view, I don't see why they are necessary. Especially with my fiance who graduated from a bible college, and most of his friends who are students at the same school. We aren't big partiers or club goers, so it seems out of place for us to want to do that now.Fiance was talking about going camping for a bachelor party, and just hanging out with the guys. Sounds good to me!

aWb

Okay I am on the fence.  I know it is going to happen,  my Dad has already started to prepare me for this, but I am not okay with them having a stripper at the party.  However, I am okay with them going to a strip club.  I think they are a little more laid back in the strip club than if a private stripper is at a house.  So I don't know.  I really don't think he is having a party since his brothers are completely clueless and what for other people to do things for them. 

LES8419

I don't "care" about strippers either. I have heard stories of bachelor parties where strippers came to the home and the activities were absolutely not something I would ever condone - but I also know FI wouldn't either. He has walked out of a party due to things like that. He knows and respects the boundary lines, same as I would. If his buddies choose to go the stripper route though, I am not afraid to make very clear the rule - sit on your hands and keep your mouth to yourself. I understand why some people are uncomfortable, and ultimately I think that it is a good little discussion to have so no one is made unnecessarily angry or uncomfortable. Also, I agree with previous posters that male strippers are hilarious. I have a friend who hired a stripper for her best friends bachelorette - and the stripper who arrived WAS NOT the stripper they hired. This guy was in his late thirties/early forties with a gut (not the twenty-something they had hired with the washboard abs) and to make it WORSE - his daughter was waiting in the car! They told him to forget it.

LES8419

And I would agree that if they want to see strippers, they should probably just go to a strip club, rather than have them to the house - and that opinion is based solely on stories I have heard.

blueeyegurl82

My FI is also not into slippers but I know for a fact that my future brother in-law will have a stripper at the house, which is totally fine with me. As said before I rather them have a private stripper one they have a body guard and NOTHING is going to happen, two they usually arent as nasty and touchy as a strip club. We have already talked about it and I feel very comfortable with it, why shouldnt he have a nice night with the boys. I know he loves me and wouldnt do anything to disrespect me in anyway! I get a little annoyed when I hear women getting mad and ordering their FI or SO home cause they arent allowed to go... that shows lack of trust, sorry but it does =( Now girls whats the difference in us going to a club and letting guys hit on us all night buying us shots and grinding on them??? Same difference right just with cloths?! I have heard girls doing way worse things then what guys do with a stripper... thats just my thoughts!

amy5542

FI is also not the stripper kind of guy. His bestman did have 2 strippers at his bachelor party. There was about 75-100 guys at his party. They played volleyball and cornhole during the day had a pig roast and strippers at night. They had a BLAST and it did not bother me at all! I did not have a stripper for my party and was perfectly fine with that. We had 30 girls on a "party bus" and went bar hopping . It was a great time for all. I think as long as you trust each other everything will be fine!!

mrswalters515

I dont care too much. My fiance is shy about that kind of stuff and I think would prefer not to have but of course his buddies want one and want to piss me off about it so I think just not letting it bother me is the only way i can win. He went to his cousins fiances b party and even left for the stripper part to be polite to me. He earned major points there.

Future.Mrs.Shawty

Well, no one said she didn't have a RIGHT to be upset about it.  I believe everyone is entitled to their own views on the subject.  I just wondered all of you girls.  That's all.

getitdone

Honestly this is my favorite topic amongst brides. I have been married for 4 years and been with my DH for almost 9 years. In that time he has been to many many bachelor parties and I think every single one has had a stripper. It didn't bother me before we were married and it doesn't bother me now that we are married. DH and I have what I call "Life rules". The first one that applies to bachelor parties is No Money In The Mouth. This is something many strippers try to get men to do. Money is filthy so it should not be put in the mouth ever. The second rule applies to both bachelor and bachelorette parties - full disclosure. As soon as we get home we tell each other what happened at the parties. You know how it gets when you get groups of people together - rumors or embellished stories can get out of hand. By having full disclosure - we will know what is true and what is false, when we talk with other guys from the bachelor party. Just my suggestion.

HyperChicaPR

I don't think the whole stripper debate is about if you trust your FI or not. I think it's a respect thing. When it's brought up as the "last night of freedom" type of thing, I think it's crazy. Just because you aren't married doesn't mean you are single. My FI and I aren't the stripper type and neither one plan to have them. I find the idea of a naked girl touching him repulsive and he feels the same. We are taking the bridal party out together to Dave and Busters to have a fun night without all the disrespect.If you and your FI are both ok with the idea then more power to you and I see no problem with it!

annabananarobslob

Yuck! I think it is nasty, and I believe that some might even call it sin. It is said that looking on a woman in lust is as bad as doing the deed for real with her, in his mind and in mine to. I would feel cheated on, and dirty. To each his/her own, right?