Vendors... (vent... kinda)

babybchbum

Have you all been bombarded with phone calls from vendors and what not since trying on dresses at DB? I'm getting really irritated with DB selling my information.

Also, have any of you dealt with Vendors e-mailing you telling you that they recieved another offr for your same wedding date but waiting on you to make a decision? I was under the assumption vendors were first come first serve in the fact that who ever signed the contract with them first go them for that date.


Maybe it is just the stress of group projects and school right now compunding with the stresses of planning from afar. I just wish my parents(mom specifically) would let me sign contracts with vendors I'm comfortable with and have already contacted with out her haviong to sit down and talk to them. I'm going over the contracts with a fine tooth comb and if I'm paying a large portion of their fees shouldn't that be enough to let me make decisions for MY DAY. ( I know I sound like a brat... I'm sorry but this how I feel at the moment, I'm sure after I relax a little my mind will clear from this smog and it will be much better)

cmeyer3946

I got bombarded by emails because I signed up for people to contact me during a bridal expo.  Big mistake.  I do remember going into DB and them asking if it was OK for vendors to contact me.  I told them not to bother because my wedding wasn't around the area I live.  I would call DB immediately and ask that your name be taken off the list for vendors to contact you. 

Yes I've had vendors email me about another person asking for the date before I've signed the contract.  Since they quoted you first, they will give you the courtesy of emailing before booking  another bride from under you.  If you are not ready to sign, you will have to tell them that.

Your mom sits down to talk with all your vendors?  Girl, that would drive me to the brink of insanity too!!  I'm sorry about that!  I email my mother their information and ask her her opinion but that's it.  Maybe you should talk to your mother about this.  Is she doing the negotiating for you? 

TTnoles

Yes, I did also get bombarded with DB emails and calls...i had to have them take me off the list.  They are very INTENSE!

I think vendors offer it as a courtesy and also because they want to lock you in.  IF they think you are holding off they may tell you someone else wants your date as a way to pressure you into putting down a deposit.

I say if you are comfortable with the vendors just go with it

corstink

I had a vendor call me about two weeks before the wedding asking me if I was still interested in their photo services...i was like I only contacted three photographers and you weren't one of them. And I booked my photographer over a year ago.

It is very annoying that these companies sell your information.

babybchbum

No mom isn't doing any of the negotiating and yes she talks to everyone, and when we go to actually sign the contract dad is in tow. I understand that they are paying for parts of the wedding (specifically location and caterer) so they should have a large say in those areas as well as the guest list. but If I am paying 1/2 if not more for the other portions of my wedding I should just sign the contract.

I need to call DB soon then because it is driving me up the wall.

Melis1273

OMG!  I really thought I was the only one...it was like I sold my soul to them!  Emails, calls (oh you won this..that..never entered it!) My FI was like this is ridiculous.  I had to tell the vendors to stop calling and I did call and complain to DB, but not sure that did anything.  Thanks for letting me vent too!  

HappyMrsK

Yes, I hate DB. Although I don't remember ever being asked if I wanted my info sent to venders. But since my wedding date, I havn't been getting emails, so hopefully they will stop now. I didn't get a lot of phone calls though, thankfully.

babybchbum

I'm getting everything under the sun. They never asked me if they could pass on my information so that is what started my rant. ugh can't wait for this week t be over. Hopefully some of this stress will be gone.

Angie.Lapkov

I don't mean to sound ignorant, but what is DB?

lprouten

DB~ davids bridal, I'm guessing. 

I know you have 6 months but it will go fast. If you find vendors you love and are comfortable with I would sign contracts. The last thing you would want is to miss out and be looking last minute.
 
I contacted lots of vendors to begin with and they let me know they hold your date for X amount of time while you think about it. I wouldn't expect someone to hold my date to long if I didn't give them a deposit or were in some sort of constant contact with them. 

GL

Brandles17

Thanks for posting this. I am going to try on dresses at DB next Saturday and I will MAKE SURE they don't give my info to other vendors!!!!! I'm sorry you are having to deal with this.

Jennifer.Matthew.wedding

To save on some of my stressed with these people emailing me to a ton of stuff I created a wedding email and that is the one I gave out to vender etc.  That way if i didn't want to deal with wedding stuff I didn't open that email.