Most fustrating day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mooncusp22

OMG... I guess things really do come in threes

 
1-      Per my post below, I am really irritated and hurt that today I found out NONE of my 12 childhood friends (and husbands) are coming to my  wedding even though I’ve been to most of theirs

2-      Found out my dress is coming in late. Was supposed to be here this week and now not until end of August!! I will have my first fitting only 4 weeks before my wedding day!! (granted it doesn’t get pushed back again)

3-      Fiances best man said he is not coming to the wedding (he had 2 best men, so now he just has 1). The guy is a flake and I called this MONTHS ago.. I knew it!!
I have never understood why fiance keeps giving him second chances at a friendship

I hope that is it for today.

Jeni35

I am sorry that you are going through with this. Why is the dress coming in so late? We just ordered bridesmaid dresses and they would arrive right before the wedding, so I made everyone express order and ship here so I was sure to have them in hand. I stated earlier on another post that everyone may be in different circumstances in regards to traveling. I would send an invitation anyways. If you attended most of your childhood friends weddings; then at the least a gift is warranted. Let your FI deal with the flaker. Yes, it is upsetting; but is there another male relative on your side or his he could ask? Our wedding will be small anyhow; but my sis is my MOH, Fi's sis is a bridesmaid and my best friend is a bridesmaid as well. My brother is Fi's Best Man.

cmeyer3946

oh dear. 

today is not your day, I'm sorry.  the dress thing will be OK, I promise.  I would be very hurt if ALL my childhood friends weren't coming and none of them bothered to rsvp.  Are you close to them now still?

i am truly sorry about your FI's best man, what is the problem?

mooncusp22

1-      Of my childhood friends, we keep in touch often via email, facebook and whoever else’s wedding or shower. I don’t get to see people often due to the distances that we live now. But, as I said, I’ve always traveled for their weddings. A lot of them still live in NY, where we grew up. My friends where I live now (have known them 4 years at most) are making the efforts and also have to fly since we live in MD.

2-      My dress. Not sure why it is taking so long, I ordered it first week of March so I know I was cutting it close then. They told me not to worry and they will see to it that the alterations are done in time. Makes me feel better, but I’ve waited for what feels like forever and I want to try it on again!!!

3-      Best Man: He is a 35 year, most irresponsible person I’ve ever met. Can’t tell you how many times he’s been arrested for stupid stuff like expired tags, no car insurance, etc. He even asked my fiancé last year to trade cars with him for the week so that the impounders wouldn’t find his car because he was so behind on payments!! About 2 weeks ago his boss said that if he does not meet his sales quota he is out of a job. (second lost job in 2 years). Fiance and I offered for him to drive to FL with us, he can stay with us at my parents house and my mom was paying for a hotel room for the groomsmen for the wedding night. SO, really there should be no excuses. But, he told fiancé today “It’s not that easy, I can’t just go just for your wedding. I would have to visit my parents in Orlando and a good friend lives close by that I would want to hang out with too, and I would want to bring a guest”. He has been dating the same girl for 13 (YES THIRTEEN years). She breaks up with him all the time because of his irresponsibly with life. But, they basically act like BF/GF but she still won’t call him that. Stupid.  I don’t care if our wedding party is uneven, we will just leave it as is. I am more mad that my fiancé has not cut him out of his life by now and am hoping this is the final straw.

froussos

You had an eventful day, but you know what, its over.  I'm sorry about your friends.  Maybe they don't have the funds?  Also, I agree with the earlier post of telling your FI to deal with the best man problem.  The most important thing to remember, you will marry your FI, in any dress, & at any time b/c you love him.  That's all that matters.  Good luck.