big issue- need advice

meredithe03

Hey girls- I don't post a whole lot but I sure do linger around all the time! but I need advice on a crazy situation that unfolded this weekend. I will try to make it as short as possible.
This weekend was my bachelorette party and we had an awesome time with all my best girlfriends! I had 7 of my best friends there, my mom and my best friends mom. unfortunately my best friends mom is not very nice or friendly. She caused a major scene on Saturday night while we were at the bar-Before leaving for the night she made a comment to my SIL that "no one was going to like her by the end of the night"- and she obviously knew what she was doing. I was outside talking to some other people at the bar and she cornered me, got in my face, and told me that I was a bad friend to her daughter. (nothing happened before this, other than the fact that everyone was drinking and having a great time, except my best friend and her mom.) My best friend and her mom then left the rest of us at the bar and we had to find another ride home.

This is def. the shortened version of this story but not leaving out any major details because there wasnt any. Nothing happened before this that would have caused her to act this way. I guess my question is- how do I handle the situation? all my girls left this morning without speaking to my friend and her mom, and now my parents want to dis-invite my friends mom from the wedding. (I know this is super trashy- but I didnt want to invite her mom, g-ma, and her mom's bf in the first place)

I am kinda mad at my friend because she didnt stick up for me. I am not asking her to choose between me and her mom, but dont you think she could at least keep her mom in check at MY party? and this friend is my maid of honor- which makes this whole stituation even harder..... YIKES... how do I deal 3 weeks before the wedding?

JulieNFlo

OMG...I do not even know what to suggest.  I have no idea what I would do in you situation.  I just wish you all the luck and I am so sorry that you have to deal with this right now.  GL!!!

jen812

That's horrible!  I'm sorry she ruined your night.  Have you called your friend to ask what her side of the story is?

sara76

Wow!  Something like that would have made me sick.  It almost does just hearing about that it happened to you.  I don't know what I would do.  I know there are alot of ettiquette rules that are very important, but I do know that the main reason women become victims is because they didn't follow their instincts, so I try to listen to mine as much as possible.  Good luck and I am sending lots of good vibes your way so that you will get this figured out!!

TTnoles

I would see if you could have a heart to heart with your friend.  Just let her know how it hurt it you and see if there is another side to the story.  GL!

Bre2Be

You definitely need to talk to your friend one-on-one ASAP!  Just from the snapshot of the story it appears as though SOMETHING happened and your friend must have made a comment to her mother and she was not pleased.  The fact that she left with her mother is a silent way of agreeing with her mother's actions.  I'm sure between the drinking and the partying it would be hard to be aware of everything going on around you.  You were trying to have a good time which is exactly what you should have been doing!  It's possible that maybe one of the other girls said or did something that provoked her.  Did she help plan the party?  Typically, it is the duty of the MOH.  Maybe the mom felt like since her daughter is your MOH that you should have been spending more time with her and not outside with other friends...?  Who knows.  There could be so many "what ifs" in this situation.  Before you start retracting any invites, I think you should talk to her directly without any anger or hostility and without her mother and find out the scoop.  I'm sorry you had to go through this.  I hope you can get this ironed out soon!

meredithe03

thanks ladies!! I made a call to my friend but of course she was with her mom at the time and I asked her if we could talk when she was alone and she said that she would call me back later. I will keep you posted about everything- but I am not sure what I would do without all the words of wisdom from all you wonderful WCF Knotties!! Thanks girls... sometimes I feel like you gals are the only ones who understand...

aallenba

I'd give it once chance to talk to her about what's going on...and if she doesn't want to talk/listen then just leave it be. I wouldn't un-invite her or her mom..but I would pray and hope they don't show up.

You don't need the added stress right now, so dont' let it get to you.

annaandrj

Hope everything works out- just be honest!

Romere

Well, I would get that woman out of the picture.  That was disrespectful behavior.  Your friend didn't do it, so I guess she is ok, but that woman needs to be told not to come if she is that unhappy with you.  

jen812

Meredith- just wondering how things worked out here?  Hope you sorted everything out!