Frist Look

kevinandmonica2011

Are you doing a "first look" shoot before the ceremony??
Why or why not??

kevinandmonica2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_central-new-york_frist-look?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:621Discussion:03244fc1-0e6c-442d-ab75-6582c8e63bfdPost:95cd66c2-6eb2-4e08-aff8-40ba40627ba0">Re: Frist Look</a>:
[QUOTE]I am not. I am very traditional when it comes to this, and I want that "moment" of seeing each other when I walk through the church doors, and down the aisle.
Posted by libordke22[/QUOTE]

This is exactly what Kevin wants.  I am kind of torn and would really be happy either way.  Plus, since we will be doing most of our bride/groom pics at the vineyard, no sense in taking extra time before the ceremony (translate: I can sleep in a little longer).
I have seen some really awesome first look shots, and every time I look at them I think about how cool they are... but then again, you are totally right- there is something super special about having those church doors open and seeing your groom (and the groom seeing his bride) for the first time at that exact moment.
Priceless.

rsfan23

I'm not sure what I'm doing...I, like Kara am very traditional BUT I am planning to get most of our pictures done before hand.

I need to talk to FI about this.

mgietler76

No we aren't doing the first look, we are both very traditional in this sense. Especially my FI, he doesn't want to see me at all the day before let alone right before the ceremony LOL

ChelseaB425

I had never even considered doing a "first look" because I wanted to be traditional and see each other for the time when I was walking down the aisle.

But... I saw some of the most breathtaking pictures yesterday that were taken during a "first look" session - such love, beauty, and emotion.  Regardless of the couple, photographer or setting, I'm completely convinced you can only get pictures as intimate and beautiful as these during a "first look".

sbolger17

We're going the traditional route, but I am tempted by the fabulous first-look photos I've seen too!  It would be nice to get some pictures out of the way (our reception is essentially at the same location as our ceremony so picture time will be tight), but the FI refuses.  And even if he was game, I'm not sure what my own decision would be...

DondadaTimes2

My favorite part of any wedding is the look on the grooms face, so if I got to see that on my own I'd 100% be ok with it, but Josh is having no part of that. He wants to see me for the first time when I walk down the aisle.

However! He does want to have pictures taken where were kissing and Im covering his eyes or where we're at the corner of the building holding hands around the corner. Something fun like that...but he refuses to see me.

kkozlo2

We are doing the first look...

At first I was againt it.... I wanted that first moment at the church. My photographer spoke to the other side and really recommended. I was worried I wouldn't have that moment to share and she explained what would happened and I cried.... I think it is perfect for us. It will be an intimate moment for just the two of us to share. This really appealed to me because I tend to have anxiety. I was worried that I wouldn't be able to enjoy the moment of walking down the aisle because I would be too worried about who was looking at me, was I crying, was I making one of those awful faces, oh shit- forgot to look up front, OMG who is that... blah blah blah. This way.... I am able to focus 100% of my attention on him and I. In addition to that... We can get all our pictures done first thing.. makeup, hair fresh as can be! We are still doing family after the church but that won't take much time. Another reason for my decision was that I insist on being at our cocktail hour. My sister missed hers completely and I want that time to mingle with friends and family.... I'm hoping to say hi to a lot of people then so that I don't need to go to all the tables inside.

I think both have some positives but this was what works best for us... Either way I think couples experience a wonderful first moment.....

crystaldes1029

We did the first look and I'm so glad we did. It saved us so much time and we didn't have to rush through BP pics. We all got to have fun with them and just hang out together and not rush to the ceremony. Even though DH and I did the first look we still had that moment when i was being walked down the aisle. Plus we actually got to attend our cocktail hour and visit with all our friends and family. So worth it.

Although, I am also the type of person that HATES tradition and believes in creating our own moments without worrying if we are doing things by the book.

blakgarnet

I've been trying to get my FI to agree to do all the pics before the ceremony - I feel strongly that the bridal couple are the hosts of the event - the only people at the party that everyone knows, and that it is rude to be taking pictures when everyone is waiting for you...  but he's traditional and doesn't want to see me till walking down the aisle.

Kellyisazombie

No first look for us!  I am too excited for him to see me walk down the isle  in my dress for the first time!  To each their own though, I could see it coming in handy to save time, but it's not for us.

Play getaway

i'm glad you wrote this. 
i'm so torn myself. 

 I too love the look on the groom's face but I also would HATE missing any moment of our cocktail hour (its one of the biggest things that drew us to our venue) and think its unfair to make people wait a few hours, trying to kill time and find something to do just for us to take pictures. i've been there and didnt love it. 
FI says already that he thinks he is going to cry and i think that'd be cute to have for our first look pictures, but  everyone seeing him and i in that moment i think is also so special and sweet and something you can't duplicatre over again when i walk down the aisle.
plus, i think the moment when you have your first kiss is so special , i dont know if it'd feel as "magical" if you've been having kissing pictures the last 2 hours.

i'm so torn,  help!