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Uneven bridal party?

My FI wants to have 8 groomsmen, but I only want my 4 closest girlfriends in my bridal party.  I know there's a big non-traditional trend going on, but what's your take on it?
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Re: Uneven bridal party?

  • rsfan23rsfan23 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think it's whatever you want to do. I am having even sides, but if it was uneven, I wouldn't really care.
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  • Happily9Happily9 member
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    edited December 2011
    I totally agree....it's whatever you would like...it's your day! :)
  • edited December 2011
    I love the idea of 4/8. I personaly am havng even sides but it just kinda worked out perfect that way.

    I think if he has 8 friends that he wants to stand up beside him, thats awesome and I'd hate to make him chose if it were Josh. At the same time, if you only have 4, I dont think you should add people just to have someone there. I say go for it :)

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  • GrauGrau member
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    edited December 2011
    Uneven sides are fine. What pp mention, it would be silly for your FI to cut people who are important to him, or for you to add people just to make it even. Plus, if it does end up being 4 and 8, I am sure you can do some awesome photos with that.
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  • edited December 2011
    Agree w/ all the PPs.... pick your nearest and dearest and your Fi pick his.  If the numbers match, great.... if they don't... oh well.... at the end of the day, you will still be married, so it's really one of those non-issues that some people make into a huge dilemma.

    If you think even sides would be awkward, just think how awkward it would be for you to have to dig up 4 more random girls that you don't really want in your WP.... or try to have Fi cut out 4 of his guys.  Think how you would feel if you had 8 really awesome girls that you wanted to be in your WP and your Fi wanted you to only pick 4.

    Go with you gut and let fi do the same.
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  • sbolger17sbolger17 member
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    edited December 2011
    I voted uneven is fine, but not for me.

    We picked our BP numbers early and then after I'd already asked my girls, my FI wanted to add another guy.  I pitched a bit of a fit simply because I would have had no problem asking another close friend, but hadn't because we had agreed that 4 was a great number.  He backed down and that friend is doing a reading instead.

    If your FI really has 8 guys that he feels need to be in it, go for it.  But in my head, 8 seems like a lot.  Just make sure he really thinks about it; you've still got a while before you need to definitely decide.
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  • edited December 2011
    Do what makes you and your FI happy.  I've had a few people tell me that they did something to please others for their wedding, and to this day wish they hadn't. As for my personal opinion on even sides?  Tradition went out the window with our wedding.  We don't have even sides.  I have a Man of Honor instead of a Maid of Honor.  I'm happy.
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