So... One of my bridesmaids (A) totally freaked out on me (and another BM) last night. I was chatting with her about how 2 of the other girls went dress shopping with me (for their dresses). She was invited, but chose not to go. She asked if they found any dresses they liked and I said actually B found one right away and loves it... i's "THE" dress. I thought it was hilariously awesome.
A proceeded to get upset saying that was HER dress and now she has to find another one because now she will be the fat one in that dress.
She was pissy and pouty and just miserable the rest of the night and (knowing her) will likely continue this mood for weeks.
Insert a little background.....
- I have chosed a color and length... then given the girls free reign over their dress. I want them to feel comfortable and sexy and fabulous and all that good stuff.
- I don't care if everyone picks the same dress or if every single girl picks a different dress.
- This girl is NOT FAT!!! Not pudgy... not even a little thick... grrr....
I have tried talking to her several times about her "I'm so fat" complex, but it is like talking to a brick wall. She has a wonderful boyfriend who constantly praises her and tells her how beautiful she is. I, personally, struggled with an eating disorder/exercise obsession when I was younger so I can understand, but I would just become really quiet if anyone questioned me or said anything... she just gets really mean whenever people try to show their concern (or even try to compliment her on an outfit... it's ridiculous).
Now she has made the other gril (B) feel really terrible about this dress that she (B) was so excited about and A never mentioned.
I am trying to be as laid-back and hands-off as possible... the last thing I want to have to do is step in and referee over some stupid dress. We could all wear pajamas for all I care. lol
#1 I am at the point where I am legitimately concerned for her own health and well being. This whole weight issue is obviously not a passing phase and it seems to be consuming more and more of her life. I am worried about her, but really unsure how I can get through to her to voice my concerns without getting slapped with a "You just think I'm fat (or crazy or whatever)"
#2 I am really irritated that having the girls choose their own dresses has somehow managed to backfire on me. I thought I was being super awesome and un-bridezilla-like... WTF Grr.
#3 Grr... again... just grr...
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