Rehearsal..VENT/RANT/GRRR (super long)

CD2011

We had our Rehearsal/RD tonight. First let me just say that all I have heard from people from day 1 of planning is questioning/complaining about EVERYTHING. Why is your wedding on a Friday? Why is it in Oswego? Why is it at 8pm? B*tching about the venue itself. Why is the shower on a Saturday? Why is it at 10am? Why breakfast food? BECAUSE I'M THE BRIDE AND THAT'S WHAT I FREAKIN' WANT!!!!!!!!!

So, naturally it's been, WHY IS THE REHEARSAL 12 DAYS BEFORE THE WEDDING ON A SUNDAY???? Well, our with all the complaining about the wedding being on a Friday, I figured people would REALLY complain if we had the RD on the Thursday before. Thought about the weekend before, but we have a wedding to go to. That put us 2 weeks ahead, but one member of the WP had a wedding yesterday, so we just decided Sunday would be fine since we know that nobody in our WP works Sundays.

Our officiant wasn't there tonight, so I am the one who was telling everyone who they were walking with, etc... I was fought every step of the way because apparently I'm doing everything all wrong. I told everyone from the start-this may not be how things USUALLY are, but this was the EASIEST way for us to do it. We are having 2 of the guys (one from FI's side and one from mine) roll out the runner, then take their spots up front. The next GM will walk FI's Grandmother to her seat and then take his spot. Both of my grandfathers will walk with their wives (grandmothers, duh) to their seats. FFIL will go alone (divorced). GM walks FMIL then takes his spot, then BM walks my mom and takes his spot. My MOH, Jr. Bridesmaid, FG, Me.

Everyone's freaking out about having the whole WP walk on the runner, about the GM walking the moms & 1 grandma down "during the wedding" ... UGH!!!!! Just shut up and do what I tell you to do!!!!!

We gave all of the groomsmen & dads a pair of funky socks along with their gifts. They just picked one out of a bag and unwrapped them and they were like WTF? So we told them if they don't wear them, just bring them to put on for pictures because we want to take a few fun ones. You'd swear we just murdered their children. Even got a "How is that fun?"

I'm glad we did the RD early just so I don't feel like throwing $h!t at everyones heads the day of the wedding.

kevinandmonica2011

I know this wasn't meant to be funny....  but I can certainly find the humor in it since my time has passed!!  (And trust me, you will too... after you are finished trying to kill them).

I'm sorry you are having so many issues with your WP.  Hopefully they will manage to pull their heads out of their @sses for your big day.

lornarose07

People can be so aggravating I'm sorry you had such a crap experience and especially on the day before a Monday (yuck, I always need one day of relaxing to recuperate from drama and nonsense). Don't let it ruin your week!

DondadaTimes2

Oh man, that sounds all too familiar. Short background on my RD & wedding: BM#2 and his wife are control freaks and believe their way is the only way. At the RD they attempted to take over full control (above our pastor even) and all I heard was "At our wedding we..." "No you have to do it like we did, like this...." I already want to beat the wifes head in without the added nagging, so all I could do was take their opinions into consideration (or at least make them think I was) and them let them know "Thank you, but this is MY wedding and I'd prefer to do it this way"

Then at the actual wedding BM#2 started in with the pictures "No we gotta line up like this" "This is such a stupid shot" "Im not doing this unless we do it this way". To which the conversation went "C, is this your wedding?" "No but..." "Are you paying for it?" "No, Im just saying..." "Are these YOUR pictures?" "Bridgett, listen..." "No. This is MY wedding and things will be done MY way. You had your day (or in BM#1 case, will have your day someday), let me have mine. Youre more than welcome to walk away from these pictures, but please take the vest off as I will no longer consider you a part of this BP" He shut up and went along with the rest of the pictures.

My biggest piece of advice, and I stress this to the max. Be firm with "My wedding My way" and then let it go. Do not let it take over your day. I havent gotten our wedding video back and Im nervous to see it. During pic I was pissed and let BM#2 take over my thoughts and I regret it. I was a biitch and I dont think its possible to be edited out. Thank God for BIL who pulled me aside before we were introduced and told me to breathe. Told me to shake it b/c this was my day and he wasnt worth ruining that. Im saying the same to you b/c from the sounds of it, the GM will get under your skin a bit at the wedding.

sbolger17

Sorry you had such a rough time.  People just suck sometimes.  I would have had a complete meltdown and either started crying or screaming at people, so it sounds like you handled it well.

Hopefully the food was good?!  You're almost there!!

Happily9

I kinda like the sock idea!  They need to get over it all and cooperate!!!!