Bach parties with strippers

sbolger17

FI and I were watching a little Bridezillas yesterday afternoon and they showed a couple of really wild bachelorette parties with strippers that got a little inappropriate.  I had to assure him that this would NOT be happening at mine in less than 2 weeks!!

But I started thinking...have any of you gone to a bachelorette party (yours or someone else's) that had strippers?  Was it fun or just totally raunchy?

I went to an a male strip club in college for an assignment (!) and it was pretty raunchy.  But fun once I was wasted.  Not sure how I'd feel about it for my own b-party though.

kevinandmonica2011

I have never been to a b-party w/ strippers. They give me the heebie jeebies anyway. I went to a strip club once. A stripper/wh*re thing sat down on a chair near me and when she got up, there was a gooey looking snail trail on the seat. I freaked out and starting saying how nasty that was and asked someone to move the chair b/c I wasn't about to touch that funk... and I was asked to leave. lol.

DondadaTimes2

Never been to one. I think its so incredibly disgusting. I have friends who are strippers and hey, if youre that comfortable with showing off all your goodies than by all means. But keep your funk away from me and my man. He doesnt need to see your STDs.

kevinandmonica2011

I forgot to talk about naked man-dancers... lol... I don't think I would be too interested in it... at least not for my own B-party.  Don't know how true this is, but I have heard that most male strippers are gay.  I don't need to have some gay dude shaking his ding dong in front of my face.  Actually... come to think of it... I don't want some straight dude shaking his junk is my face either.

I would go to something like the shows they have at Turning Stone for a girl's night or for someone else's b-party.  It seems like it would be a littttttle bit classier and would probably be hilarious... more like a comedy show than a "hey hot stuff" kind of thing.  But regular strip joints are gross to me. 

So... I guess I'm torn.  I def wouldn't have wanted it for mine.  I did a wine tour and it was the best b-party EVER!!!  But I would go see the show at Turning Stone if invited.

lornarose07

I will be sooo clear with my MOH and BMs not to have naked nasty men anywhere near me for my b-party, I'm just NOT turned on by guys in thongs. I just want to go out dancing for my b-party in Miami (Fi is going to Vegas), because my idea of having "one final night out" is to get down on the dance flo', since I have a personal no-dance policy when I'm in relationships (because isn't today's style of dancing basically sex with clothes on? Not something I'm comfortable with).

As far as FI's b-party goes, I have three rules: 1. Same weekend as mine (since we're travelling and I don't think either partner should be stuck at home while the other is traipsing about on a mini-vacation, that's no fun) 2. No pictures, no Facebook updates, no evidence. I. Don't. Want. To. Know. 3. No cheating. If his friends want him to have T-and-A thrown in his face, they can throw their money on that if they want, he just better not touch it and bring anything back to me from it (ewwww!!!!!! the thought just creeps me out!!) I agree that strip joints are disgusting cess pools, but I trust him to know better

kevinandmonica2011

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[QUOTE]I will be sooo clear with my MOH and BMs not to have naked nasty men anywhere near me for my b-party, I'm just NOT turned on by guys in thongs. I just want to go out dancing for my b-party in Miami (Fi is going to Vegas), because my idea of having "one final night out" is to get down on the dance flo', since I have a personal no-dance policy when I'm in relationships (because isn't today's style of dancing basically sex with clothes on? Not something I'm comfortable with). As far as FI's b-party goes, <strong>I have three rules: 1. Same weekend as mine (since we're travelling and I don't think either partner should be stuck at home while the other is traipsing about on a mini-vacation, that's no fun) 2. No pictures, no Facebook updates, no evidence. I. Don't. Want. To. Know. 3. No cheating. If his friends want him to have T-and-A thrown in his face, they can throw their money on that if they want, he just better not touch it and bring anything back to me from it (ewwww!!!!!! the thought just creeps me out!!) I agree that strip joints are disgusting cess pools, but I trust him to know better
</strong>Posted by lornarose07[/QUOTE]

I like you.

lornarose07

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bach parties with strippers : I like you.
Posted by kevinandmonica2011[/QUOTE]

Feeling's mutual :)

kevinandmonica2011

DondadaTimes2

Haha I like you too.

You missed my multiple meltdowns over Joshs B-party. His BMs threw it in my face many times that they were getting him the hottest, biggest T, whore they could find and I flipped out on Josh. I know his stand on strippers (he thinks their dirty and doesnt see the point when you can go home and do whatever you want with the lady you love) but he wasnt making it clear to the boys that he didnt want that. In the end they went paintballing, dinner then DT and got hammered with all his boys and with his fav (and my fav) cousin by his side, stone cold sober, to make sure he had fun without either of us being hurt by something that happened.

sbolger17

I don't think female strippers at a strip club are that weird, but I think that having someone come to a hotel room is strange!!  FI said he's been to one like that.

And Monica, ewww!!  A gooey funk?!

pitbullmommy315

Ew, ew, ew. I would NEVER want to go to a male strip club or have male strippers at my party. Never. Some sweaty, chiseled man who I don't know shaking their stuff in my face is not my idea of a good time. Plus, my FI has made it clear he is not okay with that.

As for my FI's bachelor party, there will be NO raunchy disgusting half-naked girls. He has said he wouldn't want that anyway...but I do NOT trust his friends. There is no doubt in my mind that they'll all get crazy hammered and want to end up in a strip club or something. But believe me...my man knows there will be serious problems if I find out about it!

raes19

My mom was born on an Indian reservation, but hasn't lived there since she was a teenager and we go a few times a year to visit family in the area. A few years ago they built a strip club on one of the only roads to cross the river that runs through there, so there is a decent amount of traffic that runs through. One of the owners drives around a small camper with a blow up doll wearing a strap-on tied across the hood. I'm by no means a prude, but I find this to be very trashy. Especially since I had to explain to my then 4 year old neice what it was.

MelissaC315

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[QUOTE]I have never been to a b-party w/ strippers. They give me the heebie jeebies anyway. I went to a strip club once. A stripper/wh*re thing sat down on a chair near me and when she got up, there was a gooey looking snail trail on the seat. I freaked out and starting saying how nasty that was and asked someone to move the chair b/c I wasn't about to touch that funk... and I was asked to leave. lol.
Posted by kevinandmonica2011[/QUOTE]


I'm still stuck on this.... seriously vomited in my mouth a little. haha... but anyway yeah no man goodies in my face please. negative

CD2011

We had a female stripper at our Jack & Jill party!!! Ok, ok, ... so she was someone's date and didn't take her clothes off...

I haven't been to a party w/male strippers, but I did work at Lava (at Turning Stone) and we had Chippendales there one night. The girl who usually went around taking pictures didn't because her BF didn't want her in there looking at all the dudes, so I volunteered I had quite a few laughs, and there were women of ALL ages who seemed to be having a blast, but honestly I was quite disgusted by the men, especially one who was sweaty and tried to kiss me!! They were NOT good looking at all. It was more amusing just to see the dances and stuff the guys were doing. I personally wouldn't have wanted that as MY party, but I could see how it could be fun to attend one if you're all drinking and having a great time.

I would NOT NOT NOT want some nasty sweaty guy (except FI!) all over me - ick!

lornarose07

Awww c'mon ladies! I think ALL FI's with a hint of common sense tell their partners that they think strippers are gross and dont want one! I remember being on Facebook once and seeing a post on a guy's wall about strippers for his upcoming b-party that weekend, and his FI commented on the post going "way to try and blow his spot up, but he already told me that he doesnt want nasty strippers so you better figure out something else!" (reason #1 for my rule #2) Even my FI has told me that he's not interested in strippers and thinks theyre nasty. My point is, NONE of us want to think about the men we love indulging in that behavior but that's the point (albeit stupid as he**) of this party... which is why I prefer to be in another time zone when it's happening. Do I love the idea? No not even a tiny bit; I am FI's "first and last," if you know what I mean, and the idea of him wanting him to...rectify that terrifies me, but when it comes to stuff like this, I just try to live by the Serenity prayer.

whereismymind32

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[QUOTE]Awww c'mon ladies!<strong> I think ALL FI's with a hint of common sense tell their partners that they think strippers are gross and dont want one!</strong> I remember being on Facebook once and seeing a post on a guy's wall about strippers for his upcoming b-party that weekend, and his FI commented on the post going "way to try and blow his spot up, but he already told me that he doesnt want nasty strippers so you better figure out something else!" (reason #1 for my rule #2) Even my FI has told me that he's not interested in strippers and thinks theyre nasty. My point is, NONE of us want to think about the men we love indulging in that behavior but that's the point (albeit stupid as he**) of this party... which is why I prefer to be in another time zone when it's happening. Do I love the idea? No not even a tiny bit; I am FI's "first and last," if you know what I mean, and the idea of him wanting him to...rectify that terrifies me, but when it comes to stuff like this, I just try to live by the Serenity prayer.
Posted by lornarose07[/QUOTE]

I agree. My FI has said the same, but he was actually hazed by strippers at his frat in college. This speaks to the point mentioned above about strippers coming to you being way way worse! What happened to him makes Monica's slime trail story sound like a strip club fairytale. Nevertheless, his BM thinks strip clubs are awesome and he'll probably end up at one for his B party.

whereismymind32

Oh, and I think male strippers are gross and have zero appeal for me. I'd rather go dancing at a club for my party. I feel like male strip clubs are for cougars.

DondadaTimes2

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[QUOTE]Awww c'mon ladies! <strong>I think ALL FI's with a hint of common sense tell their partners that they think strippers are gross and dont want one!</strong> I remember being on Facebook once and seeing a post on a guy's wall about strippers for his upcoming b-party that weekend, and his FI commented on the post going "way to try and blow his spot up, but he already told me that he doesnt want nasty strippers so you better figure out something else!" (reason #1 for my rule #2) Even my FI has told me that he's not interested in strippers and thinks theyre nasty. My point is, NONE of us want to think about the men we love indulging in that behavior but that's the point (albeit stupid as he**) of this party... which is why I prefer to be in another time zone when it's happening. Do I love the idea? No not even a tiny bit; I am FI's "first and last," if you know what I mean, and the idea of him wanting him to...rectify that terrifies me, but when it comes to stuff like this, I just try to live by the Serenity prayer.
Posted by lornarose07[/QUOTE]


BIL had a stripper at his b-party (at his dads home ick) and DH (before we dated) left the house. Went outside to smoke and hung around until she was done. DH and I started talking at BILs wedding (I had a bf) and DHs friends and brothers were all bustin on him for it. So with no reason to make him seem like "the good guy" he was outted for not liking strippers. So I beg to differ. Most guys like porn. Not all guys need the dirty hooch in their face.

mnp13

My husband is a police officer, and has avoided many a bachelor party in the department. He also refused to have one thrown for him. We were at a party and people were passing around cell phone pictures from a b-party the weekend before - two strippers doing things to each other straight out of a porn film. I’m no prude (faaaar from it) but that was disturbing to me. If strippers are the plan, then go to a club. Not my thing, but I won’t judge it. However, lap dances, VIP rooms, etc are crossing a line for me.  Want to watch a porn, then watch a porn, but in person? Totally different.

lornarose07

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[QUOTE]My husband is a police officer, and has avoided many a bachelor party in the department. He also refused to have one thrown for him. <strong>We were at a party and people were passing around cell phone pictures from a b-party the weekend before - two strippers doing things to each other straight out of a porn film.</strong> I’m no prude (faaaar from it) but that was disturbing to me. If strippers are the plan, then go to a club. Not my thing, but I won’t judge it. However, lap dances, VIP rooms, etc are crossing a line for me.   Want to watch a porn, then watch a porn, but in person? Totally different.
Posted by mnp13[/QUOTE]

Reason #2 for rule #2. I couldn't handle bearing witness to this and knowing there was nothing I could do about it.

And Bridgett, you certainly got a good one :) 

Warning: rant ahead. A couple of weekends ago I was out of town and two days after I came back, FI confessed that while I was gone, he was with some of his buddies and they decided to go to a strip club, and this girl who is obsessed with one of his friends (a married man, BTW, but he's a scumbag and cheats on his pregnant wife every single day) followed them there and then PAID FOR A STRIPPER TO COME "TEASE" MY FIANCE. This girl has been to our house before, so she knows who I am and decided to be a disrespectful hoe-bag anyway. FI even called up all of the guys right in front of me to confirm that he never asked for it, and even when they were trying to give him money for one of the strippers, he declined. I was fuming mad, I tried to tell him that I hope he enjoyed it because he's only supposed to get ONE night like that so I guess he got his. I eventually got over it and accepted that it was over and there was nothing I could do about it, and he promised that if he is with friends in the future and not driving/able to leave on his own, he will stay on the phone with me the whole time. This is obviously completely unnecessary btu I appreciated that he took my feelings about it into consideration and realized that "just hanging out with the guys and we happened to be doing it in a strip club" is not okay for a man who is in a serious relationship. Fingers crossed for the future lol  

mnp13

"2. No pictures, no Facebook updates, no evidence. I. Don't. Want. To. Know. "

See, that's the thing. I expect better behavior from my husband. He had better not be doing anything out of my presence that he wouldn't be doing IN my presence. 

Anything that he thinks "I'll never tell Michelle I did this" he damn well better not be doing. Sure, there is such a thing as descretion, I don't need to know the gritty details of his entire day (he's a cop, things get ugly) but if I ASK I had better get a straight and honest answer. 

And I hold myself to the same standard.