UM FREAKING OUT!

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So, I'm 51 days out from the wedding and I am FREAKING OUT! about everything: little details, rsvps, programs, pictures, my hair, not having a videographer, losing weight, pretty much anything you can think of, I'm freaking out about! I'm just worried that I'm going to forget something big (or even several small things) and have to do like a million things the day before. I don't know why this is hitting me now (maybe its the weather...) but I NEED HELP!!!!

Future.Mrs.Shawty

KEEP A RUNNING LIST! When something pops in your head that you need to do for the wedding, WRITE IT DOWN ON THE LIST.  This has been so helpful for me and keeping my sanity.  I have a visual of everything that needs to get done and I am almost positive I won't be forgetting anything. (let's hope anyway)

Emily2me

The Knot checklist has been a huge help for me throughout the planning process. I was also really worried about my hair and after I did a trial I was even MORE worried!! I would suggest having a trial asap, that way if you don't like it you can keep trying other options. Luckily, my cousin saved the day when she offered to do my hair and I loved it! Try not to freak out, it will all come together! I am the most unorganized, unplanned person ever and I have gotten everything done. I am convinced if I can do it, anyone can...haha.

kelklump

Make a list, check it twice! I started a list and have been putting dates I want things done on it. Wow has it saved me time. I had a few things that I still need to do, but the majority is done. As for the videographer and loosing weight, dont stress. It will make it worse. I actually gained weight (despite working out with a trainer 4x a week and eating right) due to stress. Calm down, get a drink and enlist some friends. If they wont help, call on all of us!!! You will make it through.

jiml

I agree with all the pp. I have a wedding notebook and started a check list (of things not on the knot's check list). I have a list for the week of the wedding, the friday before the wedding ect. It really does help. I'll wake up in the middle of the night and think of something. Last night I wrote down to pluck my eyebrows . I would've forgot!! lol. I also find Excel very helpful to keep track of things. Just remember to relax and enjoy this time!

kschaulin

Definitely make a list.  What really helped me was to make an Excel spreadsheet.  I made the first tab a 3 month calendar, with all of my wedding-related appointments and payment due dates listed.  That helped me visualize everything.  The next few tabs were checklists with everything I had left to do divided by month, then one for the week before the wedding, and another one for after the wedding.  It's really kept me organized, and with 3 1/2 weeks left, I feel totally in control.  Granted, I'm still seriously stressed out, but at least it's a controlled stress!

catbarnes09

Agreeing with the pp, but also just keep reminding yourself not to sweat the small stuff. The only people that know the small stuff are probably you and FI or BM, so guests will never know if something slips through the cracks. Big stuff, well the knot list should cover that. Breathe...

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Thanks ladies, this really helps. I had a bit of retail relief today and feel better! haha sometimes i guess you just need a break! : )

catbarnes09

Retail therapy is the BEST! Yes--try to ignore the ticker here and there. That's what makes me crazy!

VanessaOSU

I agree with everyone.  Making lists, adding to it when I thought of things kept me sane during those days before the wedding.

Danalyn13

OMG. when I was around 50 days out I was a BASKET CASE. I'm sure my fiance was wondering what the hell he got himself into. Now that I'm about a month out and a lot of the big details are taken care of, I've totally chilled out. I would especially freak out bc I was too busy to work out and I thought I'd be fat for the wedding...just take one thing at a time, try to stay organized, ask your bm's for help, and if all else fails, wine works WONDERS.