Am I crazy?

pitbullmommy315

I have this big feeling that's been in the back of my head for awhile now that this big wedding might be a mistake. Not getting married, all I WANT is to get married! But the wedding itself is so overwhelming. All I wanted was simplicity when it came to the wedding, now it's out of control! 150 people?! UGH.

My mom calls me every day to talk wedding details, and to tell me that my grandma won't stop calling her to talk about wedding details. They have pretty much made every decision for me when it comes to planning. Not that I mind, because the whole process is too much for me. But I kind of feel like all the ideas and thoughts that I had about getting married have gotten swept under the rug and forgot about. Even by me.

It's probably too late to back out now. Maybe I'm just freaking out from the stress of planning, recently buying a house, and going to school full time. I don't know. I just want to be married! Thanks for letting me vent...:(

JN382

I don't think you're crazy at all!

Because you still have quite a ways to go, it might just seem like there is no end at this point. Is there any way to ask the family to just let things settle for awhile? Not that they can't talk about it, but maybe just leave the details until it gets closer?

I can understand with the holidays that you might want to throw in the towel, but take a step back. Do you have everything booked? If you do, then it's all set for now.

I have booked everything, but haven't planned anything (details, that is-- i.e. we have NO idea what flowers we're using, but have the florist). We have about 6 months to go and because I didn't want to burn out, I just put it aside for awhile and asked everyone around me to just help get through the holidays and we'd pick up after the New Year. So far, so good.

Take a deep breathe, I think you'll be really glad you had the wedding. Oh! And if you take a step back for awhile, you might be able to re-evaluate everything you DO want.

It'll be OK!!!

kevinandmonica2011

You hit *the wall*

I did too.  And wanted nothing more than to elope... and I was plannign my dream wedding.  I can't imagine how bad it would be if I didn't have my whole heart and soul into the process.

Honestly, I can tell you the motivation does return.  Then you may hit another wall.  Allow yourself breaks and encourage your family to allow breaks.  You have PLENTY of time.  If they are not "allowing" non-wedding talk... demand it.  Or avoid them for a bit until you are ready to get back to it.  It sounds harsh, but it's so easy to become stressed out, overwhelmed and burnt out.  Give yourself a break.

And honestly, if this is not what you truly want... maybe consider changing plans?  If not completely... then try to find some ways to make your wedding... yours.

A certain How I Met Your Mother episode is coming to mind.  If you can find it... watch Lilly and Marshall's wedding.    It might stir some ideas.

((big hugs)).... I know it's frustrating and exhausting and annoying... but this shall pass and you will be married to the love of your life.  Then the fun really begins.

Hang in there.

kpdorr

You are not crazy! Just give yourself time off! I orginally was thinking of a simple wedding with maybe 80 people- our offical guest list is at 230! How did this happen!?!?! I just keep telling myself that while this is crazy, that if we have 230 people that want to celebrate with us we are so lucky. When it gets overwehlming I just step back and think about that, and about my FI and how amazing it will all be.

PPs have great advice. It is normal to be overwhelmed- I certainly have never planned anything as involved as a wedding- but if you are really thnking it is too much and not at all what you want, it might be ok to change plans!

mek20

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[QUOTE]You are not crazy! Just give yourself time off! I orginally was thinking of a simple wedding with maybe 80 people- our offical guest list is at 230! How did this happen!?!?! <strong>I just keep telling myself that while this is crazy, that if we have 230 people that want to celebrate with us we are so lucky.</strong> When it gets overwehlming I just step back and think about that, and about my FI and how amazing it will all be. PPs have great advice. It is normal to be overwhelmed- I certainly have never planned anything as involved as a wedding- but if you are really thnking it is too much and not at all what you want, it might be ok to change plans!
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<div>What an awesome attitude!!! I need to take a page from your book!!! </div><div>
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csharpe44

Not crazy at all!  I came to the same point about a month ago and that was without the holiday stress!  I agree with PPs, take some time off.  You've got time, you can afford a couple weeks of non-wedding talk.  Believe me, you'll thank yourself for it, coming back with a clear mind is the best thing I could have done.