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A little snark (longish)

So I try to be pretty nice, but I'm going to get a little snarky for a minute here because most people just wouldn't understand everything that is wrong here.  Do you all remember me posting about my cousin who got engaged 6 months after me and is getting married 3 weeks before me?  I found out that while they got engaged less than a week before our STDs went out, the girl (the guy is my cousin) had planned/booked the entire wedding months before they were engaged!  Weird.

Anyways, I finally got their invitation in the mail yesterday and it is super similar to mine except my cardstock is heavier and my text is raised and nicer and the same blue as my wedding color (yes, I'm being snotty).  Anyways, I was surprised because I figured they'd go more modern and the invite is pretty classic and formal.  The following are my issues (and snarkiness):

1. Ithaca was spelled incorrectly in my address.
2. Everything was typed out, nothing was handwritten.
3. The outside envelope was addressed to me and not my fiance who lives with me.
4. The inside envelope was addressed to both of us, but only with our first names.  Which is okay but not really for a formal invitation.
5. There is a monogram on the invite that looks like the groom's last initial.  On closer inspection, it could be their names joined together which would be cool, but it was very distracting, b/c all I could see was the last initial and that's not proper for invitations.
6. They had an insert directing people to their website for more information regarding directions and registry.  It also mentioned that all gifts should be shipped to the couple's home and gave their address rather than where the wedding is taking place because they have to fly home afterwards.

That is all.  I'm going to get them a gift although I won't be attending, but now I kind of want to ship it to where the wedding is just to be annoying...
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Re: A little snark (longish)

  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_central-new-york_little-snark-longish?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:621Discussion:4da67b9f-5ff5-4a5a-867e-bdc8aba59968Post:291513cb-2202-4190-8f8e-c69b9612ff54">A little snark (longish)</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>but now I kind of want to ship it to where the wedding is just to be annoying...
    </strong>Posted by sbolger17[/QUOTE]

    This made me giggle.  Totally something I would do.
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  • CD2011CD2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    Are you more annoyed at the fact that it seems like maybe she's trying to copy you and steal your thunder? Or would you have the same reaction to all of the information if it was an invite from FI's friend or something who you didn't know?

    I find myself being more and more critical of people's wedding details now that I'm getting married!
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_central-new-york_little-snark-longish?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:621Discussion:4da67b9f-5ff5-4a5a-867e-bdc8aba59968Post:53895941-f120-44bc-9104-2ddb7b53decc">Re: A little snark (longish)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Are you more annoyed at the fact that it seems like maybe she's trying to copy you and steal your thunder? Or would you have the same reaction to all of the information if it was an invite from FI's friend or something who you didn't know? I find myself being more and more critical of people's wedding details now that I'm getting married!
    Posted by CD2011[/QUOTE]

    Well, I notice everything now with a very critical eye that I once did not have.  Ex: another invite we got that says "request the honor of your presence" and it's not in a chuch!  Horrors!  I wouldn't have cared at all before I knew the nitty gritty details of everything but now I notice and judge just a little bit.

    For this particular invite, annoyed isn't really the right word.  I don't *really* care anymore that theirs is so close to mine esp b/c most of the family is planning to travel to both (or so I hear).  But resentment lingers just a little, so it's more like satisfied that mine are better.
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  • edited December 2011
    omg....Really?? All my invitations were typed! and you know what I dont care if I maybe didnt address the inner or outer envelopes "correctly".  They took a really long time to do on top of all the other planning things required.  You should be lucky she even invited you. 
    "request the honor of your presence" and it's not in a chuch!  Horrors!
    Yeap my invitation says that too and we are not getting married at a church.
    I guess I should of taken a class on things that dont make a marriage last before I sent out the invitations...hope I didnt piss any of my guests off.
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    edited December 2011
    I see what you're saying Sarah, I'm formal and like correct etiquette too.  I don't think either of us would flat out critique people or hold a grudge though.  And I definitely don't think I'm better than anyone.  I notice incorrect details, but think "oh well" and move on.  Just enjoy your wedding details, and don't worry :)
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_central-new-york_little-snark-longish?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:621Discussion:4da67b9f-5ff5-4a5a-867e-bdc8aba59968Post:571f9593-6be7-42be-88b5-82378f583dc1">Re: A little snark (longish)</a>:
    [QUOTE]omg....Really?? All my invitations were typed! and you know what I dont care if I maybe didnt address the inner or outer envelopes "correctly".  They took a really long time to do on top of all the other planning things required.  You should be lucky she even invited you.  "request the honor of your presence" and it's not in a chuch!  Horrors! Yeap my invitation says that too and we are not getting married at a church. I guess I should of taken a class on things that dont make a marriage last before I sent out the invitations...hope I didnt piss any of my guests off.
    Posted by smclardy[/QUOTE]

    I dont know who put the bug up you a$$ but you really need to take it out.

    I didnt handwrite my invites, nor do I think "honor of your presence" w/o being in a church is a big deal. But I didnt take offense to it. Why? B/C its not my problem. I did things the way I want and I sit here on TK everyday and help other girls when theyre stressed about their weddings being the way they want or when they need to vent about a family members wedding (my sisters getting married in 3 months. I could write a book on what I disagree about and would do it to vent. Not b/c I give an F about someone elses opinion) I listen to other girls opinions whether I agree with them or not. This is her cousin, she has a right to be snarky about it. Sarah is not related to you, so this is where you shut up and let her vent. Thats what we do here. We let other brides vent and destress and we assist in any planning they need.

    And in my opinion. Not caring if your address labels were done corrently is careless, selfish, and lazy. You have a lot to do, I know. I did it. But if I was getting married 3 weeks after you and you failed to address to me AND my FI I'd be furious. If you then were too careless to spell the name of the city I lived in correctly, I would see you as lazy. This day is not just about you. Its also about the guests. If you cant spend an extra few seconds to be sure that my address is labeled correctly, youre disrespecting me and I dont need to honor you by being at your wedding. Get my drift??

    Youre post was unnecessary and rude. Sarah was simply needing to vent and she should be able to with out you slicing her throat over it. Im so very sorry that you are so insecure about your own wedding that you need to throw her down for hers. You dont know her and have no plae doing so.


    Sarah. Im very sorry that youre dealing with that crap from your cousin but in your shoes, I wouldnt go either. I also believe your wedding will be so-o much better and I hope you enjoy your day!

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  • edited December 2011
    Susan, I suggest you take your opinion over to the E-board and see what they have to say about you. Theyd rip you head to toe for everything you just said.

    FYI.

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