Or in other words, how do you dodge direct questions about your budget without offending anyone? My mom is contrubting about 15% of the total cost (a set amount) while the rest is coming from my FMIL, and FI and myself. She keeps asking how much we're spending on everything and while she has a right to SOME information, she tends to dwell on the negative and I don't want to fuel any potential flames between her and my FMIL.
For example she's already said to my sister "If Lauren wants a certain flower for her centerpieces than she should be able to get it and her FMIL shouldn't tell her she can't!" This is a totally fabricated scenario! I haven't even begun to pick out my flowers or have I even discussed it with my FMIL in any way! My FMIL is just giving us a lump sum and saying "do what you want," but my mom is already looking for conflict with my FI's mom over money!
I tried to avoid this by telling her exactly what her $ was covering, but she still wants to know things like the cost per head and how much we're spending on wedding party gifts so she can compare with her coworkers' daughters' weddings.
Has anyone else had to deal with a similar situation? What do I tell her when she asks direct $ questions?