Neighbor vent

DondadaTimes2

Ok so my next door neighbors are awesome. Mom, 3 kids (23, 22, 5). The son has become one of Joshs bffs and Ive become that girl that he calls on when hes having issues that hes afraid the guys will make fun of him for and I think thats awesome. But Im getting a tad sick of picking him up everytime his ex kicks him back down.

He dated this chick for like 2+ years, his first serious relationship. Over the summer they split and we all just figured he grew tired of it cuz thats how he played it. Turns out she cheated on him with her ex and he tried to get over it but just couldnt. So the skank goes back to her ex and all her friends we all "Yay! Team D!" And I was all "Baaaaaaaarf". I defriended her on fb (respect to T) and picked him back up. We had a few really good talks and he was doing great on the gettin over her thing. Well, shes back. He took her out to breakfast and lunch a few times and when he told me Im like "uggh. what are you doing?! Shes still with D! Dont give her the satisfaction of having her cake and eating it to. She doesnt deserve a guy as great as you. Blah blah blah" It meant nothing. I came home from class tonight and Josh says to me "Did you see whos next door?" Uh whats she doing there? "Oh YOU know" WTF?!?! So I go to her fb page...she's still with D. and whats this? Hes stationed in Texas?! And shes going down to visit him for a week?!

Im ready to scream. I love this kid to death and I totally get where his head is at but its taking all of me not to message D with a simple "Whats you g/f been doin with T? Shes been spending a good amt of time at his place lately" And watch her try and lie her way outta this one. I wanna message her too and tell her to keep her skank at least a block from my house. AHHH! I hate that I car so much about other people and they just throw it away.

kevinandmonica2011

I was that guy once.... not too proud of it, but I was just the stubborn type of person who had to get kicked around a bit (ok a LOT) and learn the hard way.

It is horrible to watch friends make the same mistakes, but sometimes you just have to step back and let them get slapped around (emotionally, of course) and learn on their own.  Sooner or later he will get hurt so bad that he will walk away (or she will break it off).... but I think if you do anything or put yourself in the middle, it will only hurt your friendship with this guy. 

People are weird like that, you know.  Girl A is cheating on boy A with boy B.  Boy A's friends blow girl's cover and boy A disowns his friends and defends girl.  Stupid.... but it happens all the time. 

Or you know when Girl's boyfriend (or husband) cheats on her... instead of hating the guy... girl A talks trash and hates the other woman.... HELLO!!!  it was your man that was being scummy.

People sometimes just act so ridiculous when they are in love (or think they are in love)- sometimes they just lose all sense of self and respect for self.  They will let someone walk all over them and make them look like a fool.  I think you need to just step back and let your neighbor make his mistakes... be there (again) to pick up the pieces when she kicks him to the curb again.

sbolger17

Monica is very wise.  I've seen a lot of people take a lot more than they should from a b/f or g/f (including myself before I met FI).  Hopefully, eventually he'll realize that this girl is not worth it and get rid of her once and for all.

DondadaTimes2

Monicas a modern day Yoda! Haha Thanks guys.

Ive been tht cheater before so Im seeing her laughing b/c shes getting away with it and holding onto 1 guy juuust incase the other doesnt work out and thats really getting to me. That and Ive always hated the biiitch! But Ill let it go and catch him when he falls and if he ever invites her to anything and Im there, Ill make it a point to leave w/o voicing my very loud and strong opinion!

kevinandmonica2011

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[QUOTE]<strong>Monicas a modern day Yoda!</strong> Haha Thanks guys. Ive been tht cheater before so Im seeing her laughing b/c shes getting away with it and holding onto 1 guy juuust incase the other doesnt work out and thats really getting to me. That and Ive always hated the biiitch! But Ill let it go and catch him when he falls and if he ever invites her to anything and Im there, Ill make it a point to leave w/o voicing my very loud and strong opinion!
Posted by DondadaTimes2[/QUOTE]

Lmao.  yeah yeah... sure.... have you SEEN me freak out yet?  definitely NOT calm and wise.  Just been through a lot and learned (finally...) the hard way.