RSVP Frustration

jeremy.teresa

Yeah, I know just about every bride has to go through this.  It sucks!  We have a small guest list (invited 83 people total, sent 46 invitations) and yet we STILL can't get people to respond.  The RSVP's are due 9/16 and I have to have the preliminary head count at our final walk through.  Which is hopefully next week.  We are missing a TON of them.  I thought we would get a bunch in the beginning when the invitations first went out and then it would slowly trickle, but no.  We have never gotten more than 2 cards at any given time, and the majority of days we get absolutely nothing.  Since the beginning was so slow, I thought for sure this week and next week we would get flooded with them.  But no.  Yet another day of not one!  I am stuck getting anything else done b/c we don't even have a good idea who MIGHT be here.  I really really hope and pray that we start getting a bunch of the cards back this week and next week.  Its just so frustrating that people can't check whether or not they are coming, put their name on the card, and stick it in the mailbox.  I did everything else for you!  Argh.  So yeah, I'm aggravated with this.But the good news is that we are down to 37 days until the wedding!  I can't believe how close we are FINALLY getting!!  Yay!! So anyone else having issues w/ their guests procrastinating on their RSVP's right now?!

kelklump

Its frustrating, but hang in there. I have a huge list and people were still calling this week to tell me they were coming or not. I could have died with those calls. Hang in there, they will come.

Future.Mrs.Shawty

Same here.  I'm a week past my deadline and still have about 11 people unaccounted for.... I'll track them down dadgummit if it's the last thing I do!!!  LOL

kschaulin

We got a TON in the last couple days before our due date.  Don't start stressing until the 16th.  I know how frustrating it is, but you still have plenty of time.

hrparker

First, ::hugs:: JT.  I know this can be stressful.Next,Ditto ks.I think I post this every time someone starts worrying about their RSVPS.  You can't start worrying AT ALL until the 16th.  That's the deadline you gave your guests, and that's what you have to stick to.  In fact, a lot of people still think the RSVP date is the mail-by date, so you really can't start freaking out until about 3 days past your RSVP date.  And, from experience, I can tell you that you'll probably get a big chunk of them right before the rsvp date when people find the invitation in their "to do" piles and realize that they forgot to rsvp and rush it out.On August 19th, if you still have a lot of people who haven't turned in their RSVPS, THEN you can start freaking out.Until then, take a deep breath, have a yummy coffee drink of some sort (I'd recommend a real drink - but it's only 10:00 a.m. ), relax for a minute, and then focus your wedding planning energies on something else that you still need to accomplish.p.s.  To everyone out there who hasn't set their RSVP date, THIS is why I recommend (based on many P&E knotties' advice) that you set your RSVP date by the date your "first" final count is due, i.e. whatever vendor requires a final count earliest.  Find that date, then back up 2 week - THIS should be your RSVP date.  That gives people who think the rsvp date is the mail-by date some extra time, and gives you time to call those who don't rsvp before your vendors need your final count.

hrparker

Change August to September, and it'll make more sense.

livinglibra

I know your frustration!  Our RSVP were do last saturday on the 5th and we're still missing 25 or so responses.  We wanted 100 people to be at our wedding, but currently we're at 70.  It's the families that have been giving us so much trouble.  At this point i really wish we would just elope.  *sigh*

aWb

I am right there with you sister!  Are RSVP date in 9/15 and slow we are getting them in.  Most are close family who we know will be there but others are friends of parents.  Like parker said we left enough time to get a few late ones and then we will be calling to double check.  Sit back relax and wait. 

scooter25

My mom, MIL and I found a really good solution to tackling this problem. We each had people we needed to check on, so we either called or emailed them with the pretense of just catching up. Of course the topic of the wedding comes up and then you pounce with something along the lines of, "Oh, by the way, I don't know if I've come across your RSVP. I really hope you will be able to join us!" That usually brings out an answer or at least leads then in the right direction.GL!