RecapL Bm's being PIAs, not wanting to have any part of wedding, planning cruises without me (because they think that "I need to save money for the wedding"...), not wanting to try on dresses, do not want to help with shower/bach party planning...
Things got a lot better...for two weeks. They started calling me, and asking me when I could get together, when we were going dress shopping etc...then they kind of disappeared again. I asked them when we were going to go bm dress shopping and two of them told me that they had to work, or "i just cant, ok?" One of them is ignoring me (for God knows WHAT reason...facebook, calls/ texts, emails..no response)
So today, I hit my point and sent them a friendly letter (not sarcasm, actually very friendly!). I explained to them every detail of the wedding that concerns them. Telling them that I had my FSIL try on dresses, and she picked them and how much it will cost. I also told them that I will need there hep in a few months, as any bride would need her bms.
Lastly, I added in about how so much has changed in a year, and how I can understand if they just don't want to be in the WP anymore and that they shouldnt feel obligated if they are having thoughts about stepping down. I told them that I would find something less "demanding" because they are important to me, should that bridge need to be crossed.
It was friendly, and it gave THEM the option of stepping down since they were dragging their feet on some important things.
My goal was not to sound like I wanted them to step down, and I don't want them to. I want them to see the things that I need from them over the next 8 months, and to decide what is best FOR THEM.
I have already gotten a response from my MOH, who is fully on board and hasnt really been "the problem".
First comes Love (2.23.2006)
Then comes Marriage (6.23.2012)
Then comes Baby #1 (5.10.2013)
And Baby #2 (EDD 6.15.2014)
In the baby carriage!