HELP!!

mclose03

My moh just backed out of my wedding with 2 months to go. She hasn't paid for her dress and I am afraid I am going to get stuck paying for it. Also should I add another girl? Or is that just rude? Any advice is good.--shelly

catbarnes09

That's a sticky one, Shelly. Wish I had some advice. IMO it may not be worth the stress and heartache to ask someone else. Do other BM have ideas for you? Is one of them going to step up as MOH?

KristenandSig

Shelly - I am so sorry to hear that!! Did they not have to pay for their dresses up front? I know when our girls ordered their dresses, they all had to pay before they would even be ordered. I agree with pp is there a bridesmaid that you would want to ask to step up to be your MOH?

mclose03

We had a situation with the dresses where the store we bought them from went out of business and the store that picked up the order helped out by not requiring the girls to pay until they got there money back from the first store. Someone else is stepping up as MOH I just didn't know if it's appropriate to ask another friend with this short of time left.

Future.Mrs.Shawty

Personally, I'd call the store, cancel the dress order and then just be one girl short.

Debbydew

I agree with pp, if it's possible, cancel her dress order. If not, then you could ask someone else. Do you have someone that automatically comes to mind, or do you really have to think about it? I'd rather be short than have someone that really isn't that close to me fill in. As it is, I only have 3 BMs and 8 GMs! FI and I just have way more guy friends, so oh well! Anyway, also keep in mind that who ever fills in, if you go that route, will have to fit into the dress that has already been ordered since there isn't time to order another and have it altered. And then are you going to tell the fill in, "Well even though you weren't a first string BM, can you step in and shell out money for this dress?" It is a sticky situation. You may have someone who can step in smoothly, and in that case go for it. If it's going to be a hassle, just try to put it aside, and move on. Sorry so long and good luck!

onlymels

I fired my bridesmaids and moh because of that reason. They wouldn't get the dress I wanted and it was a cheap dress.  But it isn't your responsibility to pay for her dress. She shouldn't have accepted your request if she can't afford what she needs to get. It will probably rock the boat but you haven enough to pay for besides adding her dress into that.

jeremy.teresa

Honestly, I wouldn't even worry about it.  If you didn't sign anything taking responsibility for her dress cost, then they can't hold you to it.  As far as replacing her with another bm, unless you are dead set on having an even number in the wedding party, I would just let it go.  It really isn't that big of a deal and no one is going to care.  You don't want to add someone just to add someone.  GL!