Best/Worst

kevinandmonica2011

Piece of wedding or marriage advice someone has given you so far...

sbolger17

No one's really given me marriage advice yet, but here's some wedding stuff:

Best:  The day of your wedding, you won't care about all the little things that go wrong or that you've been upset about in the planning stage.  The week after, you'll barely remember these things.  The next year, you'll be laughing about them.

Worst: Elope -- (Good for some people, I suppose, but I love planning!  That would be no fun.)

DondadaTimes2

Worst- "Dont do it. Save your money, keep the relationship you have. Dont formalize it with marriage"...Yes seriously. By the guy installing my cable Monday. Of course he followed it up by explaining that he is in the process of a nasty divorce and how "the bitch took everything! Turns out she didn't like me as much as she led on"

Best- My FSIL is my fav. She told me to find a checklist from any wedding site/book/etc. and stick to it! She also told me to make sure my wedding made ME happy (and Josh too of course) but not to let anyone else ruin my vision for my day. Dont try to please everyone b/c in the end people will still be miserable but now you're miserable as well.  Lastly, whiel she was going through her wedding planning phase she told me to make note of all the advise I gave to her and use it on myself when I get overwhelmed.

crystaldes1029

Worst: That marriage is so much different than dating/engaged so be ready for change... ITS A LIE. Its the same and if one more person asks me how married life is im going to tattoo on their forehead... its the same! 

Best: Less is more. You dont remember the little things from the big day so either forget about doing them all together or make sure you dont spend a lot of time on them. They were right! I hardly remember all the details I spent months on. 

DondadaTimes2

Haha Crystal I'd love to see a tattoo on your forehead!

I havent talked to you in like forever btw! Miss You! Hows married life?

HA!

kevinandmonica2011

Best:  I have to list 2...
1.  NOBODY cares about your wedding as much as you do.... not your friends, not your BMs, not your MOH, not your vendors, not your mom, not even you future husband.  NOBODY.  Don't be upset if they don't care about colors, or centerpieces or linens or whatever.  It's not that they don't care about you... they just don't share in your obsession over your big day.  Talk about normal stuff every once in a while... like sports or the weather.  Try to go one whole entire day without using the word wedding.  It will do you good.
2.  You are not getting "wedding-d" you are getting "married"- don't get lost in all of the details and forget what the day is all about.  You are about to promise your life to your best friend... this, in itself, is a beautiful thing... never lose sight of that.

Worst:  (Just like Bridget)... Why?  That's dumb... Why don't you have the wedding in Pittsburgh?  Why don't you wait until after school?  Can you have a reception in Pittsburgh after the wedding?
I guess that's not really advice, but those were some nuggets we got.

DondadaTimes2

Monica, I love your 'Bests'. Great advice! I should try taking it!

mgietler76

BEST - The reception is just a party and the honeymoon is a vacation. The only thing that matters is the ceremony and that's damn near free! Don't go into debt over any of it.

WORST -  Invite people you don't actually like, or that you think will even come because they'll send you money/give you gifts. Cuz ya know who wants to spend their wedding with people they actually LIKE?!?!? LOL

crystaldes1029

Oh Bridge I'm good keeping busy with work and other random things. Oh and dont ever say that lol!!!!!!

bout2break69

Best- do what you want, not what other people want. It's you and your fiancée day and you'll be the ones who remember it best.- given to me by my awesome moh I couldn't live without:) worst- forget the wedding, it's pointless to get married, it's just a piece of paper. use the money to go on an awesome vacation instead! - coming from a family member who I won't mention for his own sake lol.