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caligrl62610

So I sent an email to my catering manager to ask her what the duties of my coordinator would be. I was concerned about who was going to transport my floral arrangements from the ceremony site to the reception site. ( I am getting married at a hotel so it is on the same property) She emailed me and told me that would be one of my coordinators jobs. This bothers me like no other. What am I supposed to do, recruit some of my guest to take them over there? It bothers me and I think its tacky and I want my guest to enjoy themselves and not being working for me. Am I being crazy and worrying for nothing?

Merry Ann

i'm confused, do you not have a coordinator? i thought from your first sentence you did, but then it sounds like you don't.  if not, I would ask a few close relatives (like your mom and mother in law).  they usually WANT something to do and love to feel that they are helping.  if you really hate the idea of asking any guests... i know sometimes girls on the knot that are getting married around the same time trade off being each other's day-of-coordinator to do exactly those types of things.  i didn't do this and really wish i had.  but I can tell you  that friends and family did everything for us and were just wonderful about it.  they really just wanted it to be the best day for us, so I wouldn't worry too much if you need to lean on them to help with certain logistics!

bluedimplett

hmmm.... its really hard to answer this. I got married this past weekend at a hotel. Ceremony/reception site were at the hotel. To be quite honest i didnt know what exact duties my "Wedding coordinator" were. So, in my case my wedding coordinator pretty much did what i asked her to do. Granted, i did very nicely and always ask "is it possible that this can be done" i was always scared to ask for anything, becuase i truely didnt know what the limitations were with her and her team. They did transport my ceremony flowers to the reception site. They also set up my wedding cake as well (and she did tell me that they dont ever set up wedding cakes, due to fear of cake toppling over, but since it was a easy set up, she agreed to it) now, i did ask about transporting the ceremony flowers to my hotel room after and that is when she said they would not be able to do that. I think its because this is a duty that was being asked for after the reception was over. Although, her staff was very nice and did help me move the flowers afterwards.in any case, i guess the best way to put it is "If you were having your ceremony site and reception site at two different locations, then how would you of handled transporting the flowers?" that may be the best i can give you, and hopefully it helps. Oh and my answer to my own question is "The bridal party" (if the hotel had not agreed to transport the flowers for me) Well, i hope this helped.