I was visiting Family this weekend my soon to be uncle (one of like 5) asked if I had written my Bridezilla note to myself yet and having NO idea what he was talking about I asked him to explain. He told me his daughter (who's wedding I attended two years ago) had been to a wedding where the the Bride made them shell out all kinds of money like going to a spa, hair, shoes dress, dying of shoes etc, and when they voiced their concerns about how they can't afford it their friend went insane and on a rant of "this is my day" blah blah blah and so my soon to be cousin and her maid of honor vowed not to act like that on her big day, so they wrote notes to one another reminding them of why they were there and what was actually more important so if they started to go off the deep end they would remember to come back to reality.
I thought this was brilliant. I have been in SOOOO many weddings and I appericate that brides want their day to be special but the bride needs to remember that yes it is her day however you are asking your friends and family to join you and spend THEIR money to come celebrate with you so if they say they can't afford it you don't have a right to get pissed off. Not everyone has the strings you may have to spend. Don't expect your bridal party to put themselves in debt for your wedding. That is just plain rude.
I think I will ask my maid of honor to write a letter and myself just to be on the safe side as last thing I need to do is become a bridezilla. If anything my bridesmaids are telling me I am to lack!
As my mother told me, noone is really going to remember what flowers where up, if your shoes matched or exactly what the colors were. They remember the fun they had, the people and sharing that moment with you.