MOH

jjhumdy

Thanks for the advice.

mrs.dilligaf

It sounds like she may be having some financial troubles and not want to burden you.  Ordering the dress is important to do on a timeline.  Have you set a "we need to order them or they aren't going to be here in time" date?

As for the shower... Step back and read this.  It's May.  Your shower is 5 months away.  It is too early to send out invitations.  You have already done the buying.  If I was being someones MOH and they wanted me to plan a shower this early (besides POSSIBLY the venue), I would probably back away slowly.  I've done lots of showers, and none of them required that much work.  I know that it is hard when you're in planning mode to not want everything done, but not everyone is on our same timeline. 

Good luck!

jjhumdy

Yes, I have set a we need to order the dress timeline. I was only trying to offer help given the situation.. I'll relax and enjoy..


Thanks for not making me feel attacked...

melanieandbrad

A shower is not a requirement.  Your MOH may not be in a financial position to throw you a shower.  She may also be stressed with what's going on in her life and can't plan a shower right now.  Give it some time. Talk to her and figure out what's going on, especially if you need to order dresses.

julialynnjones

I think you are expecting too much from your MOH.  I was the MOH for my sister's wedding and I was shocked by how expensive everything got by the end of the process (shower, bachelorette party, BM dress, etc.).  Maybe your mom or other relatives could throw the wedding shower?

The only things that you should expect from your MOH and bridesmaids should be a bachelorette party, bridesmaid dresses, and a toast during the reception.  Anything else they add to that package is just an added bonus.  Ultimately, it's your wedding day, and it won't mean the same to them as it does to you.

GoBucksOH

jjhumdy - Just for future reference, its bad netiquette to DD (dirty delete) your original post.