Any older brides like me out there?

baboox

I am an older bride (40s) and am having some odd experiences when dealing with bridal vendors.  Dress clerks assuming I am the mother of the bride. etc.  Anyone else having similar issues?  It is really taking lots of the fun out of it.

ungraceful13

Not an older bride but I am sorry you are experiencing that. That sounds awful. Totally the other direction age-wise but my best friend constantly had vendors doubting she was old enough to get married. They kept going "Honey, you are way too young to get married. You need to wait until you have grown up." Or little girls like you shouldn't be getting married. She was 24 but looked like 15. It made her cry on more than one occasion. 

HSchall

I am 37 and my fiance is 47 and wedding vendors have thought he was my father (I guess I look young).  I think it is sort of funny.  I wouldn't let other people's views of how old you should be when you get married bother you. We are both getting married for the second time and get all sorts of comments from others about why we are making such a big deal out of a second marriage--I just ignore it and move on.

annelou81

I'm sorry you are having that experience, that's dissapointing! You'd think these days with so many people waiting to get married until they are older and also people having second marriages in their 40s and 50s that vendors would be able to roll with it. It is business for them afterall, right? Try not to let them get you down, this is one of the happiest times of your life!

hccpsu

Yes, I had that experience (I was 45 when we got married last year).  I got several "YOU'RE the bride?" comments.  And people would also assume I'd already been married and divorced and had kids.  At Bridal and Formal, one salesperson asked if our kids were coming with us to our destination wedding... I was like, "Huh? What kids?"  People really can be clueless sometime!

Just make sure to flaunt your ring when you go up to a vendor