Dress Anxiety

xobride

I know this is completely irrational, but I have to get it out somewhere.  I'm terrified that my dress is going to be screwed up.  I keep seeing all these posts on the the attire board about salons screwing up or the maker screwing up and I'm terrified that something like that is going to happen to my dress.

There's also the issue of it not being exactly how it looked when I tried it on because I changed the neckline and added a belt.  I'm not worried about the neckline, but what if I hate the belt?  It will be sewn onto the dress so there won't be any going back.  I was so sure I would love it when I saw it on the other dress on the model, but now I see that same belt on that same model and think it makes her look like a stick with no hourglass shape at all.

I found 2 pictures online of actual brides who had tried on the same dress (the one with the belt) and none of them are from an angle that I can really judge how it will look.  FI says it will be fine, but it's really starting to freak me out.  I already know it's going to have to be altered because I will have lost almost 20 pounds since I was originally measured, but I had planned for that.

I'm afraid of it being too long to hem, too short, hating the belt, having 10 different kinds of lace where there should only be one.  Being too big to alter, being too small to alter.  Seriously, I know it's crazy, but I'm going crazy worrying and I'm not a very patient person to begin with so having to wait 2 more months to know that it's all going to be OK is not helping.

OK, I'm done now.

MeaganR12

I agree with shatzi, the belt really shouldn't be an issue to alter at all. And every single time I see a belt on a wedding dress I think it gives the bride/model more of an hourglass shape, definitely not less.

I know it's hard to relax, but it will all be ok. I think I've only seen you in the pic you posted in your proposal thread, but judging from that, I think you could wear a paper bag and still look amazing

k8888

xobride I don't know if I'm mixing you up with someone else, but did you order a Casablanca gown? If yes, don't worry too much about it. I also got a custom neckline on my Casablanca and it came out even better than I could have imagined. They do custom work alllll the time and Ive heard their work is always spot on. If I AM confusing you with someone else, Im sure it'll be fine either way!

xobride

schatzi - That would make me nervous, too.  You're right, though, I need to stop reading the horror stories, but it's so hard not to!  I'm glad to know about the belt.  I paid an extra $125 for it so I hope it lives up to my expectations, but it's nice to know that I'm not "married" to it.

meagan - You're so sweet!  Thank you

k8888 - Yes, I did order a Casablanca (really good memory!) and it's nice to hear that all went well with yours and you've heard good things about them.

bridetobe71412

I think everyone has anxieties about their dress for various reasons (how much did we spend?? how long will I wear it?? how many photos will there be of me in it??) but you're going to look spectacular, and I'm sure your vision is spot-on for what you want to look like.

FWIW, I love belts on dresses and I think it really accentuates waists, so you're going to look more curvy (but in a good way!) with a belt than without one. And yes I agree with PP that they can easily un-sew belts if all else fails

littlemoments324

breathe girlfriend!!  I'm sure the dress will be fine!! 

ceglare4

It'll all be okay, I promise! I ordered a Casablanca dress too and made sure to buy my shoes before ordering it so that they would cut the dress to fit my height. My dress has an intricate lace pattern all the way around the bottom so hemming it after the fact would've ruined some of it. I was so nervous that it would be too long or too short but that I'd be stuck. It came in last November and it was PERFECT, perfect! All that worrying for nothing. If you work with professionals, chances are things will turn out better than you expected

butterflyjumper1

I am sure your dress will be fine!!! totally agree with the others - belts are adorable, can probably be re-altered easier than you might guess, and the belt is going to give you MORE of a waist, not less.  non-human models are not something you should worry about or compare yourself to, lol.

I realized when I was walking into the salon over the weekend that I was suddenly terrified that the wrong dress had been ordered, that it wouldn't look right, etc. etc.  But that didn't happen!! And I am sure it won't happen for you either  

Do you know when your dress will be here??? The waiting is the hardest part.  But if I remember correctly, your dress is stunning, so you have nothing to worry about

xobride

Thanks ladies.  I know it's irrational, but posting and getting your feedback helped calm my nerves.  It's not supposed to come in until the end of June.  I didn't realize how long you had to order in advance and we got lucky on when we went to be able to have it rush ordered so it would be here in time.  2 more months to wait, but I have lots of things to do to keep my mind off of it and off the frackin' attire board! LOL

butterflyjumper1

hahahaha yes, seriously, stay off the attire board!! 1/3 of the posts on there are the frantic girls who had major screw ups with their dress.  lots of them typically involve David's bridal alterations, or ordering the wrong size, or other freak accidents. so stay off of there, and know that those girls with the screw ups probably account for less than 1% of all brides.

xobride

Yeah, I'm starting to realize that.  At first, I enjoyed it because people would post pics of their dresses that they were in love with and it seemed all about the wedding porn, but now it's all about the wedding nightmares.  We need a separate wedding porn board! LOL