BFFs wedding

meggles114

So my BFF (who's getting married next month) posted a status on Facebook reminding ppl who got their invites to send back their RSVP cards ASAP so they can get a head count and find out how many additional invites can be sent out!  OMG  I feel bad for the B listers!

meggles114

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_bffs-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:b6124e20-3204-4298-9474-2a701be131ecPost:1dd3b5ee-30a1-404e-8a93-fb48f9cedc7a">Re: BFFs wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Ouch. I feel bad for her, too! She's really embarrassing herself in many ways. Is there a polite way for you to tell your bestie that she might want to take that down? I'm not sure there is... :-/
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</div><div>Yeah, actually it wasn't a post from today either, it was actually from about a week ago but I just didn't see it until now!  I don't know what she is thinking, nor anyway to tactfully respond!  I guess I'll just let her do her thing!</div><div>
</div><div>I think she originally invited about 80ish people, that definitely meets her venue requirement.  Last we talked she was fine w/ leaving as is, but her FI thinks there needs to be 100 people there or the place will look empty, he keeps giving her names and addresses of more people to invite.</div><div>
</div><div>I personally think that is ridiculous!  LOL  We haven't sent our invites out yet, but have 71 on our invite list and a 50 minimum for our venue.  If we end up with a good amount of "No" RSVPs, I'll be happy to have the extra money to spend on our honeymoon or something for our house!</div><div>
</div><div>LOL, sometimes I think I am too practical... haha</div><div>
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Melissa.hylton

I post that on facebook too and I havent had 1 complaint from anyone who did not get an invite. People shouldnt just assume they are invited to certain things. 

In this day of age we have evites, invitations, email and fb. I consider facebook easier to contact people sometimes instead of calling or emailing. I dont see anything wrong with her sending out a reminder. If people are hurt over it that is between HER and THEM. I dont have a cell phone so I dont text. and Nobody answers their phones anymore so facebook it is. 

meggles114

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_bffs-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:b6124e20-3204-4298-9474-2a701be131ecPost:2b695087-9179-4801-b11d-08c65ae5bdb4">Re: BFFs wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]I post that on facebook too and I havent had 1 complaint from anyone who did not get an invite. People shouldnt just assume they are invited to certain things.  In this day of age we have evites, invitations, email and fb. I consider facebook easier to contact people sometimes instead of calling or emailing. I dont see anything wrong with her sending out a reminder. If people are hurt over it that is between HER and THEM. I dont have a cell phone so I dont text. and Nobody answers their phones anymore so facebook it is. 
Posted by Melissa.hylton[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'm not saying I think there is anything wrong with the RSVP reminder, just the part about needing a head count to send out a 2nd wave of invitiations to fill up the reception room because her FI thinks that's necessary!</div><div>
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Melissa.hylton

Maybe they minimized their list to the point that they didnt realize that their head count would be so small. 

I know a couple friends who had this happen and they didnt attend the wedding because of it. But like I said that is on her and them. If people dont want to attend for that reason that who cares. People who want to attend will let her know. 

littlemoments324

I don't think the problem is her posting "Don't forget to send in your RSVP's!  the deadline is fast approaching...!" But for her to add "...so that additonal invites can go out...." thats what is wrong with her post.  But it's posted now & nothing can be done, but others learn from her mistake

BmoreBride311

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_bffs-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:b6124e20-3204-4298-9474-2a701be131ecPost:d4d47b97-ebc9-42ee-addd-4ed1422506a8">Re: BFFs wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think the problem is her posting "Don't forget to send in your RSVP's!  the deadline is fast approaching...!" But for her to add "...so that additonal invites can go out...." thats what is wrong with her post.  But it's posted now & nothing can be done, but others learn from her mistake =)
Posted by littlemoments324[/QUOTE]

Exactly!

mbody

Ew to b-lists and it's extremely tacky for her to put that on FB. And honestly, I think people should keep most wedding related things off fb. I'm not necessarily talking about a '1 month to go!' post, but RSVPing issues, yes. But, that's just me.. it might be an up pop op.

butterflyjumper1

oh my god! b-lists are bad enough when they are kept secret. I cann't believe she posted that on facebook!!!!

I agree with littlemoments - if she had just said "RSVP deadline is approaching!" that would have been a different story (even though some people might wonder why they hadn't been invited and potentially be offended). it's the b-list part that shocks me!

I have not posted A N Y T H I N G about our wedding on facebook (other than our engagement pictures and some shower pictures) for fear of people being offended/asking questions about not being invited. I think that is the best way to go. Obviously, friends/bridesmaids/etc. have posted things on my wall about the wedding - but I think its best to keep quiet about it.

meggles114

I am the same way... try to keep the FB wedding planning posts to a minimum!