Overwhelmed

popbritney

this overwhelmed feeling is new to me. I've been planning my wedding since vday last year (proposal day) it seems. I was ahead of the game venue book caterer officiant videographer, photog dress ordered Ordered invites, save the dates, favor boxes napkins. All before July of last year. Now with wedding coming up 4/28. I feel there is tons left to do, prob cause im on this DIY kick. Making place cards and table number holders, sashes for girls dresses. Corsages boutonnieres, flower girl basket, dress fitting, address invites and mail them out, pick songs ect Im feeling like imma have a meltdown. I already dropped out of a play i was supposed to be in cause doing this working full time teaching( which has a ton of duties all in it's own) is overwhelming. Maybe if I trusted others to help, and stop trying to be super woman!!!! Ughhhh the closer it gets the more anxiety i feel. Maybe this weekend I'll just do everything I can. Sorry for the complaining

chickenbut143

It's def not complaining girl - we're all right here with you.  There are times when i feel the exact same as you do - I work full time & go to school full time.

I totally understand, but try to make a list of what i need to do and when.  I've also made a priority list - what is the most imortant.  I focused on getting those things done first.  I'm like you, still working some DIY's and getting stuff finalized...i think alot of us are!  

Take a min and just breathe!    Is there anyone who can help you? Your FI maybe?

    

meganb1977

No need to feel like you're all alone in your planning.  Have you told your fiance how you feel and asked him to pitch in and take some of the burden off of you?  There are a lot of decisions that he should be involved in.  As far as the DIY projects, if fiance is all thumbs, do you have handy friends or relatives who would come over for a craft party if you provide refreshments?  Can you take it one project at a time and break it down into smaller goals where you will be okay if you finish a project by a certain day and then go on to the next project?

cdbishop

Definitely understandable.  I would try to make a list of your projects and set out to accomplish one each week.  I am like you and hate asking others for help, but at some point you just need to open up and let them help. 

popbritney

Thank you ladies!!!!! Great advice, I re did my list of to do things. Asked my mommy and fiancé for help. Came home did my table names. My fiance painted flower girl basket, I showed him how and then I started doing it, but let go and worked on other things and and basket came out great. So two things done tonight, because I let go!!!!! So happy mom is going to address invites for me, so I feel a bit more relaxed!!!!!! Thank you all again

rlavach

I totally feel you. I'm similar in that I've bitten off more than I can chew and try to do it all myself. I just recently realized that I need to delegate. I highered a DOC to help me out the day-of. My intention was to get to the venues early that morning to set up myself, but that is just madness. There is no way I'd have the time. That's now her job.

For DIY projects, I've cut out what I truly don't need and am going to have my BM help me on a few. She's offered and now it's time to take her up on her offer.