RSVP's

kccgcc

I am getting married in 26 days. My RSVP's were due a couple of days ago and needless to say I still have about 30-40 that haven't replied. Is it ok to call people and ask them? There is some people I'm not that close to and it just seems awkward. But I need to give the venue a final number on the 5th. (By the way, people saying " I'm gonna try to make it"  or " I might bring someone" is driving me crazy!!! I need answers people! lol)

ramisenh

Absolutely you can call them! You need to know so that you can get a final count and people will understand that. I was in the same boat and needed to hunt about 30-40 people down. I used a combination of calling, Facebooking, and texting to hunt everyone down. I also made FI call people from his side. Best of luck!

Madisonpenny

Yup, call them.

klwpaz

We have been calling people this week, too. I asked FI to call his family, and my mom offered to call her family. Maybe your FI or parents could help you do the same for the ones you're not close to.

We've had a few of the "if such and such happens we'll try to be there" also, but since we're doing most of our own food and not really paying per person, we are just marking them as if they'll show up. If they don't, oh well, there will be an empty chair or two. I know that's not helpful when you need an exact headcount. If they say they plan to try, I'd probably count them as a yes-- just because I'd hate to not have a space for them if they do actually decide to show up.

dramaqueen91087

Definitly call people. Or just contact them however you normally do. We had about 30 people not respond but after calling/texting/facebooking we're down to only about 10 people. If I don't find those people by the end of the week they will be no's. I can't afford to just guess that they might come.

michelle11988

I agree with pp's just start tracking them down and tell them you need a definitive answer by July 3rd so in case they forget you still have 2 day to track them down.  This is what I did and a lot of people didn't realize the date had passed already so they were easy to get an answer out of.

littlemoments324

CALL! Text, FB message email!  of course   Our deadline was yesterday and we got 2!!! RSVP's...we're still waiting on 19 RSVP's...

mekiakoo

Of course. If they are people who you don't really know but your FI's family or your parents know who they are- they can contact them for you.

klwpaz

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_rsvps-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:bae525b9-8b8f-4663-b17a-c1194e09fee6Post:e234ba40-2ce6-43c3-bafe-90c1b672a59d">Re: RSVP's</a>:
[QUOTE] If they give you wishy-washy answers, politely but firmly tell them that, unfortunately, you need a yes or a no. Of course, you can't tell them that one major reason is that each "yes" is costing you $$$, whether or not they come (not saying that you woudl!), but you can say that the vendors need a solid count. If they're still uncertain, you can politely say that you can give them until X date at the very latest. For those you can't reach directly, you can leave them messages saying that, if you don't hear back by X date (a couple days in the future), you will mark them down as not coming. Good luck!
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I like this idea better than my plan. I think we'll do this instead.