Shower Gift Question

Amanda1443994

I may be overthinking this but I'm a little confused. My shower is this Sunday and today I received a gift from my registry from my aunt. As far as I know, she is coming to my shower. Was I not supposed to open it? Should I thank her on Sunday when I see her? I'm just confused as to why she mailed it instead of bringing it in person..It was in a generic Macy's box and I had just ordered something the other day so I figured it was what I bought.

bridetobe71412

Hmmm.

It's hard because how would you have known that it was from your Aunt and thus for the shower - rather than someone sending a wedding gift early - without opening the package? I dont' think it's that bad that you opened it, but could you maybe package it back up and bring it with you to the shower? I'm sure your Aunt won't mind - after all, she sent it to your house rather than bringing it with her, which was her mistake anyway.

FWIW, my mom received a few packages for me at her house in Philly and is going to bring them down to our beach house for my shower. She checked who they were from and determined they were definitely shower gifts, rather than just early wedding presents. She wouldn't let me open them when I was home, though. hahaha

ETA: I didn't read the Macy's aspect before posting. There's your explanation - you can just say "Sorry, Aunt Jane, I totally thought it was this X I ordered! I was so surprised and so excited to see that it was actually Y that I REALLY wanted from my registry! You are so thoughtful! Thank you so much!" etc. etc. I'd still bring it with me to the shower, even if it's not totally packaged up.

Amanda1443994

Ok thank you! I'll probably just bring it to the shower then. This was the first gift I received in the mail so I wasn't sure what to do. I'm kind of worried now that she might not be coming to the shower since she mailed the gift. I guess I'll find out in a few days!

butterflyjumper1

Amanda my mom had to do the same thing as bridetobe's mom. Some of our relatives shipped shower presents to my parent's house, hoping that my mom would take them to my shower so I could open them in front of everyone.  I would actually check with her - it is better to check that to not know what to do with it. Say "I receive a package in the mail today, it was so generous of you to send it! Would you like me to bring it with me to the shower?" and you will get an answer. my mom did something similar for the relatives who sent her presents and it wasn't awkward for her at all to just ask.

michelle11988

I would just bring it with you and reopen it there.  I don't think anyone or her will notice or know about you opening it the first time.

littlemoments324

Maybe it wasn't available in the store to purchase so she ordered it online & sent it to you instead?

Amanda1443994

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_shower-gift-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:bdb7dea6-abdb-4d27-885e-ffe587fabd2dPost:8795864d-878c-45f2-b091-4d08729fc4d3">Re: Shower Gift Question</a>:
[QUOTE]Maybe it wasn't available in the store to purchase so she ordered it online & sent it to you instead?
Posted by littlemoments324[/QUOTE]

Yea, I was thinking that might have been what happened. I just feel bad now that I opened it ): It didn't have anything designating it as a gift before I opened it so I just assumed it was what I ordered. I'll just bring it on Sunday.

bridetobe71412

Don't feel too bad! If she REALLY didn't want you to know about it and/or open it before the shower, she could have had it sent to her address and brought it with her.

kidlets2

Maybe she wasn't sure that it would make it to her house in time. She could still be planning on coming to the shower but this way if the gift didn't make it to her in time, she could have said 'my gift is on it's way to you' or something.

I'd bring it & re open it at the shower.