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honeymoon registry

i was wondering if anyone has done a honeymoon registry and or of they have heard of anyone doing that and how successful was it?my fiance and i have all of our home needs taken care of, and what we would truly appreciate i smoney towards helping us go on a dream vacation. can anyone suggest legit websites to set this up?

Re: honeymoon registry

  • Some people frown greatly on HM registries. You know your family and friends best and can gauge their reaction better than anyone here.We used Traveler's Joy and it was great for us. We took a cruise and only registered for our extras and excursions. You should never use a HM registry to try to take a trip you couldn't otherwise afford, and you should have some sort of traditional registry as well.
  • Personally, I find the idea of honeymoon registries incredibly distasteful and tacky.  If you can't pay for your sex-fest on your own, then don't go.If you honestly don't need anything (not even upgrades?) to your home needs, then don't register.  Period.  Then you will get cash.  But to ask people to pay for your sexfest is so... wrong and dirty.  Not to mention, a lot of people don't trust those things, and you will end up having to pay some sort of fee to withdraw the money.  Just don't do it.
  • This question will get a lot of different responses. Personally, I think it is a good idea. I wouldn't register for things like hotel and flight, just extras. We thought about doing it and had great responses from people. Many people liked the idea of helping us make memories instead of a buying us a blender! I also don't look at my HM as a sex fest, not sure if many people do:) That term for a HM makes it seem cheap and dirty, which it is not. I look at it as a time to relax, and celebrate the start of a marriage with the person I love. Try honeyfund...it's free:)
  • I find them incredibly tacky.  If you don't register, most people will give you cash.  Then you can spend it on your HM, and no one else gets a cut.  I don't understand the desire to let someone else get a % of your gifts.
  • To the poster who mentioned someone's grandma giving you a trip- Did you ask for it? The HM registry was listed on the shower invite along with the BB&B registry. FI grandmother had the OPTION of PICKING WHATEVER she WANTED to buy...she chose a memorable excursion.I have to agree with everything nugget is saying-what IS the difference really? I'm still not convinced that registering for $100+ sheet set is any different then registering for $10+  excursion.
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  • but it really bugs me when people need to put their plane tickets and hotel accomodations on there because they really can't afford the trip on their own.---agree. we booked our flights and hotel far in advance of putting together the HM registry.
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  • Wow, just reading all these responses is appalling! Some of them are pretty tactless; quite ironic as they are bashing your idea/question as tacky. Why do we ladies have to be so catty? I am indifferent about honeymoon registries but here are some issues that may come up: - some people don't trust the site and may not use it; - some elderly people don't like to shop online, or don't know how to use the internet; - others prefer to bring a wrapped present to the wedding; - if you don't register because you're hoping for cash, this might work or not as people will just pick out a gift for you - as a pp pointed out, you may not get everything you want so you have to be prepared to pay for the entire honeymoon yourself I have friends who have used Honeyfund. I think the way it works is that essentially when gift givers "buy" you a present, they just get a certificate to print out and put in the wedding card along with a check. So the money does not go to the site (hence no fees). And instead of just giving you a plain check, the giver can actually feel like they are giving you cash for something specific (like a massage for two). ps. don't let some of these awful responses get to you. I'm sure there's plenty of retorts against the "funded sex-fest" comments
  • We had a honeymoon registry, and it was awesome!  We didn't register for the major stuff like airfare, hotel, etc because we, like other people on here, didn't think it was right.  We only registered for excursions that we knew would be super cool.  So we registered for a helicopter ride, private island picnic, ATV tour, etc.  Our friends loved the idea, as did my parents.  If people didn't like it, they didn't buy from it, plain and simple.  People that were invited to our wedding know us, know we are not tacky people, and would never expect gifts anyway, so I wasn't worried that people would think it was tacky that we had a honeymoon registry.  And in response to the claim that wedding presents are supposed to last a lifetime, the presents we received from our honeymoon registry will certainly last a lifetime in the form of awesome memories.  Do you really think I'm going to keep those towels, pots and pans, etc for the rest of my life?  NOPE!  But I will always have awesome memories of my honeymoon and all the great stuff we got to do.We used Honeyfund for our site, and they were great.  There were only fees if people paid by paypal (and those were paypal fees).  The gift giver did not incur any fees, it simply came out of the final gift.
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  • We did a HM registry through Travelersjoy and a traditional registry through Target. We received approx. 1/3 our gifts through Target and the other 1/3 through the HM Registry. The remainder was either gift cards or cash. Welcome to the year 2009 - everyone is different, some of the rules you thought were set in stone no longer apply and yes, Aunt Betty does know how to use a computer and will buy you a sunset dinner cruise off your HM registry. Do what ever you feel comfortable with. I wanted to give my guests options and I am so glad I did. BTW: where I'm from the registries are used for the bridal shower only. Nearly everyone gives money/checks at the wedding.
  • We are moving to a new country and cannot bring a lot of things with us. We did have traditional registries and a honeymoon registry through Honeyfund.com. The honeymoon registry was a big hit - lots of our friends and family liked it. We liked honeyfund because it is free to use. We did set it up so guests could use the pay pal option which had a minor fee which we pay. If you choose to go this route - put effort into developing a nice web page that includes details about where you will go and what you want to do - it makes it more personal. We leave for our honeymoon tomorrow and we will be sending thank you postcards to folks for the locations and events they gave to us. HTH.
  • I love how the girl asks if anyone has done a honeymoon registry and what are legit websites and some girls freak out and get heated!  Who cares if you think its tacky?!? Are you going to the wedding? No!  I find jumping all over someone for not agreeing with what they want to do is incredibly tacky itself.  We are doing a Honeymoon registry, and I am darn proud of it!!  Ours is done right through the travel agent and there is no fee!  My thought is that if someone I am inviting thinks its tacky then we have a traditional registry to choose from.  And if they disgust it so much, I hope they do not bother coming to my wedding!  Its our day and we will do what we want!  So go on hunnie and do your honeymoon registry! 
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  • I think the important thing to remember is that when you give someone a gift, it's not about YOU and what YOU think is right, it's supposed to be for the people you are giving the gift to. Having said that, if someone wants money towards their HM, then give it to them. If they want a drill from HD for their house, then give it to them. I mean, who cares? It's something that they will enjoy and share together. That's the idea of a wedding gift, period. if you think a HM registry is tacky then registries in general are tacky. Think about it, you make a list of things you want and people buy it. ANd trust me, many people register for things they cannot afford on their own so what in the world is that judgement about when it's regarding your HM? We all have our opinions, backrounds, etc. but what we don't have to do is judge each other. I see it every time I hear about a wedding. OMG I can't believe she went barefoot at her wedding, that's not proper. I can't believe they used a HM registry, that's tacky. Give it up and enjoy life. THe beauty of life is that we all enjoy different things. Let's embrace it. I might not register at REI for a tent but my friend did and she and her fiance will LOVE getthing a tent and camping together. I hate camping but who cares, the gift is for THEM and something for THEIR lives, not mine. Some people are not 22 and don't need really anything for the house. I actually think it's tackier and more wasteful to upgrade to fancier stuff just because you can instead of doing something like a HM registry. I mean, do those of us in our thirties who have lived on our own for years really need all new sets of everything? I think not. Wow, the judgement on this post is astounding. I don't normally chime in but on this one, I just had to. I think some of you should relax and stop worrying about what other people are doing. Life is a lot more fun when you stop thinking there is a "right" way.

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  • Well said wagnerj3!
  • I couldn't have said it better Wagner!
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  • My FI and I are doing a honeymoon registry and I would not change it for anything. It also was not my idea, it was my mother's idea. I agree with Wagner.. A HM is something that you "want" just like a registry at a store. For those of us who already have a house and everything that goes in it, we do not WANT anything for our house. Therefore, why not spend the money towards the honeymoon. I'm tell ya.. if someone buys me a present and it is something that I do not need. I will be returning that sucker and putting the money toward the HM anyways. I can not believe the people who call the HM a sex fest. That is awful. Come one and grow up.. for real...
  • Hey Lem10585: I am in the Philadelphia Area as well, what travel agent does the Honeymoon Registry?? I would feel better about going through an agent!! Thanks!
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  • We are actually in the reading area outside of philly.  We used Liberty Travel.
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  • I contacted Liberty through their website and it looks like they charge a 7% fee did you get around that somehow?
  • I used liberty and they said they would wave the fee, then the office we were using closed and our agent got fired. It wad a NIGHTMARE getting them to honor it and we still have to pay the fee. Hopefully they will send a refund check, but as they have yet to keep a single promise to us, we'll see. I love the registry, but I HATE liberty. I would never recommend them.
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