Is asking for travel vouchers as a gift cheesy?

Mapper71

My fiance and I are flying back to my home state for our wedding next year. We seem to have 2 of everything as it is and what we don't have, we don't need. We do not want to receive actual things for gifts as we have no way of taking them all home. What we REALLY want is to have people donate towards a honeymoon. We would like to go to this resort in Costa Rica and with plane tickets, a weeks stay and spending money, we are looking at it costing us around $2500-$3000. I know they have honeymoon travel voucher sites but as much as we would love to ask people to do this, I feel that it is a very cheesy thing to do. Is there a way to go about asking for this or should we avoid it altogether? If we don't do this, then we feel like saying on the invitations "Please no gifts" which is probably even cheesier.

lyndausvi

personally I'm not a fan.  But then again both our families are gifts for showers, cash for weddings.  So I we got the cash without asking for it.

2xtime

I don't think it is right to ask you guests to pay for your HM. More than likely you will get some cash gifts that you can then put towards a HM, but to come right out and ask for the money, is rude.  FI and I have more than 2 of everything because he has 2 homes and then I had all my household things when we moved in together.  We always still find things we need or want for our homes, whether it is something new or to upgrade what we already have.  People can send gifts to you so you don't have to bring them home from the wedding.Plan a HM you can afford or wait to see if you get enough cash as gifts and then go to Costa Rica later.

kaesha

I think it's tacky too. Don't register, don't say anything on the cards - let people do what they want. You'll probably find that without a registry to bounce off of, most people will give cash.

BelhurstBride

The point of gifts at wedding showers and weddings is to help the newlyweds set up their new home. If you honestly are all set then you need to have family spread the word that you don't need anything; you don't get to substitute a vacation as a gift.

glam70s

In my family, the point of the gifts is simply to show your support of the marriage, not necessarily to help the newlyweds get set up in their homes. So in my family, people most often give cash, which can then be put toward anything that makes you happy. They have no problem donating toward a honeymoon, because doing so is no different than a household item when it comes to showing your support of and love for the couple.Personally, although I would prefer contributions toward the honeymoon, I think we're just going to remain mute on the subject. We're not going to register anywhere, we're not going to put anything on the invites. Anyone who knows us (presumably everyone who will be there) knows that we definitely do not need more 'stuff'...

alithebride

please no gifts is tacky. people want to give you gifts! if you don't want to seem ungrateful-get a registry at a local place and then return the gifts later.you want to ask your guests for a week's spending money for your vacation?! remember-you may get cash for your wedding presents BUT if you're going on your HM right after the wedding or close after you won't have time to spend $ given at the wedding to pay for it. book a vacation you can afford then use any $ given for spending, etc.. on that vacation.i don't like to pay for people's vacations but that's me. if you think your guests would be ok with putting your gifts towards your HM that's fine-but remember-you still have to pay for it-they just add to it-and since you don't know how much you'll get you still need to plan and book a vacay that you can afford.

Leah&Christian09

Yes, a honeymoon registry is tacky.  If you really don't need anything, don't register.  People will either take the hint and give you cash, or choose something on their own. 

kochenderfer

I personally dont think its tacky to have a HM registry. It's a time to celebrate your marriage. I think people will want to help you enjoy that time together. Also, I had a friend who didn't registar anywhere and people still bought them gifts...mostly things they didn't want and never used! Guests want to get you something, if not to be nice, then out of being polite. I think you might as well get use out of what they get you, even if that means you'd use it on your honeymoon! good luck!

duckie1905

Really, aside from the fact that I find HM registries/vouchers, etc tacky tacky I don't think you should take a HM you can't afford on your own then ask your guests to pay for it.Also, "no gifts please" is inappropriate.  Let your guests decide whether or not they will give you a gift.