How long after the wedding...

alithebride · October 2010

"IMHO ~ if you don't leave within a week of your wedding, maybe a month absolute tops, its not a honeymoon anymore.... just a vacation you take with your spouse. "

LOL we'll see you on the nest sometime complaining about how you have to celebrate your anniversary 3 days later.

our HM was 15 nights. we couldn't go right after so we waited 3 weeks. my dh is nypd and they have odd vacation scheduling rules. trust me-it was a fantastic HM. sometimes you have to make adjustments to traditional thinking and do what's good for you and what fits.
we just spent 2.5 weeks all over italy which was technically our 5 year anniversary trip. it was 3 weeks before our anniversary. does that not count!?!? LOL ::eye roll::

LadyLaLa21 · October 2010

we're getting married 01/07/11 and the honeymoon has been proposed for some time in July. Between finishing up classes and working, we just couldn't fit it in during the school year. Working and settling in to our new home was just more important than going on vacation.

ivyrose13 · October 2010

I'm getting married in September of next year on the coast of Maine (where I grew up). We are planning a small get-away right after the wedding to a local bed and breakfast for a couple of days to relax. Then, likely in February, we'll go on our actual honeymoon. We have to split things up because I work in public schools, and I can't take a week off of work in September. We like the idea of splitting things up because A). All we are going to want to do is relax the first few days after the wedding, so why go somewhere fancy to sleep?

. It spreads out the excitement of the wedding, we've been waiting our entire lives for this, why have it be over in a week? C). It gives us time to save up for the honeymoon that WE want to take.

texas1805 · October 2010

We're going on a cruise and were leaving the reception about 4pm to drive 1/2 way and staying in a hotel then waking up and driving the rest of the way in the morning. It works great for us. We feel like were sneaking away from everyone.

ninefivethree · October 2010

We're getting married 6/18/11 and not going anywhere until end of December. The wedding date is the only time that worked between fiancees board exams and start of clinical rotations. He doesn't know what his schedule is like for rotations and we didnt want to risk planning it during a busy time. We won't be able to go on a trip until December bc I'm hoping to start med school next fall and that's the only time I'd have a break

BlondeMoment123 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_long-after-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:1e996bc1-71e1-49ab-be11-a14f6254fab5Post:69038128-993c-4334-8595-f65eb288c9a4">Re: How long after the wedding...</a>:
[QUOTE]Kaesha: Amen sister! FI is returning overseas for work within days after the wedding, so we won't see each other again until late next year - does that negate our "honeymoon"? I don't think so... For those brides who can plan their honeymoon close to their weddings, good for you! Go for it! But for those of us who have to sacrifce such things so that our loved ones can ensure your freedoms to do so, don't negate our right to call our time together a "honeymoon". (whenever it we end up having it)
Posted by red1115[/QUOTE]

Amen!

Chasity08 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How long after the wedding... : Amen, sister. If you know that you can't go on your honeymoon until fall, why get married in spring?
Posted by sessionswedding[/QUOTE]

<div>I guess not everyone has the luxury to pick exactly when they're able to schedule their wedding and honeymoon. In order for us to have our honeymoon right after our wedding, it would involve having to leave while FI's son was with us for summer visitation. We have him from June 1 - August 1, and FI is not allowed to take vacation the first couple weeks of August, so it wasn't something that we could have our wedding right at the end of our visitation time either, as FI still wouldn't be able to leave, and then by the time he WOULD be able to leave, busy season hits at my work. So that is just how it works out for some people. And yes, I do fully believe that even though my FI and I are having to take our HM 4 months later that it is still considered our HM.</div>

sessionswedding · October 2010

What I'm saying is, why not get married 4 months later?

Laur0813 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]What I'm saying is, why not get married 4 months later?
Posted by sessionswedding[/QUOTE]

because getting married is more important.

let people do what they want. no one is hurting you by calling their honeymoons, minimoons, vacations, excursions, adventures. who cares? Why are you trying to take away someones honeymoon? who cares if you dont agree? its not your life. when someone postpones a honeymoon, it is often done so that nothing else in life is seriously put in jeopardy (jobs, education, etc).

Heather822 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]" IMHO ~ if you don't leave within a week of your wedding, maybe a month absolute tops, its not a honeymoon anymore.... just a vacation you take with your spouse. " LOL we'll see you on the nest sometime complaining about how you have to celebrate your anniversary 3 days later. our HM was 15 nights. we couldn't go right after so we waited 3 weeks. my dh is nypd and they have odd vacation scheduling rules. trust me-it was a fantastic HM. sometimes you have to make adjustments to traditional thinking and do what's good for you and what fits. we just spent 2.5 weeks all over italy which was technically our 5 year anniversary trip. it was 3 weeks before our anniversary. does that not count!?!? LOL ::eye roll::
Posted by alithebride[/QUOTE]

Yeah... doubtful.
Number 1 because thats just a silly thing to do, and Number 2 because I despise TheNest... precisely because of that whole collective mentality.

An anniversary is a recurring event.
A wedding is (ideally) once in a lifetime.
Huge difference.
::eye roll back::

regnidde · October 2010

We're leaving 3 or 4 days after the wedding to gives us a little time to deflate before running off to travel.

sessionswedding · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How long after the wedding... : because getting married is more important. let people do what they want. no one is hurting you by calling their honeymoons, minimoons, vacations, excursions, adventures. who cares? Why are you trying to take away someones honeymoon? who cares if you dont agree? its not your life. when someone postpones a honeymoon, it is often done so that nothing else in life is seriously put in jeopardy (jobs, education, etc).
Posted by herschle[/QUOTE]
Really? Who am I stopping from doing anything? All I'm saying is that if you're too busy with life to even take a few days off, you're too busy for a wedding. Unless you're having a JOP courthouse ceremony, and more power to you if you are.

staceytaylor0704 · October 2010

We are getting married on a Saturday, and leaving for the honeymoon the next morning. We are driving though, so its not like we have planes to catch or anything. We can take our time.

osumegs · October 2010

But, Manwaithiel, don't you know that's what you discuss at pre-marital counseling. It's not whether you are emotionally or mentally ready to take that leap into marriage. It's not about the stresses of combining finances, or whether or not you can communicate with your spouse. A better barometer of marital success is whether or not you have a job you can leave for a week or two immediately following the wedding! THAT is when you are ready to get married. If you work a demanding job, you just aren't quite ready. I really think you and your FI should have a talk about whether or not you are truly ready to marry. My FI and I are totally scheduling that talk tonight (oops, I work, maybe not

)

pantinkins · October 2010

We are getting married on Saturday 12/11/10 and were planning on having our honeymoon Monday through Friday or Saturday, but just found out that our friends are getting married the following Saturday 12/18/10, so I think we'll be leaving the day after the wedding. Hopefully it'll be an afternoon flight so we don't feel as rushed.

alithebride · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How long after the wedding... : Yeah... doubtful. Number 1 because thats just a silly thing to do, and Number 2 because I despise TheNest... precisely because of that whole collective mentality. An anniversary is a recurring event. A wedding is (ideally) once in a lifetime. Huge difference. ::eye roll back::
Posted by Heather822[/QUOTE]
LOL ok. But now, hopefully, you will open your eyes a bit and realize that not everyone can take their HM right away. Lucky for you that you could-not all of us can. Work schedules etc.. sometimes don't allow for it.
A 5 year anniversary is not a recurring event actually. It happens once.

bczican77 · October 2010

My fiance and I have lived together for over 2 years now (3 years by the time we actually tie the knot), so the idea of a "honeymoon" seemed a little ridiculous to us. Plus, I have kids from a previous marriage, so we've kinda put the horse before the cart! LOL

We are getting married Friday, June 24, 2011. We had decided it would be fun to spend the entire weekend with out of town guests as kind of a family reunion of sorts and that would be our so called honeymoon. But then one of his aunts offered us her beachhouse in California, so we thought, Why Not? It would be nice to spend some alone time together after all the hassle of planning the wedding, as well as my last semester of school. So, we are leaving for Cali the following Monday, June 27th and we will come back on Friday, July 1st in time to spend the long 4th of July weekend with the kiddos. :-)

We're calling it a "honeymoon" because for all intents and purposes, I guess that's what it is considered. But really, we just view it as a few days of relaxation as husband and wife before having to come back to reality! LOL!

All of this being said, I think everyone has a right to call the time after their wedding (at any time) whatever they want. It can be a honeymoon, vacation, getaway.. whatever. We are all individuals. We all view things differently. That's what makes this life unique.. we all have our own take on it! :-)

Catherine

Chasity08 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]What I'm saying is, why not get married 4 months later?
Posted by sessionswedding[/QUOTE]

Because then FI's son couldn't be there. And it's very important to us that he is there when we get married.

sessionswedding · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How long after the wedding... : Ummm, okay. The honeymoon is not a prerequisite to having a wedding. I don't get why you seem to think it is. You might not mean to sound this way, but you sound so incredibly self-centered and arrogant, and immature quite frankly in your approach to honeymoons and weddings. Are you telling people they should delay making a committment to their FIs for the sake of a vacation? Really? Because that's what you're telling them. As someone who is not even getting a honeymoon, I think I would have to slap you if you told me that I'm too busy to be having a wedding at all because I can't go on vacation for a couple days after the fact and I should just JOP it. I mean really, how dare you?
Posted by Manwaithiel[/QUOTE]
And again, the point is lost behind the veil of OMGSHEDOESN'TAGREEWITHMESHEMUSTDIE.

If you are so busy with school, work, whatever, that you can't even take time off, how do you think you're going to have enough time for a wedding? Honestly, truly, how do you think you'll do it?

If you're in the middle of a semester of college or grad school, Murphy's Law dictates that YOU WILL have to write a paper, study for a test, and work on a group project the weekend of your wedding.

If you don't take time off work, Murphy's Law dictates that YOU WILL be going on a business trip, or asked to work overtime, ESPECIALLY if that's your busy season at work.

If you are spending so much time studying and working that you can't stop for a few days, then you aren't going to have time for dress fittings, bridal showers, bachelor(ette) parties, bridal photos, favor and program assembly, rehearsals, rehearsal dinners, a wedding, a reception, and all of the out-of-town guests who will be expecting YOU to entertain them.

If you are getting married at a time in your life that you KNOW is so busy that you can't go on a honeymoon, then you'll be too busy for a wedding. I'm not saying that if you're busy your wedding doesn't count. I'm saying that if you're too busy for a honeymoon in April, THEN YOU'RE TOO BUSY TO GET MARRIED IN APRIL.

Manwaithiel · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How long after the wedding... : And again, the point is lost behind the veil of OMGSHEDOESN'TAGREEWITHMESHEMUSTDIE. If you are so busy with school, work, whatever, that you can't even take time off, how do you think you're going to have enough time for a wedding? Honestly, truly, how do you think you'll do it? If you're in the middle of a semester of college or grad school, Murphy's Law dictates that YOU WILL have to write a paper, study for a test, and work on a group project the weekend of your wedding. If you don't take time off work, Murphy's Law dictates that YOU WILL be going on a business trip, or asked to work overtime, ESPECIALLY if that's your busy season at work. If you are spending so much time studying and working that you can't stop for a few days, then you aren't going to have time for dress fittings, bridal showers, bachelor(ette) parties, bridal photos, favor and program assembly, rehearsals, rehearsal dinners, a wedding, a reception, and all of the out-of-town guests who will be expecting YOU to entertain them. If you are getting married at a time in your life that you KNOW is so busy that you can't go on a honeymoon, then you'll be too busy for a wedding. I'm not saying that if you're busy your wedding doesn't count. I'm saying that if you're too busy for a honeymoon in April, THEN YOU'RE TOO BUSY TO GET MARRIED IN APRIL.
Posted by sessionswedding[/QUOTE]

Whatever. I'm having a wedding. I'm a student right now. It seems to be working out just fine. We'd have a honeymoon but the FI can't get time off because his time off is strict. Plus it'd be nice to save the money.

Guess I'm living in an alternate dimension where you can't scale back a wedding to not be too stressful. How crazy...

But thanks to you, I've totally come back to reality now.

Nobody said you needed to die. The only one being overdramatic is you.

Edit: The last four things you listed (rehearsals, the actual wedding, etc) are all done within a couple days of each other. I can get a couple days off. I cannot get another week off besides. And I'm going to decline any showers. I might have a b-party as my sister, the MOH, has mentioned that she will be planning one, but I'm sure I'll find a day off so she can do it. There's a difference between taking days off here and there and taking a week and a half for actual vacation time.

I mean really, how old are you?

Laur0813 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How long after the wedding... : And again, the point is lost behind the veil of OMGSHEDOESN'TAGREEWITHMESHEMUSTDIE. If you are so busy with school, work, whatever, that you can't even take time off, how do you think you're going to have enough time for a wedding? Honestly, truly, how do you think you'll do it? If you're in the middle of a semester of college or grad school, Murphy's Law dictates that YOU WILL have to write a paper, study for a test, and work on a group project the weekend of your wedding. If you don't take time off work, Murphy's Law dictates that YOU WILL be going on a business trip, or asked to work overtime, ESPECIALLY if that's your busy season at work. If you are spending so much time studying and working that you can't stop for a few days, then you aren't going to have time for dress fittings, bridal showers, bachelor(ette) parties, bridal photos, favor and program assembly, rehearsals, rehearsal dinners, a wedding, a reception, and all of the out-of-town guests who will be expecting YOU to entertain them. If you are getting married at a time in your life that you KNOW is so busy that you can't go on a honeymoon, then you'll be too busy for a wedding. I'm not saying that if you're busy your wedding doesn't count. I'm saying that if you're too busy for a honeymoon in April, THEN YOU'RE TOO BUSY TO GET MARRIED IN APRIL.
Posted by sessionswedding[/QUOTE]

The whole point to a wedding is to get MARRIED.

Also you sound extremely uneducated. Just because you are using Murphys law as a speaking point doesnt mean that its relevant. "Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong" does not just pertain to school, or work. So whats going to go wrong with your wedding? Who knows anyone could fall and break a leg (god forbid i wouldnt wish this on anyone) the day before. If anything, trying to do the most practical thing for our own individual situations is the best protection against this.

BTW; anyone who has spent any time at all in higher education knows how to handle a test. Not exactly the world coming to an end there.

Manwaithiel · October 2010

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[QUOTE]I love that everyone thinks I sound uneducated. And they say it with misspelled words and a lack of knowledge of the apostrophe. I graduated, Magna Cum Laude, with a Bachelor of Science in Information Technology, concentration in Web Development, minor in Business. My final GPA was 3.8, and I graduated a year early. I actually pursued a second minor in German, and would have still graduated on time, but the foreign language fee doubled in my third year and I couldn't afford it. I was working to put myself through school since my scholarships didn't cover everything. I now work full time for a major healthcare IT corporation as a Business Systems Analyst. Not agreeing with you =/= being an idiot.
Posted by sessionswedding[/QUOTE]

I never said you were uneducated. I said you were immature and snotty. You can be an educated, immature, and snotty person. They're not mutually exclusive.

The point is to get married girl. The vacation afterwards is optional. Your approach is totally backwards and everyone else seems to think that but you.

Laur0813 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]I love that everyone thinks I sound uneducated. And they say it with misspelled words and a lack of knowledge of the apostrophe. I graduated, Magna Cum Laude, with a Bachelor of Science in Information Technology, concentration in Web Development, minor in Business. My final GPA was 3.8, and I graduated a year early. I actually pursued a second minor in German, and would have still graduated on time, but the foreign language fee doubled in my third year and I couldn't afford it. I was working to put myself through school since my scholarships didn't cover everything. I now work full time for a major healthcare IT corporation as a Business Systems Analyst. Not agreeing with you =/= being an idiot.
Posted by sessionswedding[/QUOTE]

Educated or not, I agree with pp you have backwards logic. And addressing one comment, but not the actual point, in my opinion, only strengthens the fact that you have no more argument. I wasn't asking for you education background, nor do I care. It wasnt the point. The whole point is that its getting married that people care about. that is what is important. and if someone can only get a day or two to do that its not up to you to be so negative. It does sound snotty, and arrogant. if a married couple wants to take their honeymoon months later, it is only hurtful for you to say that it isnt actually a honeymoon. its not up to you. maybe the reactions you are getting is because you are neglecting to take consideration for a situation different than your own. how would you like someone to tell you that your honeymoon doesnt count? its only a vacation? the word has evolved as was mentioned in previous post, and maybe you should recognize that.

LunaBeagle · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How long after the wedding... : I never said you were uneducated. I said you were immature and snotty. You can be an educated, immature, and snotty person. They're not mutually exclusive. The point is to get married girl. The vacation afterwards is optional. Your approach is totally backwards and everyone else seems to think that but you.
Posted by Manwaithiel[/QUOTE]

Oh boy! I fought this fight to the death last year and have the same opinion. If you don't go within a few weeks or a month after your wedding it's no longer a honeymoon, but just a vacation with your husband. At that point, you have already gone back to work, back to school, whatever and are back into your normal routines. My husband and I got married 4 and a half months ago, if we were to have waited until now to go away it would feel like a great vacation away from every day life since the wedding already feels like it was months ago. A honeymoon is in correlation with the wedding, and if it's not taken close to the wedding, it's no longer a package deal.
I agree with the previous statement that why would you plan a wedding in the middle of the school year if you are a teacher or a student or know you can't get the time off of work or school to take at least a few days after the wedding. I'm of the thought that a honeymoon is extremely important after you get married. Even if it's just for a few days, you shouldn't go right back to work/school after getting married. You should take at least a few days with your new spouse and enjoy each other and your new status as husband and wife. I had seriously never heard of people going on what they call a honeymoon several weeks or months after the wedding until I came to the knot. And the only ones fighting on the other side are the people who can't take a honeymoon when it would be a honeymoon.

Mollywoo · October 2010

Our wedding is Saturday, and we're leaving Monday.

I don't think WHEN you take your honeymoon determines whether or not it's a honeymoon anymore. In this economy especially, if you announce you're taking time off (and especially in most cases, extended time off), you could be joining the unemployment lines....I think it's smart to wait until the time that's right. If you can swing it right away, that's great! If not....don't let anyone tell you your honeymoon isn't a honeymoon.

Laur0813 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How long after the wedding... : Oh boy! I fought this fight to the death last year and have the same opinion. If you don't go within a few weeks or a month after your wedding it's no longer a honeymoon, but just a vacation with your husband. At that point, you have already gone back to work, back to school, whatever and are back into your normal routines. My husband and I got married 4 and a half months ago, if we were to have waited until now to go away it would feel like a great vacation away from every day life since the wedding already feels like it was months ago. A honeymoon is in correlation with the wedding, and if it's not taken close to the wedding, it's no longer a package deal. I agree with the previous statement that why would you plan a wedding in the middle of the school year if you are a teacher or a student or know you can't get the time off of work or school to take at least a few days after the wedding. I'm of the thought that a honeymoon is extremely important after you get married. Even if it's just for a few days, you shouldn't go right back to work/school after getting married. You should take at least a few days with your new spouse and enjoy each other and your new status as husband and wife. I had seriously never heard of people going on what they call a honeymoon several weeks or months after the wedding until I came to the knot. And the only ones fighting on the other side are the people who can't take a honeymoon when it would be a honeymoon.
Posted by LunaBeagle[/QUOTE]

My fiance and i are going on our honeymoon the morning after the wedding, for two weeks potentially to europe or hawaii. and i still strongly disagree. I think that a honeymoon is a honeymoon and when isnt the determining factor.

Laur0813 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Our wedding is Saturday, and we're leaving Monday. I don't think WHEN you take your honeymoon determines whether or not it's a honeymoon anymore. In this economy especially, if you announce you're taking time off (and especially in most cases, extended time off), you could be joining the unemployment lines....I think it's smart to wait until the time that's right. If you can swing it right away, that's great! If not....don't let anyone tell you your honeymoon isn't a honeymoon.
Posted by Mollywoo[/QUOTE]

THIS!!!!

sessionswedding · October 2010

I never said you couldn't get married if you can't go on a honeymoon, just that it's a terrible idea to have a WEDDING if you don't have time for it. Wedding =/= marriage. Still people refuse to see my point because it's more fun to try to say bad things about a person than to actually read their posts. I am done now.

Manwaithiel · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_long-after-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:1e996bc1-71e1-49ab-be11-a14f6254fab5Post:c0448dd5-da82-4934-8832-24dfc030aaf0">Re: How long after the wedding...</a>:
[QUOTE]I never said you couldn't get married if you can't go on a honeymoon, just that it's a terrible idea to have a WEDDING if you don't have time for it. Wedding =/= marriage. Still people refuse to see my point because it's more fun to try to say bad things about a person than to actually read their posts. I am done now.
Posted by sessionswedding[/QUOTE]

That really is just the dumbest thing I've ever heard. You can have a wedding without a honeymoon. A honeymoon is not a requirement. You're not required to go on vacation afterwards.

My FI and I have will have one day off (maybe) after the wedding, but that certainly didn't determine our date. We're not going anywhere because we just really can't afford it. It just boggles my mind that you're going to tell someone they can't have a party just because they wouldn't be able to take a few days off afterwards.

Seriously.

And maybe it's not ideal to jump right back into reality. But here on the planet earth, you don't always get your ideal situation. It's not fun to say bad things about your post. I just don't want you telling people to cancel their party because they can't afford/take time off for a honeymoon. It's so incredibly rude, snotty, and not true.

I'm very glad you're "done".

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