July 2012 Weddings

Family Drama....*vent*

So, my mom and stepfather have been married for quite a long time - (15 years). My mom told me that they are essentially "done" and will likely be getting divorced.  I'm not close with him so it doesnt really bother me but it is stressing me out from the wedding side of things.  My mom is 3 hours away and can't really drive here by herself for the wedding.   Keep in mind, our wedding VERY small, just my dad, stepmom, mom, (was going to be stepfather but he'll be gone), my fi's parents and fi's daughter.  We rented a bed and breakfast for 3 days and rooms for everyone.  There is limited room and we will fill it up.  A few months ago, my mom and stepfather were fighting and she indicated she wanted to bring my 25 year old brother who would not enjoy the wedding in any way shape or form - or my grandma....... (my grandfather is deceased).  My grandma is kind of difficult to deal with - but more importantly - my paternal grandparents were not invited either as it was to be very small and just our immediate family.  If my mom brings my grandma - my dad will be upset that his parents weren't invited and my grandparents might be upset that they weren't invited even though they are too fragile to travel.   I know this seems petty... my mom and stepfather have been fighting and growing apart for years - it was only a matter of time.  I guess I just needed to vent. I didn't want to have to think about this with only 80 days to go.

Re: Family Drama....*vent*

  • What's wrong with her bringing your brother?
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  • My brother is 25 but has the social skills of an 8 year old.  He doesn't get along with my step-mother (actually wont even talk to her or acknowledge her existance).  He is awkward around new people and is just generally not a good person to really be around.  I just didn't really want him there - I think it will be awkward. It's a romantic bed and breakfast.. there aren't even TV's in the rooms - we were planning on sitting around, relaxing, everyone getting to know each other while drinking some wine. 
  • Could your mom make the 3 hour trip a day or two prior to the wedding?  Or is that distance just not an option for her?
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  • What do you mean it's difficult for your mom to drive? Does she need someone to drive her? Maybe somebody can give her a ride to the wedding?
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  • Mekiakoo has a good point, someone giving her a ride might be a nice option. 
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  • If your grandma comes, could you just invite your paternal grandparents anyway? You said they won't be able to make it. Or would it be too awkward and obvious what you're doing?
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