Just a little vent!

lvissers

So we recieved a weddding invitation to FI's friend's wedding yesterday. Their wedding is 2 weekends after ours. I was just really annoyed that they sent their invitation out before us!!! I'm putting ours in the mail next Mon/Tues. We have a lot of the same guests. This is a couple that met in December and was engaged by February and getting married in August. I know I'm totally over reacting, but I get super annoyed by these people that just come in and do stuff before you and act like there's some rush! lol. Same thing with my brother who was enaged after us, but got married before us in March. Anyone else feel this way about their friends that might be doing the same thing???

Amanda1443994

Yes! My friends did basically the same thing. Right after FI and I got engaged, his friend literally said to him "oh wow I have to hurry up and get engaged so we can get married before you!". His g/f is 2 years older than me and was mad that we got engaged first. So what do you know, a few months later they get engaged and I went to their wedding this past March. It didn't really bother me that much I just thought it was weird she felt that way...like it was a race or something.

Carla1019

Your wedding is first so I wouldn't worry too much about it. I understand your irritation though. Will you be back from your honeymoon in time to attend theirs?

ILoveToRobot

I felt kind of annoyed by a couple that were together less time than us, engaged after us, got married before us and didn't invite us to their wedding. I know it's not tit for tat but FI thinks of them as fairly close friends and I don't like when people hurt him. It obviously hurt him.

You just have to let it go. It really, in the big picture is not a big deal or a deal at all.

bridetobe71412

A "friend" of mine got engaged to this guy she had been dating for 9 months about 2 weeks before I got engaged, but it honestly didn't bother me.

I know one of my other friends is pretty annoyed by it, however, because she's been dating her boyfriend for about as long as fiance and I have been dating and they aren't engaged. She also asks him where HER ring is, pretty much all the time. It's terribly awkward. I bet they're engaged by the summer, though.

lvissers

Yea we willl be back from our honeymoon, but they are having a 3pm Friday ceremony (I personally hate friday afternoon wedding times) and since I would have just been at work 2 days before this wedding and would need time off to attend I don't think I'm going to even bother asking my boss. So we more than likely won't even attend this wedding. They invited us to our wedding when they knew they weren't on our guest list which makes us feel super awkward about being invited anyway.

BeachLover2885

I can't believe they met in december and got engaged a few months later! That's so crazy. I understand it's a bit annoying, and I would probably be a bit peeved as well, but as ILoveToRobot said, when you look at the big picture, it's not important. People will be so excited to get your invitations and they won't even think about the other wedding

One of my BMs got engaged 4 months after me and is getting married 5 weeks before me, and I got engaged 4 weeks before my other BM got married.  FI and I are the third wedding on my mom's side of the family since November. It all works out--- everyone was just excited for each other and I don't think anyone was trying to steal anyone else's thunder

BeachLover2885

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[QUOTE]Yea we willl be back from our honeymoon, but they are having a 3pm Friday ceremony (I personally hate friday afternoon wedding times) and since I would have just been at work 2 days before this wedding and would need time off to attend I don't think I'm going to even bother asking my boss. So we more than likely won't even attend this wedding. <strong>They invited us to our wedding when they knew they weren't on our guest list which makes us feel super awkward about being invited anyway.</strong>
Posted by lvissers[/QUOTE
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</div><div>That's definitely awkward!! I'm surprised they did that?</div>

bridetobe71412

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[QUOTE]They invited us to our wedding when they knew they weren't on our guest list which makes us feel super awkward about being invited anyway.
Posted by lvissers[/QUOTE]

Oh, wow, yeah. That's awkward. This "friend" of mine isn't invited to our wedding and I'm not invited to hers. She's one of those "I'm kind of friends with her because a few of my friends are friends with her, but we're not independently friends otherwise." I sent out my STDs first and didn't send her one and she didn't send me one either. I think we're both fine with it. :)

ajmom2two

Maybe they dont know they arent on your guest list?  That is definitely awkward!  I totally understand why you are annoyed but there isnt really anything to be done.  Just send back your regrets and wish them well.