Jack and Jill

kdp574

My aunt is planning to throw my shower for me and wants it to be a jack and jill (men and women invited) cocktail party set up. Has anyone had a J&J shower before?  What is the etiquette here...who gets the invite and who doesn't. I'm not into the idea of inviting every single guest to my shower.  Help please!!

jebbica85

I don't know either try the etiquette board theres smart ladies there

daniellelmilczak

Are you having like, a jack and jill party? Where people buy tickets and that's their "gift" and there's raffles and food? Or just inviting men and women to the shower? Generally, a shower is for the close friends/family, so if I'd think you'd invite the guests you're close to.

banana468

My aunt threw us a 'Jack and Jill' but we called it a couples shower on the invitations because I didn't want anyone to be confused and think that tickets were going to be sold. 

The etiquette applies here for couples just as it does for ladies - invite those you're close to.  Did she give you a #?  That may help determine who to put on the guest list.

rswan412

I agree with PP- invite couples you are closest to, just like you would in planning a female only bridal shower.

fluttaby32

showers are usually different from jack and jills (as far as Im used to anyway!).. for mine, Im having a bridal shower with just the girls from my family and close friends, then for our Jack and Jill (which usually takes the place of bachelor & bachorlette parties= one combined party instead) we will be inviting everyone who is going to the wedding and selling tickets for it.

BeabullMom

We are thinking of having a Jack and Jill shower too (since my sister asked) but also not the kind where you sell tickets...just a shower for both men and women.  We would invite our families and our close friends, otherwise we'd have 200 there!