So the wedding is in 103 days and I'm starting to feel a little bit overwhelmed and like nothing is going right at all. I've had a lot of trouble planning this wedding and more than my fair share of ups and downs. I know its only one day, but the one day starts off the marriage and I just want it to go right.
To start things off my soon to be mother in law is being extremely pushy about us getting a tent and chairs (our wedding is at Duck Pond in Milford) she's worried about her elderly father being outside in August by the ceremony isn't until 5pm and the sun will be starting to set and I don't think it will be too bad. I'm providing fans and bottled water to all our guest and its only a half an hour. I even said that if it was too much for him that I would buy a great big umbrella that he could use. The tent was an extra 600 dollars that is not within our budget and I have specific instructions from the mayor with regards to setting up for the wedding. It has to be set up no more than 2 hours before the ceremony and taken down directly afterwards so it cost a lot more. When I told her this she said she wasn't sure if her parents would come to the ceremony and I got upset.
Next things to go wrong where the florist tried to take me for an idiot and make me use the most expensive flowers she could think of and they weren't at all what I wanted when she showed me the sample and I told her this and she said that she didn't think that she could do the wedding anymore, because she had a bigger wedding to do anyway. So now I'm out a florist. Our DJ backed out although he was a good friend that one really hurt he told us he didn't believe in our union because I don't like his wife and she wasn't invited to the wedding so we had to find another DJ.
Next was our rings! I have a very unique engagement ring and I hate curved bands and I couldn't find anything else to go with it. We traveled up to Anderson's Jewelers in East Hartford (a 45 minute drive!) and saw the owner named George. When we got there we had to wait 20 minutes because he had left which was ok but the sales lady was really pushy and didn't actually listen to what I want. So George arrives to save the day by drawing up a sketch of a ring to match my engagement ring and it was perfect and I couldn't wait for it to come in. He told us both of our rings would be in in a week and for the pair would be no more than 1000.00. A month later I call to find out what's going on because I haven't heard anything from them and they lost the order so we told them what we were looking for and he said my finacees ring is a special order because he's got really thin fingers. So that was fine, I wait patiently another 2 months before I call again and they couldn't remember who we were or what we placed as an order it had gotten lost again and they had to call us back...only problem was when they called us back not only did they call us by the wrong names repeatedly he told me my ring alone was now going to be 1800 and my fiancée who's was a standard ring was going to another 400 making it 600 because it was a special size. Needless to say I cancelled the order!
Now the latest drama is one of my bridesmaid told me she couldn't be in the wedding because she doesn't like my maid of honor which is my twin sister and my bridesmaids mother-in-law just so happened to schedule a family vacation leaving the day of my wedding...oh and not to mention that she was my hair dresser and make-up artist!
An while dealing with all of this I've had serious health problems which are finally being fixed (YAY!!!) Working full time and planning the wedding by myself with no help from anyone. Oh and in the midst of all this I forgot to actually find someone to perform the ceremony and I'm scrambling now to find someone and the 6 or so JP's that I've talked to so far all have other weddings or will be out of the state! So any help there would be appreciated always looking for referrals!
Anyone else feeling the pressure of the perfect wedding? What are you wedding day woe?