Great honeymoon registry site (HONEYFUND.com

again1x

 My fiance and I live together , I don''t need pots and pan,Household appliances .I googled around and found the honeyfund site ,where I can put in the things we want  from help with flight to  champagne on the beach everymorning . It user friendly ,I connected it to my paypal account  so the  money goes directly into a checkin account we have set up.
www.honeyfund.com

alithebride

I have to say-I don't like the idea of HM funds. DH and I both lived on our own for years (maybe 6 or 7) before we bought our place a year before we got married. I find it hard to imagine you have nothing for the homethat you want or can upgrade. As a guest I find it particularly insulting when a B&G ask me to pay for their vacation-jmo.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE] My fiance and I live together , I don''t need pots and pan,Household appliances .I googled around and found the honeyfund site ,where I can put in the things we want  from help with flight to  champagne on the beach everymorning . It user friendly ,I connected it to my paypal account  so the  money goes directly into a checkin account we have set up. <a href="http://www.honeyfund.com" rel="nofollow">www.honeyfund.com</a>
Posted by again1x@optonline.net[/QUOTE]

Good plan.  You aren't going to have any friends left after this wedding is over, so you might as well milk them for all they're worth before they find out how you treat your own sister. 

Heather822

Sorry but I have to agree ~ HM Registries are T~A~C~K~Y!!!!

FI & I bought our house last year, and still are able to find things we could use to throw on a registry... extra sheets, extra towels, etc.

But if you are so lucky enough as to all ready have more than your hearts desire, why don't you set up a charity registry? Sites like http://www.idofoundation.org/ allow your guests to make charitble donations in your name.

pandasquishy

Hell-to-the-no.  You are one crazy bride.  Not only will your sister hate you, but now a lot of your guests are going to be offended, too. 

duckie1905

you are bsc.  to the max.

kpasc

To those who are against the idea, have you actually seen the site?

You set it up like an actual registry... ie. "nights in a hotel" cost x amount of dollars, or we need luggage (you can even link to the set you like, etc), or "bottle of wine", "tickets to a flamenco show"

It sounds tacky if you are outright asking for money for your honeymoon, but if they are done right, they are just like a registry at a store.  You put an item, and how much it costs.  At least people know what the money they give you is going towards, and they can decide what it is going toward if they want.

The whole idea about "upgrading" what you have at home, is a little ridiculous to me.  How many items and resources are you wasting by replacing all your old utensils and appliances just because you can, rather than out of need??

kaesha

FWIW, I think all registries are tacky. Honeymoon ones are just extra so.

Reilly626

Watch out too, they usually keep a percentage!

SaraAndrew2010

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[QUOTE]To those who are against the idea, have you actually seen the site? You set it up like an actual registry... ie. "nights in a hotel" cost x amount of dollars, or we need luggage (you can even link to the set you like, etc), or "bottle of wine", "tickets to a flamenco show" It sounds tacky if you are outright asking for money for your honeymoon, but if they are done right, <strong>they are just like a registry at a store.  You put an item, and how much it costs.</strong>  At least people know what the money they give you is going towards, and they can decide what it is going toward if they want. The whole idea about "upgrading" what you have at home, is a little ridiculous to me.  How many items and resources are you wasting by replacing all your old utensils and appliances just because you can, rather than out of need??
Posted by kpasc[/QUOTE]

No, it's not just like a registry at a store.  With a store registry, you actually get the gift that your guest picked out and paid for.  These would be like a store if when your guest went to the store and bought a set of dishes for you, the store sent money directly to your paypal account instead and your guest was under the impression that she actually bought you dishes.

Heather822

It is super shady that it just throws the money into your paypal account!!!!!
Sure, you may lead guests to think you are using the cash to "have rose petals spread out on your bed every night" but you really have the freedom to just pay off your Amex bill if you wish.

And if that post about "upgrading being wasteful" was referring to me.... I never said I was upgrading, I said 'extra'. It would be nice to have a 2nd pair of sheets & towels, so i don't need to wash the ones I have and then resue them right after, and keep wearing them down. I don't think that makes me wasteful.

t.kaufman

All registries are tacky. but yes, honeymoon registries are extra tacky and people tend to not like them [including your guests]. This is especially true if the money is just getting funneled into your account.

I agree with the PP that said to set up a charity account. My FI and I could use a LOT of things in our house. As an example, we currently are using sheets on our bed that are ripped. haha. But I don't feel that I should be using my family and friends to set up house. And there are sooooo many more people who need a lot more than I do. So we linked all of our friends and family to different organizations we wanted them to donate money to in place of gifts [we just set up links on our wedding website - the charity registry websites actually take a percentage of whatever is donated, so we wanted to avoid them].

duckie1905

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Great honeymoon registry site (HONEYFUND.com : No, it's not just like a registry at a store.  With a store registry, you actually get the gift that your guest picked out and paid for.  These would be like a store if when your guest went to the store and bought a set of dishes for you, the store sent money directly to your paypal account instead and your guest was under the impression that she actually bought you dishes.
Posted by SaraAndrew2010[/QUOTE]

ditto this 100%.  HM registries are not the same as regular registries, even though sites like Honeyfund allow you to set it up so the guests THINK they are.  They aren't.

MNVegas

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Great honeymoon registry site (HONEYFUND.com : No, it's not just like a registry at a store.  With a store registry, you actually get the gift that your guest picked out and paid for.  These would be like a store if when your guest went to the store and bought a set of dishes for you, the store sent money directly to your paypal account instead and your guest was under the impression that she actually bought you dishes.
Posted by SaraAndrew2010[/QUOTE]

Agree, it is NOT like a store registry. You can try to sell it like that to your guests, but you are not being honest with them.  If a guest picks out a set of sheets off your registry to buy you, you are getting sheets. If a guest picks an excursion from HM registry, you are not getting excursion, you are getting cash even though your guests think they bought you an excursion.

KnaijaQueen

Is it any worse than couples who set up store registries, randomly pick stuff, and then return the stuff to get cash?

I guess it's a matter of taste level. HM registries or any other registries don't bother me a bit. In my social circle, most people give cash in envelopes as opposed to buying gifts on a registry. If I set one up, it's just for "tradition's" sake.

KnaijaQueen

Oops double post

mick313

Honeymoon registries, in my opinion, are an acceptable addition to a traditional wedding registry---- when they're used appropriately.

Here's my situation: My fiance and I haven't set up a registry yet, but we're considering a honeymoon registry in addition to a store registry. We have been living together for over 4 years, we have two kids together, and the towels we already have do the job just fine! We don't have room for a toaster, so why register for one? Register for things you'll really use (on your honeymoon or in your home) and be sure to mention how you'll use your gift when you write your thank-you cards! If no gift was given, mention how thankful you are that your guest shared your wedding day with you---- because that's really what matters, anyway!!

Before our first baby was born, we set up a baby registry. I felt uncomfortable about it at first, because I didn't want anyone to feel obligated to buy us stuff! But I looked at it this way: if my friend (or cousin/coworker/whatever) was having a baby, or getting married, I'd want to buy her something that she wants, and will really use.

Which brings me to my main point: Honeymoon registries are not tacky if the couple uses the gifts for their intended purposes.  In my opinion, couples should also create a traditional in-store registry for guests who prefer to buy tangible gifts. Most importantly, be sure to thank all of your guests for celebrating your marraige, no matter what gift they give (or don't give!)

Bottom line? Brides, be gracious, and use your honeymoon gifts the way they were intended--- your honeymoon will be the best vacation of your life!

Tasianab

Thank you KPASC. I am so tired of hearing people bash Honeyfund! Yeah, as a wedding guest I would much rather buy you the extra towels that will just sit in your closet or the $300 place setting of the china you'll bring out once a year than to send you on a really great trip.

I really don't see how asking for a $250 mixer, let's say, is any different than asking for a night in a hotel. Or even a $15 picture frame. All are pretty suprefluous requests to begin with, otherwise you would just pay for it yourself and do away with the registry altogether.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]Thank you KPASC. I am so tired of hearing people bash Honeyfund! Yeah, as a wedding guest I would much rather buy you the extra towels that will just sit in your closet or the $300 place setting of the china you'll bring out once a year than to send you on a really great trip. I really don't see how asking for a $250 mixer, let's say, is any different than asking for a night in a hotel. Or even a $15 picture frame. All are pretty suprefluous requests to begin with, otherwise you would just pay for it yourself and do away with the registry altogether.
Posted by Tasianab[/QUOTE]

Showers are intended to "shower" a bride and groom with things that they need to set up their home together.

If you already have stuff, heres an idea, DONT HAVE A SHOWER.

Asking for cash is rude, even if you tie it up into a pretty little "honeymoon registry" bow.

To the poster who compared it to a baby shower, you have a baby shower to "shower" you with baby items so that you have the things you need for your first child.  Thats why you only have a shower for your first baby.  When you have your next baby are you going to register for a college fund and invite people to your "baby shower"?  Its the same thing.

You are not "entitled" to a shower.  If people want to throw you one, and you need stuff for your new life together, then accept.  If you dont need anything, decline the shower.

ickletarakins

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[QUOTE]Thank you KPASC. I am so tired of hearing people bash Honeyfund! Yeah, as a wedding guest I would much rather buy you the extra towels that will just sit in your closet or the $300 place setting of the china you'll bring out once a year than to send you on a really great trip. I really don't see how asking for a $250 mixer, let's say, is any different than asking for a night in a hotel. Or even a $15 picture frame. All are pretty suprefluous requests to begin with, otherwise you would just pay for it yourself and do away with the registry altogether.
Posted by Tasianab[/QUOTE]

Thank you!

Also frustrating are these posters who are assuming that the OP is going to use the money from her honeyfund to "pay off her amex bill" or whatever. We can afford our honeymoon on our own. We just bought a house last year and updgraded a LOT of our stuff...so not only do we not need upgrades, but we have doubles and triples of some things (because my FI won't throw ANYTHING away, haha). I don't need six sets of bath towels. I already have numerous sets of bed linens. I don't even want to get into the crap we have picked up over the years that we never use (cedar plank roasting boards for the oven, fondue sets, pizza making sets from Pampered Chef, I could go on and on).

So what's worse...just saying "GIVE US CASH!" or registering our honeymoon so that people KNOW what they're giving us with their money? Or yeah, let's go to BB&B and register for a bunch more crap that we'll never use. Fryolater, anyone? ::rolls eyes::

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Great honeymoon registry site (HONEYFUND.com : Thank you! Also frustrating are these posters who are assuming that the OP is going to use the money from her honeyfund to "pay off her amex bill" or whatever. We can afford our honeymoon on our own. We just bought a house last year and updgraded a LOT of our stuff...so not only do we not need upgrades, but we have doubles and triples of some things (because my FI won't throw ANYTHING away, haha). I don't need six sets of bath towels. I already have numerous sets of bed linens. I don't even want to get into the crap we have picked up over the years that we never use (cedar plank roasting boards for the oven, fondue sets, pizza making sets from Pampered Chef, I could go on and on). So <u><strong>what's worse...just saying "GIVE US CASH!" or registering our honeymoon so that people KNOW what they're giving us with their money?</strong></u> Or yeah, let's go to BB&B and register for a bunch more crap that we'll never use. Fryolater, anyone? ::rolls eyes::
Posted by ickletarakins[/QUOTE]

The only thing worth rolling your eyes at is the fact that you think its still ok to ask for cash.

If you already have everything you need, then dont have a shower.  Period.

Registering for a honeymoon is the same thing as saying "GIVE US CASH".

If you can afford the honeymoon on your own, then pay for it yourself.

Plus, making fun of items that most brides are going to register for is not going to score you any points on these boards.

again1x

There have been alot of posts saying it tacky and   I will not have any bridesmaids or guest. You  must understand .  I live in Brooklyn , NY( NYC means no space ).This  website is very common for  guests and family .I give you the link directly to website for the things we wouldlike to  partcipate  on our honeymoon. We have no more room for toaster and mixer ,glassware . I have enough  room to store items i use everyday  not things I will not be using for another 3 years or so.

TO  THE  BRIDES Who feel it tacky and  etc , Think about how many brides return half of the gifts you  will receive. Think about where you are going to put them when you get home .This works  for this couple are family and guest ask us straight out  what is a better option for you , In a  recession they do not to waste money and realize how much it cost to throw a wedding  in the NYC ,IT  Starts for halls at 16,000 (not including  decor and etc . ) The  are able to put  whatever dollar amout the guest chooses. BEFORE JUDING WITH  WEBSITE HONEYFUND.com Check it out  review it .

again1x

I agree with you about  buying mixer and plates .It  like really ! .I don;t need it bad enough I  had  to registry for my bachlorrette party(the girls insisted ) I really just didn't want any gifts and toldthem countless times . Uurggghhh I need no  STUFF.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]There have been alot of posts saying it tacky and   I will not have any bridesmaids or guest. You  must understand .  I live in Brooklyn , NY( NYC means no space ).This  website is very common for  guests and family .I give you the link directly to website for the things we wouldlike to  partcipate  on our honeymoon. We have no more room for toaster and mixer ,glassware . I have enough  room to store items i use everyday  not things I will not be using for another 3 years or so. TO  THE  BRIDES Who feel it tacky and  etc , Think about how many brides return half of the gifts you  will receive. Think about where you are going to put them when you get home .This works  for this couple are family and guest ask us straight out  what is a better option for you , In a  recession they do not to waste money and realize how much it cost to throw a wedding  in the NYC ,IT  Starts for halls at 16,000 (not including  decor and etc . ) The  are able to put  whatever dollar amout the guest chooses. BEFORE JUDING WITH  WEB SITE HONEYFUND.com Check it out  review it .
Posted by again1x@optonline.net[/QUOTE]

This was almost unintelligible. All I understood is "I don't feel like getting physical stuff." So fine, don't. There is no law that says you have to register, and it's just fine to have close friends/family spread by word of mouth that you aren't registered, but they're know you're saving up for something. The result is the same (ie. people that want to give you cash will), and you don't risk offending those people who DO find HM registries tacky.

Oh wait, I also understood "I'm spending a lot of money on my wedding, so my guests should pay me back." Klassy.

duckie1905

If you don't need things and don't have space for stuff then don't register and don't have a shower.

Easy peasy.  It still isn't okay to ask for cash just because you live in NYC and have no space to store things.