NWR: Jack & Jill Baby Shower

jennylove810

So I'm throwing a baby shower for my bff at the end of February.  She is insisting that it be a Jack & Jill shower and  I am unable to talk her out of it.  Every man I've talked to about it has basically said he'd rather gouge his eyeballs out than attend a baby shower.  I want her to be happy, but I don't want to subject a bunch of guys to the "ooh"-ing and "aah"-ing over baby booties and onesies and diapers.

*sigh*

I'm kinda thinking about addressing the invitations to "Suzy Q & family," and hoping it'll deliver the message that all are invited, but it's cool if only Suzy Q shows.  Suggestions?

banana468

What if instead you make it a compromise?  Make it a shower that's *kinda* a shower but more of a friends get together if possible

It would mean that you're essentially getting the group together for a gift giving party with none of the traditional baby shower hoo-ha (yes, that IS a technical term) but then the guys are present.

My guess is that's the only way you'd be able to make it work so that they'd be there.

FWIW, something like that worked for a jack and jill shower that my aunt threw us when we were engaged. It was a picnic that had a gift opening part.  I loved it because while it was a shower, the only large stuff that the guys could hate would be the gift opening...and they didn't need to watch that if they didn't want to.  I can't remember where my dad was at that time but I know my mom and MIL were nearly in our faces.

MsSunshine

I threw a Jack & Jill baby shower for my SIL. All the men just hung out in the basement watching tv. They only came up to get food and beverages.  I think addressing it Suzy Q & family sounds good.

memj09

I think you should have it at a place where the guys can go hang together during the gift opening part and any games you might be doing.  That way everyone can be together during the socializing/eating part but the guys will be spared from the stuff they really aren't interested in.

kls114

I agree kind of keep it where the girls can do there AWing & baby shower thing & a place where the guys can do that same!

LaLee628

Does her husband want the shower or is it mostly just her idea? It just seems like inviting guys is going to be a significant extra cost (as far as food, etc) and if they won't really want to be there, it's almost a bit of a waste.

jennylove810

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[QUOTE]Does her husband want the shower or is it mostly just her idea? It just seems like inviting guys is going to be a significant extra cost (as far as food, etc) and if they won't really want to be there, it's almost a bit of a waste.
Posted by LaLee628[/QUOTE]

It's all her!  Her husband is the saintly, 'grin & bear it" type.  But you raise a good point about the extra expenses.

I know I was MIA today, I hate to post and run!  But girls, thank you so much for your feedback.  I'll chat with her mom, who is helping me with a lot of the planning and legwork.  We're having it at a senior center that doesn't allow alcohol, and somehow I don't think there's a television or a space the guys can wander off to.  I'd like to pick a bigger/nicer venue, but with my own wedding coming up, money is a bit tight!