Facebook madness!

meggles114

What is it with people I know posting crazy wedding related stuff on Facebook status updates!

First there was my friend b-listing guests, and now one of my fb "friends" (acquantance, not actual real life friend) posted this gem:

"Gift registry at Bed Bath Beyond for the wedding. You can go there or online. Its under my name and *Fiance's name*. Thanks"

I don't know why, but this stuff bothers me!

meggles114

I wonder if they are sending invites out via Facebook too??  LOL

BrightFirefly

Lol. It doesn't really bother me - I think it's a good way to get the information out. If a million people had asked me, I would have done the same..but we just listed ours on the website.

BeabullMom

I think it's tacky!

Melissa.hylton

Like I said before we are in a universe of Evites, Internet updates. I dont see anything wrong. Considering we have inserted a registry card in our invites people are still asking where we are registered I rather post it and everyone KNOW then be asked a million times over and over just because people are too lazy to see that their is a card insert answering their question. 

meggles114

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[QUOTE]Like I said before we are in a universe of Evites, Internet updates. I dont see anything wrong. Considering we have inserted a registry card in our invites people are still asking where we are registered I rather post it and everyone KNOW then be asked a million times over and over just because people are too lazy to see that their is a card insert answering their question. 
Posted by Melissa.hylton[/QUOTE]

<div>Haha I'm the opposite...  I'd rather have ppl ask me a million times where I'm registered at... I will happily answer and not get sick of it!</div><div>
</div><div>Also, I've never noticed this friend mention much of anything on facebook about his upcoming wedding, so kinda seems grabby to me.  LOL like you're not invited to the wedding, but we're registered here so feel free to buy us a gift anyway!</div><div>
</div><div>Of course I had to check out their registry too.. they have some crazy stuff on there, such as 2 sets of pots and pans and also mutiple single cookware pieces.. they must have a really big kitchen!  LOL  I'm so crazy!</div>

ski2play

I try to keep all wedding stuff off FB, I get that it is a different world, but I just think it is tacky also to through that type of information out there. 

MeaganR12

I guess I'm old-fashioned meggles, because I completely agree with you, I don't like it either. I personally don't even like registry cards in the invitations. It puts too much emphasis on the gift IMO. 

syddy88

I had a friend do that with a baby registry. Then she posted everytime she received something and would say something like "0-3 month clothes no longer needed, we have received enough! Please get something else." Well what happens to those people that bought her that already?!? They aren't going to return it. She did this everyday for about 3 weeks leading up to her shower.

Rebis58

Ugh I hate that. I have a girl on Facebook who I used to go to high school with, and her wedding related updates are THE WORST. I never post anything about the wedding on Facebook, and the two times FI put anything wedding related on there (something about the honeymoon) it was followed up by several people not on the guest list asking for invites, so I asked him to stop.

I feel awkward when people even ask me where we are registered (makes me feel gift grabby which is ridiculous... they're asking they obviously want to get us a gift), let alone telling the world (or Facebook world) about it.

But I'm also a generally private person. I don't update facebook very often or like sharing much of my personal life online, so I guess it's also a personal preference.

klwpaz

I agree, especially if these posts are put out there to their Facebook "world", knowing that not everyone will be invited to the wedding. We announced our engagement a couple weeks after and sent a private message to let our invited guests know the wedding website was up. Otherwise, our pages will remain wedding-free. But, these are probably the same people who announce to the world what they had for breakfast.

ajmom2two

I'm torn on this.  I have talked about working on DIY stuff on my facebook or updated my status saying I was looking at reception venues, etc.  I havent posted my registry though.  Its on our website and we have just been telling those who ask.  I am not sure if my friend who is hosting my shower put our registry info in the invites but we did NOT in our wedding invites.  My FI has been a good sport about that since he thought we should since its pretty much the norm with everyone we know but I vetoed saying it was rude.  Anyhow...I do share some stuff on facebook but try not to get too crazy.  I have a list made up of my best friends who actually care about wedding stuff and I filter it so posts only show up for them a lot of the time.  

littlemoments324

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Facebook madness! : Haha I'm the opposite...  <strong>I'd rather have ppl ask me a million times where I'm registered at... I will happily answer and not get sick of it! </strong>Also, I've never noticed this friend mention much of anything on facebook about his upcoming wedding, so kinda seems grabby to me.  LOL like you're not invited to the wedding, but we're registered here so feel free to buy us a gift anyway! Of course I had to check out their registry too.. they have some crazy stuff on there, such as 2 sets of pots and pans and also mutiple single cookware pieces.. they must have a really big kitchen!  LOL  I'm so crazy!
Posted by meggles114[/QUOTE]

I must be old fashioned too because I totally agree with you & Meagan...to me <strong>it seems gift grabby and rude...</strong>you shouldn't expect anyone to get you a gift.  If they want to know where you are registered they will ask or they will give you cash...yes there are those chances that you'll get something you'll never use, but that is okay.  You'll find some use for it...put on your wedding website...

those dang cards that go in the 'invite' are rude too!  Ugh, I was a little irritated with a couple recently who sent us a wedding invite with that dang card in it...again, if people want to give you gifts they'll ask, if not you'll get cash...

ajmom2two

If you get something you cant use you can always return it and get something you need

mbody

It's incredibly tacky to post your registry online! 

michelle11988

I agree with pp's I must be old-school.  I hate broadcasting anything WR because I hate that I can't invite everyone and hate broadcasting about a party.  I think the wedding registry posted on FB is incredibly tacky and gift-grabby.  If people want to know where I'm registered they will look at our website, ask us, or give us cash if all else fails.

LADY324

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Facebook madness! : I must be old fashioned too because I totally agree with you & Meagan...to me it seems gift grabby and rude... you shouldn't expect anyone to get you a gift.  If they want to know where you are registered they will ask or they will give you cash...yes there are those chances that you'll get something you'll never use, but that is okay.  You'll find some use for it...put on your wedding website... those dang cards that go in the 'invite' are rude too!  Ugh, I was a little irritated with a couple recently who sent us a wedding invite with that dang card in it...again, if people want to give you gifts they'll ask, if not you'll get cash...
Posted by littlemoments324[/QUOTE]

I agree with you and Meagan as well.  I think it's super tacky and I hate it when people put an insert card in the invites too.  The registry cards belong in the bridal shower invitation only!!

butterflyjumper1

I agree with being old-fashioned as well. It deifnitely seems gift grabby!! if someone wants to buy you a gift, they will ask. We had people asking before our invites even went out. I would much rather have to hand out the information to people who want it, than have people think we are fishing around for gifts.  

We thought it was hilarious when Macy's gave us those tacky "we are registered at Macy's!" cards and told us to put them in our invitations. come on, buddy. 

ajmom2two

In Response to Re:Facebook madness!:[QUOTE]I agree with being oldfashioned as well. It deifnitely seems gift grabby!! if someone wants to buy you a gift, they will ask. We had people asking before our invites even went out. I would much rather have to hand out the information to people who want it, than have people think we are fishing around for gifts. nbsp;We thought it was hilarious when Macy's gave us those tacky "we are registered at Macy's!" cards and told us to put them in our invitations. come on, buddy.nbsp; Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

Target doesn't even do the cards any more.

mekiakoo

I haven't said anything WR on FB. It just doesn't feel right, but I usually don't update my status or add pictures on FB so there's that.

I'd rather to avoid conversations with people who aren't invited or assuming they are invited by not sharing anything on FB.

BmoreBride311

Ugh I just got a FB invite to a wedding last week. Then I went on their wedding web site and it said in plain English that they only wanted cash as a gift. There was an FAQ section on the site and one of them was "Will there be an open bar?" and the answer was "It depends on our budget. Want to make sure there's an open bar? Feel free to donate to our wedding fund." Rubbed me the wrong way, to say the least.

michelle11988

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[QUOTE]Ugh I just got a FB invite to a wedding last week. Then I went on their wedding web site and it said in plain English that they only wanted cash as a gift. There was an FAQ section on the site and one of them was "Will there be an open bar?" and the answer was "It depends on our budget. Want to make sure there's an open bar? Feel free to donate to our wedding fund." Rubbed me the wrong way, to say the least.
Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>What?! My jaw just dropped to the floor reading about the open bar.  I would either go with a toaster or some other obnoxious gift or not go at all to this wedding! </div>

l_everett

haha just like pp my jaw literally dropped when i read the open bar comment... what is wrong with ppl these days? seriously.

I'll make little non discript posts on FB like "100 Days " only about every hundred (and i am a FB addicit) but i think it's because not everyone is on there and i dont want to go rubbing it in ppls faces who aren't invited.
The registry thing is just tacky and gift grabby to post in on your FB. People have a right to be excited about their big day but there is a way to be classy about it.

BmoreBride311

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Facebook madness! : What?! My jaw just dropped to the floor reading about the open bar.  I would either go with a toaster or some other obnoxious gift or not go at all to this wedding! 
Posted by michelle11988[/QUOTE]

haha or maybe a blender?

bridetobe71412

Bmore, I am speechless.

Registry info on facebook = could not possibly get more tacky. Well, except for Bmore's story. That's tackier. 

I did, however, put a Registry section on our Wedding Website. I was under the impression that was literally the only acceptable place to put this info.

NOTHING IN THE INVITATIONS FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY. What is wrong with people?

butterflyjumper1

bridetobe we did the same thing. I was somewhat hesitant about it, but decided that was the one easy way to get the online registry links to people.  Do people have no common sense whatsoever?!?

lvissers

Yes, definitely tacky and classless to post your registry info on your facebook or include that in your formal invitations. The only place we have our registry info is on our website and was listed on the shower invites as well.

MeaganR12

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[QUOTE]Ugh I just got a FB invite to a wedding last week. Then I went on their wedding web site and it said in plain English that they only wanted cash as a gift. There was an FAQ section on the site and one of them was<strong> "Will there be an open bar?" and the answer was "It depends on our budget. Want to make sure there's an open bar? Feel free to donate to our wedding fund."</strong> Rubbed me the wrong way, to say the least.
Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]

<div>O.M.G. no.</div>