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July 2012 Weddings

Officiant Dillema - Opinions Please!

So a few weeks ago we hired an officiant for $300 not including the rehearsal. We liked her bet she was our 2nd choice. Originally we were going to have a family friend who is a pastor officiate us but he had to back out because his niece is getting married that day as well. So it kind of sucked we didn't get a personalized ceremony and that we have to pay a lot more but we were dealing with it. So now yesterday we find out that an old freind of mine that I have known since I was 12 and was there when my FI and I first met and hung out with us a lot when we first started dating became ordained! Gay marriage recently passed in WA so he became ordained to hopefully start doing gay marriages when it becomes official! He has offered to pay my cancellation fee and do our wedding for free because he wants to do it marry us! I love the idea because he knows us both so well and could make a really sweet ceremony and I have always hated how much officiants cost especially when they are asking you to pick your ceremony wording. The only hang up I have is I am concerned that he has never done it before. But at the same time, it will be 100% unique and a few flubs won't ruin the ceremony in my mind. What do you guys think?!

Re: Officiant Dillema - Opinions Please!

  • I say go with your friend.  I think that will make it that much more special.  I am excited about having someone I know officiate our wedding.  We arent really close friends but she is perfect for our wedding and she is giving us an amazing deal!

    :)AJ Pregnancy Ticker
  • We are also using a family friend so I can't help but go along with that suggestion.  Ceremonies are really personal and I would have a hard time with coordinating it with a stranger.  If you guys feel comfortable with it then I think it's the right way to go.
  • Thank you everyone! You have definatly put my mind at ease! I was nervous but mostly want him to do it so I now feel better that so many people think that an unexperianced friend can still be a lot more personal than a pro!
  • I voted to use the pro because I have seen too many times where a friend was going to do the photos, or the flowers, or something else really important and then something came up and they couldn't do it (or, my son's photographer friend got a paying offer the same day, so he just didn't show up at my son's wedding).  With a professional, you have someone whose job it is to do it and you have legal recourse if they don't do what they're supposed to.
  • I would definitely get some sort of contract just for legal reasons and go with your friend.  I work for a lawyer so I know all too well to get it all in writing or else if something happens you could be out of luck on it.  I think a personalized ceremony would be great as well.

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