I Need Advice...(sorry it's a little long..)

kmlanger

Hi Everyone!

So, my FI were planning a honeymoon to Jamaica right after our big day. Between the honeymoon and buying a house, funds were going to be very tight, but it was possible. All of our plans were going great until one of our GM and his wife offered us their house in HAWAII rent free!! They are both in the Navy and are stationed off base near Pearl Harbor. They live within walking distance to the beach and offered us their car to drive while we're there as well.

Now, at first glance, this is the offer of a lifetime, right? The only thing we would have to buy is flight tickets and food and drinks while we are there. They told us they have a list of activities to do on the island while we're there as well. We just have to book them. However, as we thought about it longer, we realized that as awesome as it is to have our HM budget cut by more than half, there are alot of amenities a hotel can give us that our friends cannot...not to mention the fact that while the GM will be in South Carolina on assignment, his wife will be there at the house while we're there. She told us that she really doesn't mind and joked that she "has earplugs" ...but my FI and I still feel very guilty barging in on her. With that in mind, this is the trip of a lifetime! We know that we will never ever get the chance to go to Hawaii if we pass this up...

So we're stuck...I'm here just to get a majority opinion of what you would do in this situation. Would you take the extremely generous offer knowing that you would never get 100% privacy and all the housekeeping, pools, fine dining and room service that a hotel offers? Or would you spend the money (about $3000 more) for a resort, all inclusive honeymoon and deal with the financial part and pass up Hawaii?

Thank you for taking the time to read this!!

arrestclementine

I would stick with your Jamaica HM plans.  I think it would be weird to be on the honeymoon with gm's wife in the same house -if she was gone it would be different..... but that is just me.

mmarsden83

I would stay with your original plans. If they are stationed out there, who is to say they wont be out there in a few years and maybe then you can take them up on their offer. But this is your honeymoon! You want to be catered to, have privacy with your husband and just enjoy each others company. I feel if you are staying in someone else's house you might be worried about constantly cleaning up, buying food or drinks for the household, filling up the car with gas when you leave etc...While that is SO nice of them to offer it to you, you should allow this time to just be for the two of you. While you can go to Hawaii anytime, you will never have another honeymoon!

cwaggoner07

Yeah I would stick with the original plan. You can afford it, and overall it might be less of a hassle.

hz80408

I would stick with your original plans as well. If you can afford it and are excited for it, then I'd do it.  I personally would feel really uncomfortable with the wife there.

Maybe you can thank then for the generous offer and say you'd rather go visit there when the GM would be home too so you can all spend time together?

GoBucksOH

Stick with the original plan

Britt0412

Or, maybe you could spring for a hotel for the first night or two in Hawaii and then stay at the house. Just something else to consider!

morenachica110

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[QUOTE]Or, maybe you could spring for a hotel for the first night or two in Hawaii and then stay at the house. Just something else to consider!
Posted by Britt0412[/QUOTE]

<div>I would consider this! Hawaii sounds amazing and hopefully you'll be going to a super cool place to have adventures (and not <em>just</em> sex <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />) Do you think something like that might work out?</div>

Lisa50

I would either stick with the original plans or find another option that is easier on your budget.  Good luck! 

kmlanger

All of these are really great advice!! I'll talk to my FI and the GM and maybe we can work something out! Thanks everyone!! :

SuMmErKuTiE

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[QUOTE]I would stick with your original plans as well. If you can afford it and are excited for it, then I'd do it.  I personally would feel really uncomfortable with the wife there. Maybe you can thank then for the generous offer and say you'd rather go visit there when the GM would be home too so you can all spend time together?
Posted by hz80408[/QUOTE]

Ditto this!

Stick to your original plans so you can have the privacy, the pools, the housekeeping, and overall relaxtion and resort feel you envisioned for your HM. Thank your friends for their generous offer and let them know you'd like to plan a trip to come visit when the husband is back at home and the 4 of you can all spend some time together.

saraschilling88

I agree with PPs, stick with your original hm plans, and see if you can visit Hawaii when both the gm and his wife are there to spend time with!!

Kimberly010205

Agreed, stick with your original plans!  A honeymoon is a once in a life time deal, make it as special and romantic as possible.  Even if it means spending more money, you guys need time to yourselves!