No Honeymoon?

kmjarvey

Does anyone else out there not get a honeymoon and feel cheated? My fiancé only gets 2 weeks of vacation a year and with taking a week off before the wedding to prepare for it and various other events throughout the year, there's no time for a honeymoon in 2010 after our wedding in August. We went to Jamaica last December as a treat after I graduated and he thinks that should count as a honeymoon. I think it shouldn't because we weren't even married yet. I've been pushing for a honeymoon sometime in 2011 (I know it'd be late) but he thinks we've already had our honeymoon. Anyone else have a situation like this?

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I can see his point bc you weren't married last year. It is fine to wait a while after the wedding, plenty of ladies do that. Just find a place you haven't been and it will still be a special time for you both as newlyweds.

kaesha

Nothing wrong with waiting. A honeymoon is just a mindset, IMO.

charlsie26

Does he need a week off BEFORE the wedding?  We both worked up to the Thursday of our wedding weeek.  Just a suggestion.

Piru

I agree, is it really necessary to take a week off? Would a short honeymoon be ok?

Or, wait til your 1st anniversary.

kmjarvey

I guess let me calify, we've decided it will help everyone stress-wise to take the week off before the wedding, mainly because the wedding is 9 hours away from where we live. This is more important that having the honeymoon right after the wedding. Neither of us is really dispappointed about that.

He's just convinced that we've already taken it last year while I think we should still be able to do something to call a honeymoon even if it's 6 months after the wedding. Thanks!

alithebride

if you're not married it's not a hm.
but none-the-less if you have no time to take the HM you don't have the time-and that's that. take an anniversary trip instead.
sorry but your FI saying your trip last year counted as a HM makes him sound really cheap.

 

alithebride

also-you're CHOOSING to use your vacay time (or his) before the wedding and have defended that decision so you're not 'being cheated' you're CHOOSING to use the time for something else.

tintgirl77

How about a fiancee that does not want a honeymoon? He wants to veg at home after all of our families leave. Not too big of a deal but we do that on the weekends.