Yep, in all the planning we seemed to have forgotten this aspect. I realized about 3 months ago this mistake & now were scrambling. The wedding is end of October this year.
We considered going to Mexico & a friend gave us the name of the travel agent her family has used the last 20 years.
Then my mother in law to be says she will gift us the travel points she has accumulated on a credit card. I swear I saw 57K+ but last night she said its only 52K. This seems to be more hassle than its worth but with my planning mistake I feel like it’s all I have to go on unless we just forget a honeymoon.
My mother in law was given price quotes by the travel agent to which she protested immediately that the 4 various quotes were all too high & she could never afford to pay for the honeymoon. I said I was under the impression you were only donating your travel miles but she said she was going to try to pay for the whole thing. Our quotes were for 4 hotel in the Riviera Maya in Mexico for 6 night, airfare + hotel, transfers & all inclusive. They ranged from $2900 - $4700. I thought the $2900 sounded good but she said even that one was overpriced.
The card she has all these points on is a Capitol One credit card. She has to log in & go under the redemption part of her travel points. There she showed us some other options. All the ones she picked we didn’t like. We asked if we could just browse & she said just tell her what we want & she would look it up. I’d rather not have her hover over me. Just let me look & see if anything catches my eye or what looks cheap. I don’t know if she thinks I’m going to take her credit card info, or I’m not supposed to see how many points she has or what the reason is.
My family & friends think we shouldn’t use her points & that we will regret it. Or that’s the only gift from his parents we’ll get. Which is fine, I’m not looking for X amount of money. It’s just I know a lot more was spent on his sisters wedding. I just don’t know why you wouldn’t want to do the same for your son. Oh yeah, we live with them & his sister doesn’t if that matters.
I don’t know. Maybe I’m just frustrated over not budgeting in the first place & now time is ticking away. Maybe it’s just that my parents are/have done so much more & his parents seem like they’re trying to go about giving us they cheapest gift possible. Which could be understandable in today’s economy if we didn’t know for a fact they are better off financially than my parents are.
We were given a list of options for wedding gifts. We choose the honeymoon travel points option over having his mom take over paying off a student loan. The loan is $80 a month & there’s a balance of about $1800.00 left. She said he would have the extra $80 a month to spend on other wedding things. The 3rd option slips my mind right now but I know it offended us both.