Don't know what to do....

LammChop

So here's the short verison....My FI asked a good friend of his to be a groomsmen. He jumped at it. Nice guy and a true friend. Here's the problem... I can't stand his future wife. I just can't stand her. I find her to be a coward, she has caused problems between me and a friend, the problem was so bad that we no longer speak. Now the futire wife only contacts me when she needs something. When she and I were friends she would come around and take pic's of my DIY stuff for the wedding and she has everything I have only different colors. I know it sounds childish, but she is not Irish why is she planning an Irish wedding? I don't want her at my wedding and she knows I don't like her, because I have told her. What do I do if he brings her to our wedding? The MOH wants to be the bouncer and throw her out lol. But seriously what am I going to do?

BeachLover2885

Unfortunately, there's really nothing you can do. They are a social unit, so she has to be invited with your friend, especially since he is in your WP.  Imagine if FI was part of their WP, but you weren't invited to their wedding... not good! I know it's frustrating when you have guests at your wedding that you don't particularly like, but the good thing is you won't have to spend much time with her since you will be mingling with other guests.  If she was just a random date your friend was bringing, then I feel like maybe you could ask him not to bring her, but she's his FI, so there's not much you can say without causing major problems. If it makes you feel better, there are a few guests coming to my wedding that I am not particularly fond of, but I will do my best to be cordial and gracious and thank them for coming.  It's better to take the high road, and the more problems you can avoid the better! HTH

michelle11988

I would just take the high road on this one and advise your MOH not to cause any unnecessary drama.  There is a couple of girls that I don't particularly care for either that are SO's of good friends of mine but I still invited them.  Maybe you will luck out and she won't show, but by not inviting her or "bouncing" her out will just cause more drama and issues.  Just quickly acknowledge her and move on to the other guests at the wedding.

mekiakoo

There's not much you can do and you'll be so busy during the day/night that you probably will not notice her. There are few people who I am not fond of who are invited to the wedding, it's just best to let things go rather than making things worse and dramatic by not inviting somebody (especially a social unit).

ajmom2two

Hugs!  That sucks!  I bet any mutual guests between the 2 weddings will really wonder why she copied your entire wedding!  Unfortunately you really cant not invite her.  Be the bigger person this time and greet her when you have to and then ignore her the rest of the night.  If you are having a WP limo and stuff I dont think you are required to have her be part of that stuff at all.  If she tries to start drama at the wedding then her husband can tell her to leave.  I am sure you will be so busy with all the awesome guests coming to your wedding you wont even notice her.  

littlemoments324

yeah...there is a certain S/O that I am not entirely fond of, however, this person has to be invited...I totally agree with pp!