How many details should be done by now?

Nati05

Sorry for being a PW today but I’ve been wanting to ask about this for a while now cuz I’m going crazy worrying about it.

I know a lot of you have lots of checks done, but how much is really planned out and set in stone?? My biggest concern is the venue lady. Our venue does catering, table settings and centerpieces, most décor, DJ, tents.. just about everything. Cake, hors d'oeuvres, more décor, chapel decorations and lots of other things, she can do but at an extra cost. Ok no big. But I’ve been trying so hard with this lady to start planning things out and so far all we’ve got is ¾ of the table setting and centerpieces planned. I’ve seen her pics online and you can see all the different things she can do, and I KNOW  they aren’t things that can be planned in 2 weeks. I want to get ahead cuz I already know how bad FI and I are at procrastinating. But every time I want to find out about all our options for décor, logistics and start planning… I don’t get very far with her. I want to map out things like where and how the escort card table will be setup, what other décor options do we have for the reception room, how can we hang the poms and lights from the tent ceiling, what do I need to buy, what do I need to start DIYing, who will be in charge of the day and how will they do it…  and other things that aren’t coming to mind. Do most of you have big and little details mapped out with your venue? When does most of this start? I’m sooo scared I’ll be running around like a psycho the last 2 months if I can’t get this worked out now. Am I just crazy?! Lol

Nancy00714

Hmmm...you've just gotten me worried   My venue takes care of food, cake, place settings, linens, etc.  Florist takes care of ceremony and dining room decor. I believe they are going to show me samples in June.  (haha, i hope they are!)  I have to plan the ceremony with my friend and I don't know who takes care of sound for that. 

I honestly don't have anything planned out with them.  As per my contract the planning comes later when I meet the venue's wedding coordinator.  And from what I've read the wedding coordinator tells everyone what to do. 

As far as DIYing, I want to make the card box and I'm going to need to wrap my favors or something and figure out what I want to do with the table numbers, all of this has to wait until june .  If you think that your venue lady requires you to DIY something but you don't know what you should really get on that (finding out what you need to DIY)!  And I think you should also have what you expect from this lady finalized and in writing.  That way you know what it's going to cost and you have no surprises.

shelby8020

I feel crazy too , don't worry lol! I feel like there are a MILLION little details to work out and I don't know who does what, when , or how!!! Ugh now I'm stressed again hahah. My venue handles the catering, linens, cake, and my florist will do the decorating and flowers. I don't even have my centerpieces picked out yet......or the cake, table numbers, escort cards, invitations etc!!!!! But my venue called and set up our details meeting for April which my florist is attending ....so I'm hoping to square away a lot of things then (hopefully). I get nervous too reading some of the posts on here and seeing how much stuff people already have nailed down, when I still have so much to do....but all you need to remember is that it will ALL come together!!!! I would try calling the lady again and voicing your concerns to her or even set up a meeting and talk to her face to face. If you need to buy stuff and DIY items..... You will need time to do all that so that you ARENT running around like crazy!

Eliz77

My venue handles food, cake, linens, table settings, decorations and centerpieces. I'm using the same florsit for bouquets and Church flowers, so I tentatively picked our centerpieces and what flowers to use for bouquets yesterday. Our menu/hors d'oeuvres/cake choices get done in June, as do picking linens, table settings and the table numbers. 
The only DIY I'm attempting are favors (cake pops!). 
I do have a few things nailed down that I felt were most important: Church, venue, photographer, DJ, florist (the who, not the flowers!), all attire including rings. 
The other details such as invitations, gifts, favors, limos, my jewlery/accessories, hair/makeup are next and I feel the easier parts.
The BIG thing now is our honeymoon plans! HOPEFULLY that will be set in the next week or two.
I'm really not going over the top like a lot of my friends/relatives have. I have a set budget and so far I am under it (yay! more for HM in Maui!!!). So, that really helped. I also keep in mind how I barely remember small details about the weddings I attended, so I don't feel the need to micro-manage. I feel that would just set me up to be disappointed and have more things fail. This way, I can control what I can, and I know things will come together! My venue provides a coordinator who will be there on the wedding day. That has given me a lot of confidence, to turn such control over to her, thta I feel I can sit back and enjoy the day.

Elinetrouwt

I haven't got many details done, but tonight I'll finally meet up with the venue lady and caterer, so we can sort stuff out (are candles allowed? petals? do the linen come with the venue?), and then I can start DIY'ing and planning the decoration.

hmacsine

I've been procrastinating on the details. I can't seem to keep focused and get them done.I'm a lazy bride. I just want someone to do everything. Lol I know my vendors hate me. (or maybe they love me) I just give them a general idea and tell them to use their expertise to complete it.

BmoreBride311

I'm hoping to have a lot of the details you mentioned planned with my venue and vendors in April, when I go to Baltimore for a few days.  I have a florist, but I don't have centerpieces planned. I have a caterer and know she'll be doing the linens, but I don't have those selected. I think doing that sometime in April or May should be fine. I think you are fine where you're at, just keep at it! Don't be afraid to pester your venue coordinator a little if you need to, you are paying her to do this stuff with ya!

But what do I know? I've never planned a wedding before!

Nati05

Ok thanks guys! That makes me feel a little better. Your timeline planned helped Bmore. May does sound good for decor stuff. Whew! Ok I need to relax a little lol