cliffnotes version: my only grandfather doesnt want to deal with the hassle of going to my wedding. Grandparents live in Titusville, wedding in Orlando, aunt and uncle have offered to drive them. This makes me sad. long livejournal-esque version: The only grandfather I've ever known is my dad's step dad. Its always been a rocky relationship between my family and my grandparents (my grandmother is also the only living grandmother that I have). They've always shown a preference for my cousins, since my brothers and I are not blood related to my grandfather. We grew up living next door to them, so it wasn't like we didn't see them often. I of course just assumed that they would be coming to the wedding. They said they didn't want to have drive (from Titusville to Orlando) especially at night, and don't want to spend money on a hotel, so my aunt and uncle told them that they could ride with them. I thought this would be problem solved. But then the next excuse was just that my grandfather just doesnt really like weddings, so he doesnt want to go. At my bridal shower, my aunts said that they are trying to convince him to go. Because we are planning from out of town, we sent our invites early so that we could have a final count before our meeting with the florist and our venue at the end of this month. Invites went out in July, RSVPs were due Monday. No word from grandparents, so my dad called them last night. Grandmother "hasn't had the chance" to talk to grandfather about wedding yet, is supposed to call my dad back today (which I doubt will happen). I was trying not to take it personal that he doesnt want to come, but he is my only grandfather, she is my only living grandmother, I don't know if she'll come without him, and I'm the first grandchild to get married. My family that lives out of town arent coming (most of them are not in the best health, so I understand), and now my grandparents might not come either, and yet FI has family coming from all over the country. It makes me sad and hurt, and yes a little jealous that FI's family loves him enough to come, and my own grandparents think my wedding is a hassle. I've always tried to not let it bother me that they treated my brothers and I different, but now, I just want to tell them not to come at all, and if they can't make an effort to show me some love, then I'm done with them. I shouldn't have to force you to come, and if I do, then you don't deserve to celebrate such an important day with me.