Reception game ideas

Amy00005

Ok, I don't know if this sounds really horrible or not, but one of my friends told me that I should do some sort game or something that people are able to give money towards and then the whole amount goes to the bride and groom. The 2 games she suggested are the one from her wedding where people put money in jars for either the FL Gator's fight song to be played at the end of the reception or they put money in the FSU jar for their fight song to be played. Whichever jar had the most money got their song played and all the money in the jars went to the bride and groom.The other was do something similar except use the jars for the bride and maids and the groom and his men. Whoever's jar got the most in it would have to dance to a silly song, and still all the money go to the bride and groom. Anyone know of anything else similar to these? My FI and I aren't really sold on either idea, but would like to do something like it. TIA!

ericak926

I think that those type of games and dances (money dances, etc) are tacky and a little rude if they aren't apart of your family tradition.

SarahSmile23

yeah, amy, the problem is that people sometimes get offended by those sorts of things and consider them to be "gift grabby." so it's kinda tricky!

AileeneG

My thinking is that if people wanted to give money, they would have brought a gift or a card with money. I recently went to a wedding where the bride and groom passed a shoe around for guests to fill with money. I guess it's a tradition in Venezuela or something, but the couple wasn't even from there as far as I know... So, that was a few months ago and I STILL hear people making comments about it. I know a lot of people felt pressured to give cash when they already brought a present, and were a little upset about it. I'm not sure if there's a way to ask for something above and beyond the present they already brought without making it seem a little grabby.

jackx18

I would only suggest it if it is really apart of what your circle of friends/family do.  I know dollar dances are VERY popular in come places up North and I have been to several weddings up there where they are expected but you don't see as much of that down here.  Like PP, could come off as gift grabby....especially if you are planning it.

Pretty Parula

I love the idea of games! But why does money have to be involved?

MCO100

Games are tacky.

umcollegegrl

I think if you and FI are big sports people and so are your guests that that idea might over well. I think its also a better idea than the dollar dance because no one will know if a guest doesn't contribute and if they want to they can, whereas with the dollar dance its obvious the people who are not contributing and I think it feels more forced. The family weddings FI has been to have had the dollar dance, and a couple that I've been to have had it too. I don't really think much of it. FI wants to do it, but I'm actually going to suggest the team thing instead since everyone knows we have a huge UM/FSU rivalry (and a lot of our guests are either UM or FSU) and it will be something fun, but we wont have to waste dancing time doing the dollar dance.

Amy00005

Thanks ladies, I have a feeling we will just not have a "game" cause we weren't really sold on doing it, so that's why I asked you all.

John and Charisma <3

I have seen the Fight Song thing done at Howl at the Moon so I would definitely say no.