Ugh my FMIL is drive us crazy.

sarah42nd

Does anyone else have this problem?  It is to the point that we ( FI and I )don't even want to talk to her or ever see her again.

mlharbis

OMG!! I'm sorry you are having to deal with that! *vibes*

sarah42nd

lol . Thanks . She just  very controlling and crazy . lol.

sarah42nd

Heres some of my post from the chit-chat board .

We have my step son (SS) Thursday night until Monday night when his mom i s suppose picks him up. My husband works Mon- Fri so he get to spend quality time with his son (19 months old) on Saturdays and Sundays ( we also go to church on Sundays ) . My In laws say that they don't get to spend enough "quality" time with SS even tho we spend one day there a weekend, usually. They feel that the only way to be good grandparents is to have him "spend the night with them". But only from 6pm on Saturday to 9am on Sunday .... He usually goes to sleep by 8pm and is up at 8am . Then we go to church . So whats the point in him spending the night if they only want him at 6pm . Plus that is the time for my husband to spend time with his son . They refuse to have him any other time then Saturday night . We have ask them about maybe having them watch him for a few hours of what not and they flat out refuse . We don't need them to watch him ever b/c we don't have him all the time . UGH.

In-Laws said that every Gparents they know ALWAYS have there Gkids . Well everyone we have talked to say that there kids have never spent the night at GP's houses . They never take no for an answer . they give us more trouble then his mother does.FI feels that his parents don't want any part in his life. Its almost like the only reason they call him is because they want Gkid . But they don't even take care of child while he is there . Its almost like they want him over night because "its the right thing to do " .

We have asked them about a few hours and not over night but they refuse. MIL owns her own business and FIL works M-F one week and then M-Thurs the next . We asked them a few times , how about him coming over fridays for a few hours and they refused. Apparently MIL sit on the computer every M-F till 9pm "working ". Which my H has told me is not true and he knows it . Or FIL is too busy to have SS on Fridays. MIL and FIL also have "date nights " on Fridays . When they both get off off work they met and have dinner and then come home. But my FI works Monday- Fridays too but in there eyes that doesn't count .

sarah42nd

Well when ever we suggest another time on the weekend they refuse , say no , want him on saturday night to spend the night .   I was talking to FFIL the other day and told them they can always  stop by during  the week night while were putting him to bed  (6-8p) . Thats when he told me that FMIL "works" till 9pm every night on the computer .

We actually now have full custody of him . Stepsons(SS)  mom signed a parenting plan  2 months ago where Fi has  finally say on anything conserning SS.  When SS goes to starts  going to school she will only have him every other weekend  ( so InLaws will HATE that because they can't have him on weekends ) . Right now she works on the weekends so its easier for her to have him Tues and Weds.

 The InLaws  have no legal rights over SS. They just bug my Fi all the time about taking him on Saturday .

They said the last 8 times they  have asked us for him on Saturday he has only stayed 2 times.  Sh*t thats more then FI and I have ever spent over night at our Grandparents house.  They just seem to never want to take no for answer and want Fi to compromise . I don't see how us giving them him every  saturday is compromising but they think it is.

sarah42nd

Then heres the one I posted about this weekend ....


Yeah get this . They were having a 4th of July party  they had like 20 people there today . Well FI and I had to take SS to the ER yesterday because he has had this rash on his leg for a few days and it keeps spreading . So when we got him from his moms house we went to the ER.  Well when we went in  there they told us to use this cream for his rash but they said  that he had a slight fever ( 100.1) and had a slight ear infection so they gave him antibiotics  and told us to keep him out of the pool until his follow up visit in 2 weeks .

Well we told InLaws about this when we got there today . FI told them he can not go anywhere near the pool because he will try to get in and he is not aloud to go in . Well FMIL keep saying well just put cotton balls in his ears he will be fine .... UGH NO did you hear what FI told you ?  Well she takes SS for a "walk " well she just happens to walk by the pool where everyone else is and  she is sitting there( by the ledge of pool)  talking to  the people in the pool .  Well one of the ladies had a soaker thing  ( looked alot like this but wasn't a gun http://www.leapsandbounds.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=536585&cm_ven=Bizrate&orderType=2&cm_ite=20231 ) well FMIL takes it and starts soaking SS .  Then she lets SS  play with it and soak other people then she starts soaking SS in the face after we  told her he wasn't aloud in water not to mention she is getting him wet .  Well FFIL  kept calling her name and she wasn't listening. Well FI was like FFIL you need to tell her to stop because I don't want to call her out in front of everyone. So she finally stops and then I had to go change him . I mean if she is going to do that while we are there  then what the hell is she going to do while were not there ?

Theresa626

Wow. That is awful.  I wouldn't want that woman around my child ever. She sounds terrible.  Just remember you don't HAVE to bring the kid over there no matter how much she complains.  If she doesn't care what is best for the child then she shouldn't be around him.  Also, soaking a child that young in the face with a supersoaker is absolutely horrible even when he doesn't have an ear infection.   

sarah42nd

Oh yeah I know .  Justin is talking about taking  a " break" from them for a year ( or two ) after the wedding .  They (  In Laws ) want to watch him this weekend . First off he is sick and still going to be taking meds and all and second, if she is going to do the  pool thing while we are standing there then what else is she going to do while were not there?

eso16208

Sounds like your FI needs to have a "come to Jesus meeting" with them and law down the law. 

My son. My rules. 

You break the rules, you dont get to play the game. 

Sounds like they have a total lack of respect for you and your FI. And yes, I would put the meeting on your FI's responsibility list. They are HIS parents, not yours and if they dont respect you now, they certainly won't if you "take their son and grandson away from them"

sarah42nd

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-central-florida_ugh-fmil-drive-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:66Discussion:3f1f853b-26ca-473a-a6b6-e3cefaf809a7Post:0f819505-02dc-4f81-91fb-c09ce83d4885">Re: Ugh my FMIL is drive us crazy.</a>:
[QUOTE]Sounds like your FI needs to have a "come to Jesus meeting" with them and law down the law.  My son. My rules.  You break the rules, you dont get to play the game.  Sounds like they have a total lack of respect for you and your FI. And yes, I would put the meeting on your FI's responsibility list. They are HIS parents, not yours and if they dont respect you now, they certainly won't if you "take their son and grandson away from them"
Posted by eso16208[/QUOTE]


Oh yeah I know . Its on HIS list of stuff to do .  We set boundries and she  doesn't listen .  She trying to get SS this Saturday . FI said Hell No . So I think he is going to talk to her sometime this week. Which isn't going to  help  because she won't stop. Basically he is at the point where he wants to cut ties with her completely.

sarah42nd

Personally I think he should of said something to her right then and there ( at the aprty on Saturday ) . FI knew everyone there , But all Justin had to say was excuse me but I told you Jackson is not allow by the pool and can not get wet.  But then I understand that he didn't want to have to "call her out " in front of everyone.

MrsWhitneyAmanda

DH lives in that boat every day. Except it's with his own mama, not his MIL (aka my mama, whom he loves ) He would have been done with his parents a long time ago if it weren't for his baby sister. We stick around for her sake, so we don't deprive her of her big brother and now her sister (me, which she was exceedingly excited about when she found out we were getting married).

AW moment: She took a Sisters frame I gave her as part of her FG gift last year in for Show & Tell and told all of her classmates about her big sister. I LOVE this little girl

Edit: okay, maybe not y'all's exact boat since we have no kids. But we totally feel you on the not wanting to deal with them

Edit Edit: I promise to read the entire thread next time before replying

sarah42nd

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[QUOTE]DH lives in that boat every day. Except it's with his own mama, not his MIL (aka my mama, whom he loves :)) He would have been done with his parents a long time ago if it weren't for his baby sister. We stick around for her sake, so we don't deprive her of her big brother and now her sister (me, which she was exceedingly excited about when she found out we were getting married). AW moment: She took a Sisters frame I gave her as part of her FG gift last year in for Show & Tell and told all of her classmates about her big sister. I LOVE this little girl <3 Edit: okay, maybe not y'all's exact boat since we have no kids. But we totally feel you on the not wanting to deal with them :) Edit Edit: I promise to read the entire thread next time before replying :)
Posted by MrsWhitneyAmanda[/QUOTE]

Lol. Yeah I hear what your saying too.  My FI is kind of lucky because he is an only child. But then maybe if she had more children she could go annoy other people too.lol. But that will never happen . lol.

The sister frame thing is really really cute .

Its just kind of sad because SS won't be able to have a good relationship with his grandfather because  MIL is such a witch . She doesn't care about anyone else. Is so darn annoying.