flower girl or no flower girl that is the question!

irisheyezfsu

So  I want my two little cousins to be in my wedding. They will both be 2 1/2 by next October.  They are my cousins children and a month apart. Only have three first cousins (all on my dad side) and I think it would be special to have them in the wedding. My mom is advising me against it because she has seen from other people's weddings how little kids get stressed out with weddings, and there is sometimes more drama involved with kids.  

I know some children handle it well, and I know some throw fits. or even get sick.  What do you  guys think about children in the wedding party?

sarah42nd

I am having my ( will be )28 month old stepson  and my 8 year old nephew to be my ring bearers . There going to come down together and sit in the front row with my mom and my niece wh is my flower girl who is 6 . I thnk the kids will do great I would suggest have a bag with things the kids will play with by there seat. maybe coloring books too . Also I would suggest having the children sit by each other so they can entertain each other.

irisheyezfsu

My mom said children of the parents in the wedding usually do better in weddings because their mom is just behind them or father right in front of them. I told her I wouldn't care if my cousin April walked with her daughter and my cousin's son down the aisle if it kept the kids calm.  

Yeah we are going to have about 15 kids at the wedding though with a huge age range.  

Pretty Parula

My DD has been a FG three times. The first time, she was only three and she was just fine. Have the parents explain what they're doing and how fun and special it is, and they can make a game of practicing walking and tossing petals. And if they clam up the day of, have their moms walk them down or be at the end of the aisle so they have someone to run to. I definitely agree with having quiet bags for each of them. There's a seller on Etsy somewhere who makes personalised bags, so you could get each of them a cute bag with their names on them as a present and fill them with activity books and things for them to play with while they sit through the ceremony. LOVE kids at weddings.

sarah42nd

I think our wedding to have  at least 50 kids there. But thats between the ages of 0-16.  Were doing a  activity tables. So it should all go well. I think it is great having kids at wedding. But we are also not having alcohol at our wedding.  Best of LUck. I think your FG will be fine.

irisheyezfsu

yeah definitely would love them to be in my wedding they are both about the same age. I haven't had the pleasure of meeting either in person since they live in Indiana. My potential flower girl omg she has the biggest blue eyes and this head of dark hair that just makes it set off more. I know how beautiful she would look in the pictures (since I've seen amazing pictures of her) and found this great tulle flower girl outfit I would want to get her.  I would definitely have a coloring book for each or something, with snacks as a present at the end of the aisle.  I just don't want them to stress, that is my main concern.  

My mom told me about how when her little sister was six and in their oldest sisters wedding, she was so nervous she got sick before the wedding and so my mom thought she wouldn't want a kid to be so stressed at her wedding.  

this is my beautiful baby cousin and potential flower girl.  if you like her hat and have a baby of your own or one you know you'd like it for, her mother (my cousin) makes them and she would be happy to make one in any color combination for your. She has an etsy page (had to plug for her)

Pretty Parula

OMG that child is gorgeous! I could bake her into a little cupcake and eat her up.

Seriously, if they make it a fun game and the girls get lots of applause and praise as they go, I doubt it'll be a big deal. Especially if they're gregarious kids by nature, they should be fine. If they're reticent with new people or something, you may want to consider having their mom walk them down, but otherwise I don't foresee an issue.

I also had a kids' activity table with games and colouring books and such during the reception, so that should help keep the kids occupied (and the parents relaxed) throughout the rest of the day/night.

irisheyezfsu

yeah I just have all ages when it comes to children from two year olds to 13 year olds.  

I think they would be ok, though I would talk to both my cousins in how they would feel about it of course.  Especially here, since I haven't met her but what all the family says is she is just such an awesome baby! She is gorgeous thank you, we all fawn over her of course haha. My potential ring boy is the same age, very much a boy, loves any toy that is a ball (baseball, football, soccer ball etc) my grandma (his great grandma) thinks he will some athlete.  

mlharbis

Check with your church about the age of children in weddings. My church has all kinds of rules (most of them I don't agree with haha but you still have to follow them) and they say that children under 4 should not be in the ceremony. I think it really depends on the maturity of the child.

mlharbis

also, remember with children things are constantly changing. One week they may be all "No" and the next they may be perfect little angels. They are learning and growing and changing at such a fast rate that nothing is necessarily certain.

Pretty Parula

I've never heard of a church having rules about the ages of children in the wedding. Is that common?

mlharbis

I have no idea about the rules thing. I feel like my church has rules about everything because they have so many weddings (or at least that is the reason I have been told).

sarah42nd

One thing that might help the girls get use to you and some of the other guest  is to have a little get together with them . Depending on when they come in for your wedding. But if they are there a few days before they can hang out and play with you and some of your family/ bridal party. I am guessing they know some of your family too and that will be a comfort for them . So I would suggest having  there mom  and maybe some other people they know closely sitting next to them.  I am not sure how shy they are. But just a suggestion. I know the  few days leading up to the wedding are crazy but maybe you could spare a few minutes .lol

I love her hate and those eyes are great just wait till she a teenager .lol

AileeneG

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I think that as long as you are willing to be flexible, then it should be fine. My flower girl was my neice and she wasn't even 2 at the time of the wedding. (She turned 2 the next month) and she did wonderfully! She walked down with the ring bearer that was 3, and they both did great.

We had an adult walk them to the back of the aisle and their mothers were in the front in case they needed to be ther for them.

therockisblinding05

I think it depends on the kid. I was in a wedding with a 5 year old rb and a 9 year old flower girl and they were both difficult. The boy would not stop talking during the whole ceremony while he was standing up there- The groomsmen nearly killed him and he was a total brat.  The 9 year old didn't want to smile or get in the pictures and convincing both of them to cooperate ate up time for other pictures. But some kids, like pp mentioned, are 2 and do a great job. I would not have them stand up there w/ your bridal party but if you think they can handle it then I'm sure they will be great! GL!

irisheyezfsu

Niether are shy children and they know the whole family but me so far. I have been in school and then moving to start my new job so I haven't been able to meet my little cousins yet.  I think from their personalities that I know of they would handle it well, especially the FG.  I would not have them stand up with us, they would sit with their moms, they will only be 2.5.

I know all children go through phases, I started baby sitting when I was 12 so I have watched and cared for lots of different children all age ranges. Weddings are a different situation.  I will have to just talk to my cousins and see if they think they will be ok with it. They probably won't come down till the day before the wedding.

sarah42nd

I think it will be great . 


Here's my ringbearer :

http://www.postimage.org/image.php?v=aVjUo_9

http://www.postimage.org/image.php?v=aVjVPNi

jmucheech21

I agree with everyone.  Just wanted to say she is adorable and who doesn't love an adorable kid in a frilly dress???  Makes for great pics!!!  

irisheyezfsu

these are the type of flower girl dresses I am planning on putting my flower girl in. Super cute!

sarah42nd

awww those are so cute.