So FMIL is hard at work planning the rehearsal dinner and has come up with a theme, which I think could end up being kinda cute since I've never seen a themed RD. Has anyone else? Anyways, FSIL revealed some things that she wasn't sure were surprises or not and I'm not too thrilled...something involving plastic top hats and boas at a dinner where I was hoping everyone would be in black cocktail dresses. I'm afraid our theme is becoming a gimick which is what I don't want. I can't come off as pushy, but I also don't want my only rehearsal dinner to be decorated like a child's birthday party. I think she is purposely keeping FI and I out of the loop so we (mainly I) don't butt in and everytime I ask her about details like what decorations she is planning, she says "don't worry about it" or "I dunno; I'll decide something". This is one of those instances where I just have to grin and bear it, right?