etiquette

squirrly

About the "living within your means" comments. . . I have yet to meet anybody getting married who have the complete wedding price totally locked in months and months before, that they couldn't do ANYTHING to save money.  So, if they truly NEED money, they could do something to save on the wedding.

By need, I mean that they can't pay their bills each month without a handout.  I understand wanting money - to save for a downpayment faster, to go on a luxury vacation, to buy a new car, etc.  But those are different than needing cash.  As for unplanned medical expenses - I also don't think you should be planning a super expensive wedding if you don't have insurance to help with something like that.  To me, it's about managing your life finances first, and having a wedding that you can afford.  It's totally cool to cut out eating out, shopping, etc. to save for a nicer wedding.  It's not cool to not pay your water bill because you want a $4000 wedding dress.

That's the distinction I was trying to make.

Pretty Parula

How come none of the new posts for this thread are showing up?

Pretty Parula

Oh, because I'm dumb and didn't see that it went to a second page, that's why. lol

squirrly, I see what you mean now, yes I agree. Priorities.

cjbwifey2010

Ok let me clear up. I wouldn't flat out ask for money. And i wouldn't be doing it in "another language" if my invitations were already in french! What i was trying to say is that my sister wrote this on her invite and people understood that this is the gift she preferred. Since the same people are coming to this wedding, they would understand since they have done this before.
We dont NEED money, we would just prefer it if someone didnt know what to get us, didnt have access to our registry, and are coming from out of town! I dont think it is tacky to place a registry insert in the invitation, and we may just do like Alyssa and just place it on the website for them to know! (go green!). The main reason as to why we wanted to write "corbeille nuptiale" on the invite was so that people didnt think they have to go out and purchase something and then come on the plane with it, etc. I had a friend of mine who wrote one of those "cute" poems and inserted it into her invite, and i thought this was tacky because she was flat out asking for it! that didnt make sense to me. And even though she ended up getting a whole lotta money from it, it wouldn't be something i would do.

I figured i just had to reply since i got ROASTED! LOL

skhynes

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-central-florida_etiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:66Discussion:c84349fb-6412-462a-8c5a-f3f5a9be3dd8Post:5b22953a-e8c7-488e-90ae-cd9b097fbd90">Re: etiquette</a>:
[QUOTE]  Also, I know I will get flack for it, but do I really need to have all 9 of my bridesmaids be invited w/ a date if we don't know their significant other?? I know, I'm a horrible friend and a bridezilla blah blah blah, but really? Some of my friends date jerks who I don't want to spend ridic amounts of money on just cause my dear friend can't wake up and smell the coffee...no. Posted by therockisblinding05[/QUOTE]

Honestly, I feel that anyone who is close enough to you to be a member of your bridal party is entitled to bring a date.  I mean, being in a wedding is time consuming and expensive.  BMs often purchase a dress, shoes, jewelry, etc and also may travel from out of town.  They may throw showers, bach parties, etc.  I think if they are willing to do all of that, they should at least get to spend time with their significant other during your wedding.  Receptions are supposed to be a thank you to your guests.  Telling your BMs that they can't bring dates when they've most likely been doing things for the wedding all along doesn't sound like too good of a thank you to me.  I can't tell if you are inviting their dates or not from your post, but if you're not, you may want to reconsider.

And the situation with your dad inviting people you've never met from work over your friends really does suck.  Unfortunately if he's paying there's probably not a whole lot you can do <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-frown.gif" border="0" alt="Frown" title="Frown" />