Honeymoon or Home fund for Registry

KAValliere

Looking for advice on the best sites to use for a Honeymoon fund registry or a New Home fund registry!

fallbride1109

You won't get very much support here as HM or any type cash registries are generally frowned upon on TK.

That being said, I did mine before I came on TK and we used Traveler's Joy and were very happy with it.  Alot of girls like Honeyfund.  Those are really the only 2 I have ever seen mentioned here.

You could also do a more traditional registry through a site like myregistry.com which also has an option that you can designate for anything--house, honeymoon, etc.  It is best to also create a traditional registry, especially if someone will be hosting a shower for you.  There will always be people that prefer to bring a traditional gift.  The Registries and Gifts board has a great thread with suggestions on what to register for when you can't think of anything.

HTH.

strlzfan11

If you scroll through the first couple pages of either this section or the registering & gifts section you will see that a LOT of people (myself included) find these type of registries to be tacky for various reasons.  All they are is a request or cash, which most people already know to be an acceptable gift.  Most sites take a cut of the gift (up to 8%) for if one of your guests donates $100, you'll only receive $92.  Why would you ask your guests to pay someone else $8 to give you what you wanted in the first place?  Asking for cash in the form of this type of registry is the same as asking your families outright to pay for your wedding.  You just don't do it.

My advice, don't register and tell your friends & family (when asked) that you're saving up for a honeymoon or home.

reese511

i'm using Honey Fund!  GL! 

bellebride116

It's more beneficial to open a checking account and give guests your account & routing numbers... let them save on the fee the honeymoon sites charge them. 

megandjay

My advice is not to do either. But honestly I think the 'new home fund' is worse.

mkrupar

Why have a website take a chunk of money that your guests could have just given you directly? Aunt Bessy may think she's buying you a romantic dinner for two for your HM, but in reality what you're getting is a check, which means you could use that money for anything. This is misleading your guests into thinking they're buying you something specific, but they're not. Not only that, but I don't believe in asking for my friends & family to pay for my vacation, which is essentially what a HM is. They're not mandatory to be married. If you can't afford one right after the money, take one at a later date after you've been able to save. Plenty of people are doing that nowadays.

Oh, and asking people to pay for your home tells me that if you're not responsible enough to buy your own home, you may need to re-think the marriage. That's not saying that there aren't plenty of married people out there living in apartements, but that's because they know they don't have the money to own a home or prefer apartment living at this point in their lives. But, they aren't holding out their hands for friends and family to help them fund their home.

Ginabean2011

Your best (and classiest) way to go is to not do either, not register at all, and have your close friends and family spread the word (if asked) that you are saving up for these things. That way guests are politely encouraged to give you money but your aren't asking for it directly, which looks bad.

kaesha

Neither! Have your family/wp spread the word that cash would be deeply appreciated!

Snippylynn

I've said this before, and I'll say it again:  Having a home fund registry in the depths of a housing crisis, when people are being foreclosed on left and right is insensitive in the extreme.  Beyond the tackiness of asking for a handout for something like this, I can't imagine how bad I would feel as a guest if; while losing MY home, I was asked to help you make a downpayment for YOURS.  Not cool.

mgietler76

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-home-fund-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:b2623b29-103c-4e71-8810-85dae3666306Post:c140d7c3-1409-48f3-84ef-07286a05122c">Re: Honeymoon or Home fund for Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]I've said this before, and I'll say it again:  Having a home fund registry in the depths of a housing crisis, when people are being foreclosed on left and right is insensitive in the extreme.  Beyond the tackiness of asking for a handout for something like this,<strong>I can't imagine how bad I would feel as a guest if; while losing MY home, I was asked to help you make a downpayment for YOURS.</strong>  Not cool.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

If you cannot afford something you do not buy it, it's that simple, really I promise you it is. While I also despise both types of registries I never even thought of the bolded statement! That would be awful indeed. I suggest you listen to PP's and have your WP or close family spread the word as to what you are saving up for.

alithebride

a home fund? you mean you're asking people to donate cash so that you can buy a house? or the HM fund where you're asking your guests to pay for a vacation?
ugh either way. no good.

Galaxy8227

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-home-fund-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:b2623b29-103c-4e71-8810-85dae3666306Post:139d97c4-c31e-4571-ad0d-a0fd3f046833">Re: Honeymoon or Home fund for Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]Neither! Have your family/wp spread the word that cash would be deeply appreciated!
Posted by kaesha[/QUOTE]

This!

jemmini6

I have not registered yet, but I think Honey Fund is one of the few sites that do not charge a fee.  Also, I've heard that some resorts, depending on where you want to honeymoon also have the option for registries. 

My disclaimer on this is to not register for anything you can't afford to buy on your own (that's for every type of registry, not just HM)  However, it is more important for a HM registry because if you get some gifts, but not enough, you should still be able to do everything you originally planned.

MissAngel

Before coming on TK, I would have never thought it tacky or rude to have a Honeymoon Registry... and pp is correct...  Honeyfund does not charge a fee.
I'm not having one, but in my circle, people only give cash...  It's up to you and what is the norm for your circle...

blipsettpr

I have a honeymoon registry and received alot of flack for it on TK. However all of my guests love the idea!!!!

It is fun because you can choose different parts of the trip for people to donate towards.

I am using TravelersJoy.com and highly recommend it.

john&julie

Just out of curiosity, why is it such a big deal to TK users?  If your guests are your nearest and dearest, woudln't they want to give you something you can enjoy?  I would think that a honeymoon registry would be just that.  Otherwise, you are just asking them to stock your kitchen with gadgets and put sheets and towels in your linen closet.  How is it any less tacky?  At the end of the day, the concept of any kind of registy is tacky - you are inviting people to a party, asking them to bring a gift, and specifying what it should be.  So really what difference does it make if you are asking for a blender or a horseback ride in Cozumel?  I can understand the home argument during a housing crisis - totally makes sense (though I have a feeling if you are losing your home, you probably aren't spending money on any present).  And I guess the argument could be made that 'if you can't afford a honeymoon, don't take one" - well, a lot of people do honeymoon registries not for financial gain but because it would be wasteful and tacky (everyone's favorite word) to ask someone to buy stuff for us that we already  have and don't need.  My philosophy is do what's right for you and don't worry about what us strangers think because inevitably someone will find fault in it.

aschmidtboston

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-home-fund-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:b2623b29-103c-4e71-8810-85dae3666306Post:e1816ea9-e001-4e2c-b758-efcd0af81d19">Re: Honeymoon or Home fund for Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]Just out of curiosity, why is it such a big deal to TK users?  If your guests are your nearest and dearest, woudln't they want to give you something you can enjoy?  I would think that a honeymoon registry would be just that.  Otherwise, you are just asking them to stock your kitchen with gadgets and put sheets and towels in your linen closet.  How is it any less tacky?  At the end of the day, the concept of any kind of registy is tacky - you are inviting people to a party, asking them to bring a gift, and specifying what it should be.  So really what difference does it make if you are asking for a blender or a horseback ride in Cozumel?  I can understand the home argument during a housing crisis - totally makes sense (though I have a feeling if you are losing your home, you probably aren't spending money on any present).  And I guess the argument could be made that 'if you can't afford a honeymoon, don't take one" - well, a lot of people do honeymoon registries not for financial gain but because it would be wasteful and tacky (everyone's favorite word) to ask someone to buy stuff for us that we already  have and don't need.  My philosophy is do what's right for you and don't worry about what us strangers think because inevitably someone will find fault in it.
Posted by john&julie[/QUOTE]

i agree, 100%. we are meeting with travel agents soon and we are thinking of doing a HM registry and a regular one, macy's or c&b.